Getting older and loosing patience with people - need advice

mrbell1984 said:
So the younger generations can safely blame the older generations for the mess that the world is in?
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I didn't mention anything like that in my post.

It's pretty obvious though that the education system is outdated but I understand it'd be incredibly difficult to change it without years of work. The culture problem is just due to how everythings gone down the ******* for the past 10+ years.



rz30 said:
Exactly, I did say some good some bad experiences were had. Point was though that you live in a very structured, confined world for 13 years while at school, so your going to have some kind of reaction when you leave and are given apparent freedoms.
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I realize it can be a shock. I left school when I was just 15 and it's a huge change but I don't blame that sudden change for a lot of the kids attitudes these days. Schools are too lax.
 
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Being a live in land lord is hard whatever. I agree that you can't really ban people from the house, but I have wanted to do the same with my place.

I have asked my lodger to leave. Sounds like you might need to do the same and see how you feel after a while.
 
I never, and nor did anyone I know, ever start looking for somewhere to live in January when I was in student accommodation. Just kick them out at the end of their contract and deny ever making a verbal one. Though, prepare for a potential poo storm.

Though, you claiming someone can't come round is totally out of order. They are tenants, they aren't there for free. Providing they abide by the rules in the lease then you can't dictate who their friends are and who comes round.
 
I read these comments with great interest, as im aware I sound 'off' in my post, but writing during a time of anger will do that to you.

I asked people there age as I want people with life experience to comment, its tricky, as Im aware of someone I know there age, yet there the most inspirational person iv met in years, totally have there head screwed on, I ask peoples opinions as im aware im 'abit lost' myself with things.

I guess with the idiot person, at the end of the day, they have been an idiot to me, thus its obvious I dont want there company in the house if there here, I could be pedantic and point out the contract does indeed state 'people in the house and the house are to be treated with mutual respect' .....well its something like that, basically saying dont be a tool, which he is. Or not be like that and try and ignore, either way its tricky.

Worst things happen at sea, and this particular incident itself isnt a big deal, the big issue is the thought of kicking them out and living a different style of life.
 
They are well behaved, tidy and they clean up after themselves, this makes them the perfect lodgers if you ask me. Keep them as lodgers and not friends.
 
I'd say you need to ask them how they feel about the current situation. They might be feeling resentful of behalf of their (not there :D) friend, and might no longer wish to extend their stay.

As you get older you will inevitably distance yourself from attitudes of people that are younger. This doesn't mean to say that either party is right or wrong, just that opinions might differ. As long as they are good tenants I would say that you should mention that to them, and explain the reasons for your actions and attitudes. You are not going to be best friends with everyone in your life all the time.

Whatever you do you will have to live with it, so make a logical decision if you can, it will stand the test of time more than an emotional one.
 
Gepetto said:
I'd say you need to ask them how they feel about the current situation. They might be feeling resentful of behalf of their (not there :D) friend, and might no longer wish to extend their stay.

As you get older you will inevitably distance yourself from attitudes of people that are younger. This doesn't mean to say that either party is right or wrong, just that opinions might differ. As long as they are good tenants I would say that you should mention that to them, and explain the reasons for your actions and attitudes. You are not going to be best friends with everyone in your life all the time.

Whatever you do you will have to live with it, so make a logical decision if you can, it will stand the test of time more than an emotional one.
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Thanks for the words. Yeah they defo want to stay, I think its mostly because there paying a VERY VERY fair price, for an excellent house. Now of course it's hardly buckingham palace but for students it's very very good (they pay £220 a month inc water), the house is nicely furnished and is what any 30 + year old wouldnt mind living in.

True they are good tennants, rent wise and paying bills and being fairly quite and getting on with things, that's why its so hard.

The logical decision thing is weirdly part of the problem, im a 'call a spade a spade' sort of person, while the main 'problem person' is a person who has openly admitted themselves that they like to argue for arguings sake, even if there arguing against something they personally believe it :confused:

So while the physical living standards are the best you can ever expect from living with someone, there quiet smugness and general taxing behavior is my main dislike.
 
They're young so will by default be annoying, smug and irrationally confident in their own intelligence and abilities. If you can't face the thought of another year then don't offer them a new contract; if you can then do.
 
I'm 41 and have grown more patient with my family but a lot less tolerant of ignorant stupidity from others. I empathise.

I thought it was perhaps a 'generational' thing..I just didn't understand today's 'yoof'. That is certainly part of it but I've also realised that I've become tired of putting up with the stuff I used to put up with.
 
ExRayTed said:
I'm 41 and have grown more patient with my family but a lot less tolerant of ignorant stupidity from others. I empathise.

I thought it was perhaps a 'generational' thing..I just didn't understand today's 'yoof'. That is certainly part of it but I've also realised that I've become tired of putting up with the stuff I used to put up with.
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Thank's, glad im not the only one.

It's a fine line between, am I just being a **** or is it; you know what, I don't have to put up with this **** do I ? after all we live once, why should my quality of life be lower? lol
 
ExRayTed said:
I'm 41 and have grown more patient with my family but a lot less tolerant of ignorant stupidity from others. I empathise.

I thought it was perhaps a 'generational' thing..I just didn't understand today's 'yoof'. That is certainly part of it but I've also realised that I've become tired of putting up with the stuff I used to put up with.
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This... Really... Hammer... Nail... Head...

You get to a point where you get comfortable enough in your own skin that you don't have to put up with or humour the sort of stuff you might have before. On the bright side, you get to a point where family comes first, second and third, followed by real, close, friends (not the "I've 400 friends on facebook" type) and the rest of the world is waaaaaaaaaay down the list.

One of the few benefits of getting older is reaching the conclusion you don't give a **** what random other people think and you get to be "a grumpy old man".

You end up with looking at a cross between Tony Soprano and Jeremy Clarkson as role models!!! Most fun I've had in a long time :D :)
 
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