Getting older and loosing patience with people - need advice

ExRayTed said:
I'm 41 and have grown more patient with my family but a lot less tolerant of ignorant stupidity from others. I empathise.

I thought it was perhaps a 'generational' thing..I just didn't understand today's 'yoof'. That is certainly part of it but I've also realised that I've become tired of putting up with the stuff I used to put up with.
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Apart from being 39 and not 41 you've just described me.
 
[FnG]magnolia;21593028 said:
I'd kick your lily white ass and then make sweet, sweet love to you.

e : for clarity, yes this is an offer. Call me.
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Because of the second part of the offer, I'll let you complete the first part......;)
 
Combat squirrel said:
Hey all, I've got to ask, does getting older involve your patience wearing thinner with people?
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My short answer to you question is I've found as I've got older I've become more chilled and patient with people. I rarely let people get the better of me. I'm not saying people haven't in the past but i have a tendency to let people have their beef and let them get on with it..

I can't give you a long answer to your question..... I'm far too impatient.. :p
 
oh this brings back bad memories. Last time I rented with live-in landlord I had to get permission every single time a friend or gf wanted visit. That got boring very quickly.
 
Not entirely relevant but I used to rent out a room and had a couple of really nice people through and a real a hole. Eventually I figured I'd rather be a bit poorer and be alone. Then I got married :eek:

My patience is paper thin at 28

Keep the tenants!
 
I used to be very patient when I was younger (I am 30 now) but as I have gotten older and certainly within the last 2-3 years that patience has pretty much vanished though it does depend on the circumstances.

Generally speaking I "don't suffer fools gladly" as they say come to think of it I don't suffer them at all. The other thing that really gets my blood boiling is when I explain things to people in simple and straight forward terms that are based in logic and common sense and yet they still ignore it when it is clearly the best thing to do and even a blind man could see it (my brother in law is an example of this so don't get me started).

OP you said there is a person who likes arguing for the sake of arguing well if I was you then I would be telling said person either you pack that **** in right now or you can leave. Imho people who argue just because they get kicks out of it need a royal kicking and then some.

Damn I am a grumpy old man and I am only 30! [insert multiple facepalm jpg here]

Stoner81.
 
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Combat squirrel said:
Hey all, I've got to ask, does getting older involve your patience wearing thinner with people?
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Often, yes, although I think differences in ages are often a bigger factor...

(im only 29 but have a few years on them)
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Which leads me to a question for you - is your patience wearing thinner with other people of a similar age and in similar circumstances to you?

In other words, is your patience wearing thinner in general or specifically with people who you no longer have much in common with? 10 years might not sound all that much, but there's very often quite a difference between 19 and 29. Or even less. How many people here have a slightly younger sibling? Maybe only a few years difference. How many of you quite often found their younger sibling irritating when you were, say, 14 and they were, say, 11?

Add the difference in circumstances (student/landlord) to the difference in age and it can add up to quite a difference.

fed up of continuing to tolerate idiots in the world, why should people have to ?
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It's necessary for society to function. Besides, many people were idiots themselves. I was when I was an adolescent and young adult. If I met my younger self, I think my reaction would be along the lines of "You're talking drivel, you annoying git, and you're acting like an idiot. Shut up. You don't know a quarter of what you think you know."

ANYWAYS to conclude with a dilemma, they asked ages ago if they could continue living here next year, I said yeah (before things went downhill), but now im seriously thinking it's the time in my life to start living on my own, I'd like to have 2 spare rooms and the house truly to myself, even though it will cost abit more to live.
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So they'd be an irritation to you anyway, regardless of other circumstances.

Ironically, im on the fence, one part of me says I never hear off people who have left the house previously, bar one or 2 of them, so sod them, life is hard (they pay below rate rent as well for a VERY nice house).........or try and bite my tongue and put up with the new age idiots for a year longer?
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Perhaps you could try to come to an understanding with them. Maybe it would work if you talk reasonably with them, say that you'd like to stop renting rooms in your home, to have to your home to yourself (i.e. phrase it as your decision about your own life, not as you wanting to get rid of them personally) and that you'd appreciate it if they could find somewhere else to rent for the next academic year. If they really can't, you'll honour your existing agreement with them, but you'd really like to have your home to yourself after the end of this academic year. It sounds like you've always rented rooms to students. If so, tell them that and tell them you want a change, you want to have your own home for yourself for a change. Make it about you, not about them.
 
ExRayTed said:
I'm 41 and have grown more patient with my family but a lot less tolerant of ignorant stupidity from others. I empathise.

I thought it was perhaps a 'generational' thing..I just didn't understand today's 'yoof'. That is certainly part of it but I've also realised that I've become tired of putting up with the stuff I used to put up with.
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I'm 43 and I could say the same thing.

Many of the people I work with are under half my age and I like almost all of them, but I don't really fit in with them on the whole. That's the generational thing. They like to go out drinking and dancing and all that. I'd rather have a mug of tea and read a book. They live on Facebook. I've never even wanted to use it. Horses for courses.
 
99% of humanity is made up of idiots or a-holes or both. It really is. As others have said, people generally get more and more sympathetic towards their own family but less and less toward the general public or anyone else.

I mean, I've had to deal with approx. 20-odd estate agents, landlords, plumbers etc. over the last 3 months while our flat is being viewed and we are moving out and every. single. one. of them has been a complete jerk to us at some point. Every one. 20 out of 20. And it just seems to get worse every year. I wonder because if I treated my customers and clients like that I'd be out of business in a snap.

Anyway, don't feel bad about it. The world is full of *****. I've learned that most of the time there is absolutely no point in assuming that a person you've never met before is going to be nice and respectful. I've found that pretty much everyone I deal with in my life outside my family starts off by being a tard. So why bother going to the effort only to have to backtrack later and get nasty when they start trying to screw you over? I think it's best just to lay down the law right at the start and let people know that you take no S.
 
34 years old and I don't tolerate fools at all any more, I use to give them a lot of leeway when I was younger thinking they would change or be different if I got to know them but rarely have I found that to be the case, actually, I can't even remember when I met an idiot/fool that has changed into a decent person at a later date, some have been tempered by time and children etc but they still have that 'streak' in them.
 
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