Girlfriend doesn't want me to work as a doorman?

Castiel said:
Obviously an Endoparasitoid Xenomorph......:p
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I thought they burst out quicker than 3 months ... my money is on some exsanguinating escaped ebola carrier or TB.

As to the OP well I think she has a point to be honest and trust is earned although should ideally be freely given.
 
Delta12 said:
listen to your G/F its a rotten way to make a living.
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That's not what she said, read it again.



Everyone I've seen & in my personal experience that has a controlling nature by telling you that "You can't do something because I don't trust you around the other sex" is a crackjob, insecure and doesn't trust you (quite obviously),

You can't let them tell you what you can't do in these situations, you're just giving yourself up for more hassle in the future once they know their limitations of controls. She isn't concerned about your welfare but just her own, you never mentioned she was worried you'd get hurt? That's a very selective thing to miss out when you post on a forum if she did.

Otherwise, if she doesn't trust you, what do you think will?
Yeah, exactly, you'll forever be in a position where whenever "hot girls" are involved. she won't trust you alone and the only thing you can do to prove it is to just, well.... do it and show her.

But I guess with people like this they expect a relationship to go on forever and try to control it because subconciously they know it won't always last forever and doesn't want anything that can potentially interfere with her image of what can.

PS. Dare you to tell her not to do something where she's around guys (if ever) alone just out of curiosity to see the reaction.
I bet a trillion internet credits she'd defend herself and blame you.
 
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The Funktopus said:
Christ on a bike! How hard did he spit!?

Hockkkkkk-douken!
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lmfao.... That's brilliant.... Seriously though what ever bacteria got him almost killed him



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Actually that comment has had me wetting myself for a good few minutes now, thank you
 
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Marky said:
Seriously is it really that easy as a bouncer to get with the drunk girls? I never see it happen ever, and most people I know hate Bouncers and wouldn't touch them :p

I could understand it if you were going to be some sort of Male Stripper, but being a Bouncer? I don't geddit :p
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they are sober and taking advantage of drunk girls , of course its easy !
 
Buchanan0204 said:
I'm thinking of doing my SIA course and becoming a doorman, just for the extra income really and a bit of security ;) Excuse the terrible pun.

However, she's not so keen on the idea and doesn't want me hanging around drunk girls all night.

I can see her point, but then she should see mine. I'm not going to cheat on her or have any intentions of doing so.

If the roles were reversed. I'd be a little edgy, but I'd soon get over it as I know she wouldn't do anything like that to me, like I wouldn't do to her.

So... what would you do if it was you?
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if you cant trust someone, its because you cant trust yourself. if she wanted you to be happy she would be fine with it.
 
if your doing it just for the money there are other alternatives for money.
true you can earn an extra hundred quid for a nights work etc but you could also end up being injured over the years ive been bottled and hit with stilletos, had nose and cheek broken. 8 stitches in an eye and broken a few fingers and ribs etc so decide what you want from it

if your girlfriend doesnt trust you then thats not a good basis anyway

wont hurt to do the course to get an sia licence as a back up in anycase
allthought the licence is just an excuse to tax people imo. and there a lot of people holding licences who can not work doors to save there lives.

tbh ive been working doors since 1987 and seen it all over the years. so there are good points and bad points. but dont let anyone tell you not to do something make your own mind up

i do it for the fun nowdays not my main job but ofc the extra cash helps with the toys etc..
 
You can love someone and trust them unconditionally but it's not a bad thing to be on your toes occasionally. Too much trust is just as bad as too little in my opinion. Complacency can be taken for granted which can lead to opportunity so it doesn't hurt to occasionally observe and voice an opinion that actually, although you love and trust that person, you wouldn't want a situation evolve. It's not a reflection on either person only that they really do care. Of course there's a line in the sand between caring and distrusting altogether.

Although only a TV drama, if anyone saw "The Syndicate" last night, there's a prime example of this and how a wife just wanted her husband to put his foot down occasionally.

I know my wife would say the same thing and although we've had ups and downs, after 20 years together we must be doing something right.
 
Spit said:
She's probably been on mums net about it!
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It feels like this sort of questions should be there too.

Seriously though, how do people who post such queries here get by on daily basis? Problem solving is one of the most important skills in life, decision making is another one.

I suggests OP posts this to /b/, they would be much more helpful in this case.
 
I can fully understand her POV regarding girls, and there's also the danger axspect. You need to be aware that at any point you could be a target. Knife, bottle, gun... If I were in her shoes it is something I'd rather leave you over.
 
i wouldnt do it pretty poor pay dealling with idiots who are drunk or high as a kite wanting to fight you .

i have friends who are bouncers my father in law was a bouncer for many years at numerous places and some were stabbed nearly killed .

people dont care how big bad you are now they will if prompted gladly attack you .

find a better occupation or just take the job and ride some hoes :p
 
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