Giving my sister a lift home daily - am I right to find it annoying?

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Pretty much every day I pick my sister up from a train station thats a 25 minute walk away. I work at home so I'm here anyway, and it takes about 15/20 minutes for me to drive down there and pick her up - occasionally I drop her friend off home too, who's a 5 minute detour away.

But every time she phones I feel angry in a "Just freakin' leave me alone" kind of way - I wish she would just walk home! And if I'm so much as 1 minute late, she's phoning me to make sure I'm on my way. Sometimes she phones before she's even at the station to make sure I've left. If it were a rainy day then fine, but she never walks home without seeing if she can get a lift from me first.

I can't decide if it'd be wrong for me to ask her to start walking home. I mean, she is my sister, but when I went to college I had a 25 to 60 minute walk home daily, depending on which train I managed to catch, and I didn't phone people up for lifts all the time!

Kind of a pointless post now I come to think of it, but am I wrong to be annoyed by this? Would it be harsh for me to stop giving her a lift every day, or is just "expecting" to get a lift daily wrong on her end?

Maybe I'm turning into a grumpy old man.. :p
 
Just set it out to her like you have done here. Its also costing you (unless she already contributes to the petrol and maintenance) so that might be some leverage...
 
It depends on your sisters attitude towards you. If she's very greatful and she does things in return for you, then it should be ok as "the balance" is restored. But if she's ungrateful and does nothing for you, it maybe time to start asking her for backpay!
 
With my brothers, ive always been a one for 'if i had to do it, so do you'. 25 minute walk is nothing mate. Just tell her she needs to start walking home a few days a week or something as its costing you a lot for petrol etc.
 
Tell her you're busy and she should get the bus. To be honest, I'm finding it hard as I honestly wouldn't mind (but then me and my sister get on really well), however, if she is taking your for granted and not giving you anything in return tell her to find an alternative.
 
furnace said:
Nope, hasn't even mentioned the idea of it
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I'd start mentioning it if i were you... nothing extortionate though. Remember you have the leverage, but don't start taking it too far to the point where you're making her get your pipe and slippers and a cocktail with a little umbrella in, every hour of the day.
 
furnace said:
Nope, hasn't even mentioned the idea of it
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Just tell her she has to start paying you petrol money and work out how much its costing you, then maybe add a couple of £.

She might decide she'd rather walk as soon as she has to pay...
 
Efour2 said:
Punch her right in the ovaries until she folds over like a 2 dollar whore.
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I like that. Sounds like a punchline. Oh wait it is about punching... :p

OP your sister needs to give you a bit of money or offer to buy petrol.
 
Arrange to be out one night at the time she expects her lift, tell her you won't be able to pick her up and judge her reaction.

She will either be "Oh ok thanks for letting me know, I'll walk" or she'll kick up a right fuss in which case you know you are being taken for granted and you can tell her that picking her up isn't your job, you do it out of the goodness of your heart and her attitude has just caused that goodwill to dry up and she can ruddy well walk from now on. Problem solved.

:D
 
What if she got attacked when she walked home one day? You'd feel preeeeetty **** if it happened.

Ask her for some petrol money.
 
If its taking you 15 - 20 mins to drive down there (and then the same time back) yet it only takes 25 mins to walk back then theres not much time difference in her walking or sitting in the car next to you.

Why dont you suggest to her that you will pick her up say 2 or 3 times a week and she walks the other times.

And I definitely would ask for petrol money, if it was a one off once in a while (like I took my Mum to the train station recently, which was a longer route home for me) then id do it for free, but not all the time like you seem to be.
She does sound like shes taking the mick a bit.
 
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