Got myself in a rut...advice on how to get out? (anxiety related)

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I don't want to sound negative at all but...

If you are in such a rut and you are having trouble getting out of it and you have an anxiety issue then I think you are trying to do too much Drossla.

It's very easy to set yourself all those goals, it's not so easy to follow them through and once you slip with them (which you will, it's a big lifestyle change and life gets in the way sometimes), it'll seem like far too big a hill to climb again and you will stop.

Rather than set yourself a huge task and say I'll start it from THIS DATE (several weeks away from now when it seems bearable), do one or two small easily managable tasks and start them from tomorrow, or even today.

Go for a walk...watch less TV...read more...go to bed early...just pick a couple of those simple things and build up as you go along.

I know where you are coming from, and it's a typical guy attitude - problem -> solution, apart from it doesn't work that way and if you fail you will feel worse for it and less motivated next time you want to do anything.

This cartoon illustrates things quite well, it's not your situation exactly but it's certainly related.

I think it's a good idea to update your first post, but start it from tomorrow.

Good luck!
 
What is your degree?

Stop drinking caffeine and try drinking a few cups of rooibos tea a day. It's a natural relaxant and calms anxiety. Can't hurt taking some omega-3 fish oil either.
 
If u would normally be asleep for 8 hrs, then 8hrs it is. Especially if u start to exercise something you have not done before you will need your sleep. Sleep is definitely connected to mental health (i.e. anxiety). So if u set a goal to get up at a certain time then u have already set your goal to bed time.

I just watched a program on cannibis, and tbh I would take that rather than anything the doctor would prescribe if it was the only option.

Like was said before though u don't need a crutch, maybe an inspirational book. I've read the motivational books - their techniques seem obvious.
 
Your burning sensation is likely Cholinergic Urticaria. It can be brought on by a lot of things, one being a natural rise in temperature and sudden surge of anxiety. It results in becoming very hot very quickly, and often very itchy at the same time. It's not uncommon, but there's no remedy and a lot of doctors aren't familiar with the condition. Physical Urticaria is typically listed as also presenting a rash, however most people have a much lesser form of it, Cholinergic Urticaria, which simply results in the sudden rise in temperature/itchiness and perhaps some redness with no visible rash.
 
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Inspirational books depend on your reading level. You can go from fairly easy reading such as Lance Armstrong and co through to some of the heavier stuff; Martin Luther King Jr speeches, Kahil Gibrans "The Prophet", etc.

To be honest, just *Read* - dont worry too much about perceptions, self or outside. I particularly enjoy reading Bill Bryson books, not the most challenging compared to my last book (Dante Alligheri's "Divine Comedy", took me 6 months to read!) but its entertaining and keeps you busy, as well as giving you some entertainment :)

Also, get outside and get some (whatever you can) sunlight on you man. If it helps go with a friend or get a dog or something and just do something, being cooped up is never good.
 
PS: I used to get hives quite often (Cholinergic Urticaria, as previously posted) - the thing that stopped it happening for me was exercise. Since playing football 3 times a week and walking a lot i've not had it now in 4 years, whereas before that everytime I walked somewhere when it was particularly cold outside, When i got to my destination I had that sodding rash on my chest.

Chin up sir!
 
I'm not presuming you are, but if you are smoking dope, quit that.

Sport and being outside are a good idea - I run and find it an incredibly good way to relieve tension.
 
I would definately say that everything on the list is an excellent idea, if I was you I would increase your exercise to 1hr per day though, and the greatest benefit will be achieved not just by getting a sweat up but working yourself really hard, almost to the point where its painful. This will stimulate the greatest release of positive hormones.

Good luck mate, your not the only one out there in this situation and its nice to see someone trying to turn it around for themselves, thats the first and biggest step

Hawker
 
Get yourself a camera, start going for walks and take pictures on the way. This way you’ll get exercise, develop an interest and get to see lots of things. It’s a great relaxation therapy. Try it.
 
If you're struggling to get a job, Drossla, is there some way you can feel useful / busy while you keep looking? Like volunteering for a local charity, or church group, something like that? It might seem a bit 'square', but such outfits tend to rely on volunteer help and always need an extra pair of hands.
 
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- Spend 25 mins a day reading a book. Ideally inspirational ones (would love to hear recommendations)
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Try "Yes Man" and "How to Win Friends and Influence People".

When setting goals, make sure that they have tangible outcomes that you can measure and measure your progress against.

Working out twice a week with a goal to being able to lift a certain amount of weight, or run a certain distance in a certain amount of time is much better better than saying to yourself "do more exercise". :)
 
Sorry guys, this is a very borderline subject and I'm going to close this. OP, seek professional help rather than asking on here in future please.
 
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