Housemate advice

Jasoncmor said:
Its possible, but the litter in his room has been building up for 6+ months, and the problem is for me, I do feel somewhat that I should be looking out for him.
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I'd just get the gloves on and clean his room.

When he comes back from his time away, sit down and have a proper chat with him. That'll probably help a lot if he is in a bad place.
 
Don't just leave it like that, throw it all away and give him notice to leave.
 
Feek said:
Don't just leave it like that, throw it all away and give him notice to leave.
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Yeh pretty much this.

Or if you want to be slightly less harsh (whihc it seems from this thread that you do), tell him what you have done and if he doesn't clean himself up and start washing, then you will serve notice on him, no more chances, no more "quiet words".
You are not looking after a man baby, he needs to grow up.
 
Start pooping in his room and tell him that unless he starts acting in a civilised manner you will continue to use his room as the toilet.
 
Jasoncmor said:
Its possible, but the litter in his room has been building up for 6+ months, and the problem is for me, I do feel somewhat that I should be looking out for him.
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While technically violating his privacy I think screw it, it is a health issue for the whole house, can attract rodents etc... you could perhaps get the landlord round to have a look then when he gets back you can tell him that the landlord came around and wasn't happy so you guys had to go in there and clear out some of the rubbish... Obvs you don't need to tidy up the room etc.. but I think you're perfectly entitled to remove pizza boxes, takeaway containers etc...
 
I fancy boys said:
The only real problems I'm hearing are the smoking and the bills. All the other stuff is irrelevant really; if that's how he chooses to live his life then so be it.

Just have a more serious chat with all of you present. Be polite, but firm about the smoking and bills. Then if it happens again, contact the landlord. Can't really be fairer than that.
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You don't have any issues with him not washing clothes / bedding in 8 months?

he could easily have fleas and spread them throughout the house.
 
Psycho Sonny said:
You don't have any issues with him not washing clothes / bedding in 8 months?

he could easily have fleas and spread them throughout the house.
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Yeah I think he's talking twaddle. If you have to put up living with a slob, you take action to remedy that. Tell him to sort his life out or he needs to look for a new home.
 
He’s clearly got serious issues if his room is filled with rubbish.

Tidy it up for him and sit him down when he’s back. The first thing I’d ask is “are you ok?”. Then be stern.
 
Cheers for all your replies guys, there is some very helpful stuff here.
I have decided to lay off him, for now, as he has only just buried his dad this week, so will be quite sensitive, but I have a plan or 2 which will hopefully give him a well needed nudge in the right direction.
 
Poo through his letterbo...oh, wait :)

If he hasn't washed his clothes or bedding for 8 months, my first throught is that he's mentally ill, probably depressed. I think it would be worth asking on a forum better suited to that.
 
So small update, and not a good one.
The person who was supposed to be moving in to replace this guy unfortunately didn't in the end, their circumstances made them unsure and so with time running out, I had a chat with the guy and said to him, in essence that some things had to change in particular with things being cleaned, paying bills on time etc.
The bills situation has been fine, i'm not sure that i mentioned previously in this thread, but this guy spent all his money and couldn't afford the rent a couple of months ago, and some of the bills, so that put us in a difficult situation, he sorted it last minute, but we had to put our money into the bank to avoid overdraft charges, as the rent goes out as one payment.

I've spoken to him multiple times and it always seems to be talking to a brick wall, I just get "yes" "i agree" "i know i need to sort this" etc, and nothing ever changes.

So, we have a joint tenancy agreement, and from my understanding we are all responsible for the property so that's the main reason I haven't gone to the landlord yet as i fear that he may just turn around and say you all need to get out because we are all in the house together.

Whilst I have kept reminding him about the days the rubbish and recycling goes out, and left rubbish bags outside his door I haven't said outright that i've peeked inside his room and seen the mess, as I really don't know how he is gonna take it, I really am at a loss :(

Anyway, someone mentioned about photos, so i took some, which I will also have for the record if needed.
He's currently away again so I really want to decide on how to deal with this now.











 
can't pay his bills but has hundreds of pounds of takeout packaging on his floor... not to mention the costs of his PC bits

Sorry, I'd be looking at getting him out asap. He's like my 2 younger brothers, rotting away playing pc games day in and day out.

I wouldn't take any excuses and I'd be looking at splitting the bills between the remaining residents until he's replaced.
 
That is pretty horrific.

Jasoncmor said:
So, we have a joint tenancy agreement, and from my understanding we are all responsible for the property so that's the main reason I haven't gone to the landlord yet as i fear that he may just turn around and say you all need to get out because we are all in the house together.
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I personally would take this option. Get a new place and leave him behind...
 
******* hell, just move without telling him or boot him out the house.

This is what happens when people are too nice and enable **** like this.

In before someone says its a mental health thing and you should be more understanding
 
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