Housemate advice

I see it like they both to blame, just for seperate things, if that makes sense. Its early, the coffee hasn't kicked in and I shouldn't be posting really :p
 
AndyCr15 said:
Self inflicted? How so?

It's one thing to not deal with, but I don't think that equates to self inflicted?
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Have you read any of this thread? He had the opportunity to get rid of him, and decided to sign another year's contract, and then comes back here crying he is still a problem
 
Jasoncmor said:
because i'm a "nice guy" i just rathered kept the peace and let him deal with it

I am a nice guy by nature which sometimes really does annoy me because it means I can avoid situations like these

i didn't want to make things awkward, or cause some kind of situation
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You'll realise one day this isn't because you're a 'nice guy'. It's because you're afraid of confrontation and so you get walked over. The nice guy thing is just a half arsed label so you don't feel bad about it.

The sooner you realise that 'being nice' is not the same thing as avoiding confrontation and start standing up for yourself a bit more the better off you'll be.
 
Why don't you clean out his room while he's away and tell him you expect it to be as tidy as you left it in 3 months or you'll have to get the landlord involved?
 
iamdjdz said:
Why don't you clean out his room while he's away and tell him you expect it to be as tidy as you left it in 3 months or you'll have to get the landlord involved?
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That's the worst of all worlds, OP will have to do loads of work and still be putting up with the slob in 3 months' time.
 
AndyCr15 said:
I get that. What proportion of blame would you assign to the housemate and what to the OP? I would go 80 20 at most.
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It's definitely not ops fault he is a filthy slob, but I am sure the landlord did not turn up with a shotgun and force op to live in the house for another year, he could find somewhere else to live
 
Jasoncmor said:
I haven't directly said to him, I've seen the mess in your room you need to sort it
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Frankly with half the **** literally falling out of the room, how on earth do you guys not spot this whenever he opens his door?

I know you said he rarely leaves his room, but a) he's gotta use the toilet/get showered, and b) he's gotta answer the front door for his takeaways.

My flatmates at uni never used to want to help empty the bins either, in the end it used to just get piled up near the front door outside one of their bedroom doors. Thankfully i was the other end of the corridor so the smell and flies never reached down my end.
 
This reminded me of my old house mates.

Whole place was a tip when moved in but cheap. Cleaned it out for them even resealed and fitted new shower fittings for the ones that rusted through.

Went back in a state after a day or 2, it's like they saw more room available to empty crap in their room to the rest of place.

Landlord was very accepting of their problems and was going to sell up anyways. He even offered me rent back and compensation before moving out.

Some people will never change either put up, find a way to get them evicted or move out :(
 
d_brennen said:
If he were living with me, he'd return to find his stuff boxed and ready to move out. Rubbish and all
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You wouldn't even need to source boxes, just squash everything down to the height of a deep pan meat feast and you're laughing.

What odds would I get on the next update being :

"I've had a joint meeting with the flat mate and landlord and good news! We've extended our tenancy for another 5 years! The only downside is that I had a peek in his room the other day and he seems to have 40-50 un-caged ferrets living in there, I spotted them roaming among the takeaway boxes. Any advice on how I fix this"
 
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