How old are you and how often do you see your parents?

Scam · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:43

This is obviously a question for those who don't live with their parents still!

Just wondering. I live about 1.5hrs on the train away from my mum and foolishly let slip that I've started summer working hours at work, whereas I get every other Friday off (it's pretty sweet!). As soon as I told her on the phone I kicked myself.. because I know she would try to see me. She only works part time so gets a fair amount of time off (well, in comparison to me!).

So only about 4 weeks after we last met up for her birthday, she's off work for a week and is asking to come up and see me on that Friday as she knows it's my day off. Thing is, I've got stuff to do. Everyone that works a full week knows there's no time to get your chores done, do your personal admin stuff, between seeing friends and socialising. I'm 30 years old, I work hard and want some downtime!

Am I the only one that is constantly putting this off? She's always asking for us to go see her at the weekends, but we don't want to give up a whole weekend to sit around the house in my hometown with nothing to do apart from maybe go out for a meal! :confused:

If we go for a day, or meet halfway for lunch she'll be complaining that she hardly sees me and we must stay over next time etc.. Argh! Whatever we do is not enough.

Am I alone, am I silly to moan about this? My girlfriend's parents live up north and she only sees them every 3-4 months and they would never ask her to come visit, even for birthdays etc. :confused:

Sorry for the rant

Captain · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:46

Go and see your mum, you only get one.

Begbie · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:46

Two or three times a year, sometimes once.

I normally just go back home to visit my nephew/old friends.

tom_e · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:47

26 and normally go back and see the family 2-3 times a year, hoping to make it a little bit more once I don't have to rely on the trains.

kiteloopy · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:51

28. Once a month or so, maybe more if im doing nowt on a weekend.

SilverTongue · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:52

26 and see them 3 maybe for times a year, but then they live in Somerset plus there is also going and seeing the in-laws in South Wales as well.

Though we are moving to South Wales in just over a week so will be able to see both more often.

I suppose it all depends on how close a relationship you have with your parents, both me and my wife are close to our parents so feel bad that we don't see them more often.

JoeF1 · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:52

27 & once a week.

Indie · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:53

Everybody's parents are different I guess. We are 27/28

I see mine pretty regular as they often look after our dogs when we both work late... Adding to that we only live 10 minutes drive away so we really aren't in the same situation.

Though, I do get asked to go to family/friends events quite often and its not always convenient. My partner and I don't get much downtime either as we both compete in sports, which takes up most weekends and some nights during the week.

So yeah, it can be an inconvenience at times but I normally just go to keep the peace regardless.

On the plus side, if we ever go out or do anything with my parents they always insist on paying. To the point where if we don't give in things end up like Mrs Doyle and her friend....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pk3ds-VFKBs

Cosimo · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:54

Mine are dead now but when they were alive I used to try and see them once a week. See them as much as you can because on day you might regret not having done so.

G-MAN2004 · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:54

24. Up until recently it was every 2 or 3 weeks. They've broken up recently though and both moved away, so it's been a bit harder with times and stuff.

Xordium · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:54

I'm in my 40s and see them twice a week go back a few years though and sometimes it was over a year. There are no hard and fast rules normally what life dictates to you etc.

planty · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:57

A mother that loves you and wants to spend time with you? Pass me my violin.

CREATIVE!11 · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:59

27,

Once a year (probably none this year as i'm skipping Xmas), skype my dad more often though because he's ok.

Kronos · 19 Jun 2015 at 12:59

61, and have not seen either of them for 30+ years. No idea if my father is even alive. I think my mother is but we never ever got on and I am unlikely to shed a tear if she is not.

Feef · 19 Jun 2015 at 13:00

28, and once a year, if that - my Mum's been over to visit twice since I've been here, but logistics, cost etc. Hopefully more once we move back to Europe.

Nazbit · 19 Jun 2015 at 13:03

26 Once a week usually, sometimes once a fortnight.

Burnsy2023 · 19 Jun 2015 at 13:03

I'm 28 and not had contact in the last 12 years.

MookJong · 19 Jun 2015 at 13:04

35 - On average once a week to once a fortnight depending on what is going on.

It is likely your mum just loves you and realises her own mortality, she wants to see her son, pretty easy to understand.

Why don't you do face time / Skype calls with your mum OP, this is what I do if I am travelling and it's been a few weeks etc.

Martynt74 · 19 Jun 2015 at 13:05

29 and usually once a month at least. I'd say I emailed both parents most days though and speak on the phone at least once a week.

ElliottJames · 19 Jun 2015 at 13:06

Young enough and once a week to get my AMEX paid of.