How old are you and how often do you see your parents?

[The IPB]

29 - twice a week or more, I love my parents and I like spending time with them, me and my Dad go out cycling together and he likes getting involved in DIY projects, they love seeing the grandkids so we see them whenever we can.

My wife's parents I see usually on a Sunday but she see's her mum often during the week.

 

[wilber]

32 - I see my Parents and my 98 year old grandmother every Single Day.

 

[Creature]

28. Until recently it was about once every other month seeing them. Now it's a bit harder because I work most weekends. They're both looking to retire next year so hopefully it becomes a little bit more frequent.

 

[blues_r_best]

28 - See Mum about 5 days a week and Dad about 2/3 times a week.

 

[Thekwango]

every. single. damn. day!

my dad works in the same place as me and I only live 2min drive from them, my mother goes out walking most evenings and ends up at ours

I jest with the face. it used to drive me bonkers but as I've aged a bit (be 40 this year) I've begun to realise that I should be grateful, both my parents are into their 70's now. as someone previous posted, you never know when they'll not be here and that will be a worse situation

 

[subbytna]

This is obviously a question for those who don't live with their parents still!

Just wondering. I live about 1.5hrs on the train away from my mum and foolishly let slip that I've started summer working hours at work, whereas I get every other Friday off (it's pretty sweet!). As soon as I told her on the phone I kicked myself.. because I know she would try to see me. She only works part time so gets a fair amount of time off (well, in comparison to me!).

So only about 4 weeks after we last met up for her birthday, she's off work for a week and is asking to come up and see me on that Friday as she knows it's my day off. Thing is, I've got stuff to do. Everyone that works a full week knows there's no time to get your chores done, do your personal admin stuff, between seeing friends and socialising. I'm 30 years old, I work hard and want some downtime!

Am I the only one that is constantly putting this off? She's always asking for us to go see her at the weekends, but we don't want to give up a whole weekend to sit around the house in my hometown with nothing to do apart from maybe go out for a meal! If we go for a day, or meet halfway for lunch she'll be complaining that she hardly sees me and we must stay over next time etc.. Argh! Whatever we do is not enough.

Am I alone, am I silly to moan about this? My girlfriend's parents live up north and she only sees them every 3-4 months and they would never ask her to come visit, even for birthdays etc.

Sorry for the rant

You are a disgrace. Imagine, the nerve of your mum wanting to see her kid. How horrible, how inconvenient for you to put up with your mum coming to say hello You are a perfect example of the "I'm entitled to" generation. You have one mum and she'll not always be about. Don't end up regretting when she has gone. Living with regret is awful.

 

[Jono]

35 usually at least once or twice every fortnight.

 

[branddaly]

39, see my Mom a couple of times a year, but that's because she moved to the other end of the country. If I find myself down south,particularly London, then I'll normally see if she can meet up there.

Getting to see your mom is a privilege that many take for granted until its not an option anymore.

My dad on the otherhand... chucked me out when I was 11. Seen him three times since. My granddads funeral, grandmothers funeral, and my nieces christening. I suspect next time there'll be any involvement there will be his funeral.

 

[ElliottJames]

This is obviously a question for those who don't live with their parents still!

Just wondering. I live about 1.5hrs on the train away from my mum and foolishly let slip that I've started summer working hours at work, whereas I get every other Friday off (it's pretty sweet!). As soon as I told her on the phone I kicked myself.. because I know she would try to see me. She only works part time so gets a fair amount of time off (well, in comparison to me!).

So only about 4 weeks after we last met up for her birthday, she's off work for a week and is asking to come up and see me on that Friday as she knows it's my day off. Thing is, I've got stuff to do. Everyone that works a full week knows there's no time to get your chores done, do your personal admin stuff, between seeing friends and socialising. I'm 30 years old, I work hard and want some downtime!

Am I the only one that is constantly putting this off? She's always asking for us to go see her at the weekends, but we don't want to give up a whole weekend to sit around the house in my hometown with nothing to do apart from maybe go out for a meal! If we go for a day, or meet halfway for lunch she'll be complaining that she hardly sees me and we must stay over next time etc.. Argh! Whatever we do is not enough.

Am I alone, am I silly to moan about this? My girlfriend's parents live up north and she only sees them every 3-4 months and they would never ask her to come visit, even for birthdays etc.

Sorry for the rant

On another note - you should be ashamed.

Always make time for your mother, ALWAYS. Shocking.

 

[Cuchulain]

In my 40's and see them once a year as they live in England. Father has dementia now so it's likely to be more often

 

[Punt]

I take the bairns to see their grandparents every Sunday.

 

[MattU]

How many days of socialising and seeing friends did your mum give up to raise you for 18+ years? Now you are annoyed because she wants to see you too often?

 

[Ayahuasca]

Young enough and once a week to get my AMEX paid of.

lol

 

[Retromatic]

I'm 36 and I haven't seen my parents for 6 years. Basically, since I was a child my sister has always gone running to my parents over anything and everything, from the smallest disagreement to the biggest. Unfortunately 9 times out of 10, they will take her side without listening to my side.

My parents (comparing to other friends parents) have always been overly strict about things, so the smallest things get blown out of proportion - normally ends with me apologising (even if it's not my fault). This time, I'd had enough and my mum who unresolvedly sides with my dad no matter what, basically said that my dad had told her that unless I apologised (over something completely trivial) to not bother contacting them... and here we are six years later. I have 3 kids too and feel sorry for them more than anything tbh.

 

[Bassmansam]

26 - Everyday because i live with them.

 

[Egon]

On another note - you should be ashamed.

Always make time for your mother, ALWAYS. Shocking.

LOL, yeah, sounds like you do too right?

Young enough and once a week to get my AMEX paid of.

 

[Scam]

On another note - you should be ashamed.

Always make time for your mother, ALWAYS. Shocking.

I think some people are taking this a little bit too seriously.. Entitled generation, lol ok. I was expecting a light-hearted joke about 'mothers being mothers', but obviously not.

I love my mum and would do anything for her. However as little or as much as I see her she always wants more. She would be happy for me to give up work and move back in like I'm 16 again, I'm sure.

I don't mind her wanting to see me but it's the way she goes about it. If we see her and stay over, she'll drive us back to the station and be asking when we're next coming. It's too overbearing, is all.

Anyway, probably no point arguing my corner anymore. Like I said, it was a relatively light-hearted rant about mums being mums.. But I've been on OcUK enough to know when the lynch mobs are out and there's no going back

 

[ElliottJames]

LOL, yeah, sounds like you do too right?

Go bed you fool

 

[Mr Blonde]

I saw my dad on his 80th, a year a go, but I've not seen my mum in 10 years...
mainly due to the fact that she's been six feet under all this time.

 

[Mr_Orange]

31 - I see my parents nearly every day. I live less than a minutes walk away and usually pop in for 10 mins after work.