How to deal with a Narcissistic colleague ?

Never touch him - in or out of work. This will only cause you grief in the long run. I'd keep a record of everything which has happened / is happening and give it to your manager/HR department.
 
snowdog said:
tl:dr : How would you guys handle an arrogant coworker who has been threatening to you last time but you are stuck with him ( not directly, but he's in the same team of about 60 people& on the same workfloor) for at least another 6 months ?
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Threatening you? Well, I'd of right hooked him there and then but each to thier own I suppose.

You could have a quiet word with him and tell him what'll happen if he threatens you again.
 
TheBigCheese said:
This sounds incredibly childish behaviour - on both parts.

What does pushing someone back achieve except an escalation of the tension?

You push him back and you leave yourself open to disciplinary as well.

Ignore him absolutely as much as possible. The boss obviously understands your situation as they aren't putting you together at work.

Be civil as far as work goes but don't engage with him, anything he does to you write it down with a note of the time and any witnesses that saw it. If he is being aggressive to you or won't leave you alone start recording it with your phone, do nothing, sit there and point the camera at him.

Hopefully he'll give himself enough rope to hang himself with while you are recording, or he'll go away.

This is problem in a professional environment - treat it as such, don't stoop to his level.
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+1. This. Take him down in a professional manor (no not a hired assassin ;) :D )

but when our fellow ocuker gets pushed surely he has to defend himself, if mr.problem punches you then just kick the poop out of him and claim it was self defense.

Also next time he cycles throw an umbrella in his front wheel while he's cycling and watch the destruction unfold. :D
 
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TheBigCheese said:
This sounds incredibly childish behaviour - on both parts.

What does pushing someone back achieve except an escalation of the tension?

You push him back and you leave yourself open to disciplinary as well.

Ignore him absolutely as much as possible. The boss obviously understands your situation as they aren't putting you together at work.

Be civil as far as work goes but don't engage with him, anything he does to you write it down with a note of the time and any witnesses that saw it. If he is being aggressive to you or won't leave you alone start recording it with your phone, do nothing, sit there and point the camera at him.

Hopefully he'll give himself enough rope to hang himself with while you are recording, or he'll go away.

This is problem in a professional environment - treat it as such, don't stoop to his level.
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Thebigcheese stole my post, so there's what I wanted to say.

/in other words +1
 
After reading some comments i strongly suggest not to use any violent actions whats so ever, as mentioned record all transgressions and take it to HR who will deal with it, do not jeopardize your position and job, this is grown up life and with bills to pay last thing you want is both if you loosing your jobs and having to watch you back because some 19 year old snot nosed kid has a grudge and is capable of violence.

HR is the way to go not fisty cuffs.
 
If you are as good a worker as you say & he is as big a **** as you say then just reporting him to HR should do the trick. You really have to get over the point that He is effecting your work & how you feel about being there.
He works 3 days being a **** You work 5 days being a good worker, It's an easy choice for HR.
 
Every time he starts getting all arrogant and spouting off about why he is so fantastic, just start singing Glory Days by springsteen.

Every time he gets threatening call him a girls name and tell him to get back to work.
 
snowdog said:
I'm often in a ''leave me alone I'm just doing my work'' mood and everybody respects that, I'm left alone in my own world thinking things over and just doing my job, but not this guy, this is the first guy who comes into my face, doesn't respect my privacy or space, demands attention, etcetc, despite me saying ''leave me alone'' more than once.
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... I need to sort my mind out.
 
Christ, just stick a nut on the bell end after work. Job done. If you're a soft lad or prefer a non violent solution, tell him straight to never talk to you again and if he does try to talk to you just say **** off fat boy and nothing else don't get engaged into small talk, same response every time f off then completely ignore.
 
TheBigCheese said:
This sounds incredibly childish behaviour - on both parts.

What does pushing someone back achieve except an escalation of the tension?

You push him back and you leave yourself open to disciplinary as well.

Ignore him absolutely as much as possible. The boss obviously understands your situation as they aren't putting you together at work.

Be civil as far as work goes but don't engage with him, anything he does to you write it down with a note of the time and any witnesses that saw it. If he is being aggressive to you or won't leave you alone start recording it with your phone, do nothing, sit there and point the camera at him.

Hopefully he'll give himself enough rope to hang himself with while you are recording, or he'll go away.

This is problem in a professional environment - treat it as such, don't stoop to his level.
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yep
 
I guess I understand I was being a bit dumb and dropping to his level but I felt that's the only thing he'd understand, but I guess I'll indeed just tell me boss everything now if something happens again...
 
snowdog said:
I guess I understand I was being a bit dumb and dropping to his level but I felt that's the only thing he'd understand, but I guess I'll indeed just tell me boss everything now if something happens again...
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Get evidence, as I suggested.

Record, log, gather witnesses and then take that to you boss. It shows you are doing it in a professional manner and also that you aren't just whinging, it shows you expect something to be done about it.
 
Keep doing your work. Don't rise to the bait.

Tell your manager/boss that this guy is a **** and ask him to supervise from a distance so he realises what an idiot the bloke is.
 
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