i fear my wife is been bullied at work

My girlfriend has a similiar problem - she was coming home upset all the time and i flipped - Called HR and demanded answers and also called the office asking why my gf was coming home crying to me.

My gf got sacked for a numerous of reasons which was all false like not phoning up work advising being later. Got the phone bills out etc and all the evidence was presented and she got her job back. HR also advised me she wouldn't be sacked but was to reflect her performance - She was sacked and it was unfair. Though she had only been there a month... so no legal grounds but she argued her case and they gave her a second chance...

Ever since then we've documented every single detail, doctor appointments, prescriptions the lot! Anytime they try and make her look bad we email all the evidence! Still goes onto date... luckily HR are aware and are really helpful in getting matters sorted.

Some people just want rid... and its unfair :(

Document the lot! Get an email address and email everything. That's what we do. That way we got evidence of conversations :)
 
Unfortunately my mum is also being bullied at work, slightly different situation since shes been working there for 30 years though. I would go with what everyone else has said and just make sure you document everything and do your best to have corroborating evidence of as much as possible.

Very sorry to hear your Mrs is having these issues

Hawker
 
I hate having female bosses. From my experiences so far they are loose cannons and tend to be completely unreasonable

Its almost as if they feel like they need to make up for the fact they are female by being absolute witches

I know not all females are like this but I havent had a good female boss to date :(
 
Stringy said:
Now there's a question I wouldn't answer!

(Unless of course the stand-in isn't from Northallerton of course, but I would be wary of giving away too many details!)
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Ha...only reason I ask is someone I know who also works in a certain shoe shop hates working with a certain member of staff...was just putting 2 & 2 together!!
 
D18241 said:
Need to get her to have a few witness of her bullying her , then put a grivence into HR
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this

for the time being, toe the line. Give her side of the events when she "ran off early" stick to the facts, she left at 8:25 when the store closed at 8pm etc.. and leave it at that

Start throwing the bully accusations around when you have some proof. Does the store have any CCTV ?

that would be the best way to catch her being abused.
 
Shout race and religious discrimination and they will run a mile.

This really is a joke, i pity you and your wife, nothing worse than having a job like this imo.
If you document all the evididence and present it to HR, they will hopefully side with you and tell this manager to wind their neck in.

As they are on probabtion though, i feel they will just get rid of her to make their life easier.
 
How about a hidden body cam ? Get onto it pronto though, phone head office, get advice from CAB, complain etc..... Don't let it lie as at the end of the day it's your wife who will suffer if you do and would all just pass over this womans head if you don't.
 
The Deuce said:
white 5'7" 10 stone, black belt in karate, kick and punch like a mule..lol :eek::D and quiet as a mouse...lol
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So not an ethnic minority, so any race case would rely on the evil manager being from another race, and if she's white she's probably Christian if anything, so again almost certainly no case on that front.

So whoever suggested racial/religious discrimination... Erm, no.
 
The Deuce said:
My wife has just started a new job with the country's largest shoe retailer, she has been there about 7 weeks now, but she moved from franchise into retail after 5 years.
Now the problem is the week she started, the shop's manageress broke her ankle and has now got to have a hip replacement, so the store has a stand in manageress, who is going to be there until after Christmas. Obviously this "woman" I use the term very lightly! has came to the store to try and make a name for herself (she is an assistant manageress in another store) and has taken it upon herself to bully and harass my wife @ work. My wife is a team leader at the store and is also a very quiet person( not that, that is a bad thing) so I see this woman thinking she can control my wife through fear!

There have been a number of incidents so far but the latest incident involves my wife locking up at the store and the stand in opening up the next day. She has accused my wife of not locking both locks on the main door and has started an investigation into this, now I KNOW she locked both locks as I was sat outside in the car not 30 feet away waiting for her to finish off. She accused her of rushing to get away and not doing her job properly, my wife finished @8pm that night and I left the car park with her in the car @ 8:25pm, so much for her rushing away!

As it is HR are calling to ask for her side of the story today, now to me this is clear cut, explain that she is been harassed by this woman and she is "out to get her" and let things take their natural course from there, BUT she is on a 3 month probation and fears she may lose her job for this.

It gets pretty frustrating when your wife comes home from work in tears every night because of this so I'm asking for some help!
There are some pretty clued up employment law people on here and i ask for your thoughts.
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Just another flunkie with a chip on her shoulder and no people-management skills trying to 'make it'. I hear retail is full of them.

As others said, document all the incidents and also join a union. Preferably, have her get out of retail and into a REAL job.
 
regulus said:
. I hear retail is full of them.
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this is completely true.

You see these types of managers abusing and shouting at their staff at supermarkets all the time. And its all of the supermarkets, tesco, sainsburys, asda, morrisons etc.. They're all the same.

Granted you do get some good managers, but there are loads of the type mentioned in the OP in retail.
 
MrLOL said:
this

for the time being, toe the line. Give her side of the events when she "ran off early" stick to the facts, she left at 8:25 when the store closed at 8pm etc.. and leave it at that

Start throwing the bully accusations around when you have some proof. Does the store have any CCTV ?

that would be the best way to catch her being abused.
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I'd imagine any requests to view cctv would have to go through the manger though?
 
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