Soldato
Sounds like you are just bitter because she/he wouldn't have sex with you.
Ignorant neighbours.
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Man of Honour
I wouldn’t worry about it. Some of my neighbours didn’t say a word for years. People don’t want to live your life and vice versa. They want to keep to themselves and that is quite normal but not replying to a hello is just plain rude. Maybe it's just because you are wearing the wrong deodorant.
Caporegime
Meh, OP, we had the same in our last place...
Direct neighbors where lovely and talked to us every time they saw us, hell, the guy even helped jump start my car twice!
The other neighbors NEVER said hello or whatever, I'd have to say it to them. In the end you just don't bother...But quite frankly why you would not want to get on with your direct neighbors is beyond me.
Direct neighbors where lovely and talked to us every time they saw us, hell, the guy even helped jump start my car twice!
The other neighbors NEVER said hello or whatever, I'd have to say it to them. In the end you just don't bother...But quite frankly why you would not want to get on with your direct neighbors is beyond me.
Associate
I am completly different, I recently had one of them pass away which we have known for about 20 years. I always got a present and a card, also she used to knit me a little chick with a cream egg in it every easter. On the other side I did have my grandparents next door but they moved around 6 years ago. We now have a new family which we get on with really well. We have very large parties (i'm 23) which go into the early hours of the night and loud music. But they are always invited and come and join us, they get on well with my mother. I know when I get my own place it wont be like this but over that last couple of years I have had great neighbors 
We have a new person doing out the house before she moves in. We have been invited into her house to see how she is getting on. Again this would be a close relationship with another person.
My family have always been friendly and have large amounts of friends. But we know that she may not like this and would take her into consideration.
We have a new person doing out the house before she moves in. We have been invited into her house to see how she is getting on. Again this would be a close relationship with another person.
My family have always been friendly and have large amounts of friends. But we know that she may not like this and would take her into consideration.
Soldato
Just out of interest what do you think of the neighbour that never says hello?
I am that neighbour so am trying to gain some insight, be honest, I am recently coming to the conclusion that not engaging with the people around you seems to cause a lot of problems, personally I don't care if people don't say hello to me and keep to themselves, but many seem to be insulted by it, when I moved into my new place a tenant here was telling how 'ignorant' the guy was that lived above me because he never spoke to anyone but I didn't understand his hatred towards him, the chap above me just kept to himself, he never insulted anyone but people disliked him, I have no problem with him at all, his a good neighbour, hardly makes no noise at all.
You know I find it very complicated all these social rules that we have to adhere to.
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Man of Honour
I like being a good neighbour it makes me feel all warm & fuzzy inside.
Caporegime
While I'm not overly bothered by them not saying hello to me each morning, it's just 'nice', people nowadays seem to be scared to interact with strangers, and if you are in a small community / row of houses it's just nice to get along.
Naturally, it's up to them, each to their own etc. But yes, some people can get really bothered by it all. If the people have said hello to your previously, just say good morning to them the next time you see them in the morning or whatever, if they ignore you the first couple of times...Then hey, go back to not saying anything
What annoys me, is the fact that you have gone out of your way to say good morning to someone or hello, and they just ignore you the next time they see you...It's just odd
Soldato
Perhaps I can help with providing my own perspective as the 'quiet neighbour'.
The problem I have is I didn't choose to say hello to said person, they chose to say hello/good morning to me, so now I feel like they've forced me into a contract, I am now socially obligated to say hello/good morning to this stranger for the rest of my life, I find this very uncomfortable, also the hello/good morning then turns into "you all right mate?", I find this even worse, if you don't mind indulging me how are you actually supposed to reply to that?, I am required to ask the other party if they are all right as well?
I know this sounds odd but I've genuinely never understood these types of social dynamics.
Just a reminder guys that it's not me who doesn't want to talk to my neighbours, it's the opposite. They always say hello back whenever i say it, they never ignore me. The neighbour on the other side of our house talk to me. I was chatting to her for a good 10mins yesterday. She seems nice and friendly. It's just the couple i mentioned in my op.
Regarding the growing cannabis problem, i'm not that bothered about it tbh. I used to smoke it on a daily basis around 7 years ago myself, and did at one point attempt growing it myself, so i understand that the bloke just wants a smoke without paying a fortune. Before you all jump on saying "oh the ironing, you accuse them of smoking weed when you did it yourself!!", Well i was younger then. Early 20's with no kids. I'm in my 30's now with 2 kids. They have their grandkids go round yet they still smoke it in front of them.
The dog crapping in our garden isn't that much of an issue because it's a complete mess and needs a total 100% renovation.
The only issue that bothers me is the awkwardness when they have some family/friends over sitting in the front garden because their back garden is such a hole. When i walk out the front door, you hear it all go silent as they all stare at us. It just feels weird saying just "hello" and that's it, especially when all the other neighbours appear to be quite gushy with each other.
I dunno. Maybe it takes years/decades for people to trust each other round here but for now, i'm putting it down to them being affected by the drink/weed. I know when i used to smoke it, i didn't want to talk to anyone who didn't know i smoked it in fear of being busted.
Regarding the growing cannabis problem, i'm not that bothered about it tbh. I used to smoke it on a daily basis around 7 years ago myself, and did at one point attempt growing it myself, so i understand that the bloke just wants a smoke without paying a fortune. Before you all jump on saying "oh the ironing, you accuse them of smoking weed when you did it yourself!!", Well i was younger then. Early 20's with no kids. I'm in my 30's now with 2 kids. They have their grandkids go round yet they still smoke it in front of them.
The dog crapping in our garden isn't that much of an issue because it's a complete mess and needs a total 100% renovation.
The only issue that bothers me is the awkwardness when they have some family/friends over sitting in the front garden because their back garden is such a hole. When i walk out the front door, you hear it all go silent as they all stare at us. It just feels weird saying just "hello" and that's it, especially when all the other neighbours appear to be quite gushy with each other.
I dunno. Maybe it takes years/decades for people to trust each other round here but for now, i'm putting it down to them being affected by the drink/weed. I know when i used to smoke it, i didn't want to talk to anyone who didn't know i smoked it in fear of being busted.
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Soldato
We lived in the same house for atleast 9 years people next door to us we're the same for everyone of them 9 years. Some people just are quiet. Man up and by a dog.
Caporegime
As I said, if you don't WANT to say hello, don't bother, and let them get on with the fact you are apparently 'grumpy' even though you are probably a nice chap.
Either way, if they ask how you are. Just say 'Fine thank you'. You don't HAVE to ask them anything. They will soon realise you don't want to speak to them at 6:30am while getting in to your car or whatever.
I just find it funny how we have gone from a society where everyone was friendly to basically being completely ignorant of everyone around us.
Kill the dog, kill them, steal their weed and everyone's a winner.
This. It'll make your neighbourhood a much safer place without them smoking some pot.
U NO TALK 2 ME? I CALL POLICE ON U.
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I do beleive there is a fine balance to being socialable with your neighbours without over doing it. It's a sad day when people struggle to even say hello.
I imagine these are the exact same people who immediately run indoors, jump on facebook and proceed to tell everyone how wild and sociable they are.
I have been on the other side of it where my elderly neighbour would give me life stories whilst I'm hanging up my undercrackers on the clothes line (always wondered whether he was going to make comments on them) Although I can understand the fact he just wanted a friendly chat, it was literally every time I went outside, like he was waiting for me.
Unfortunately, becasue I knew it was never going to be a quick hello, or "how you doing?" I would be abrupt with him, never rude though, just didn't return with any open questions because a lot of the time I simply didn't have time to chat for 10 minutes.
I imagine these are the exact same people who immediately run indoors, jump on facebook and proceed to tell everyone how wild and sociable they are.
I have been on the other side of it where my elderly neighbour would give me life stories whilst I'm hanging up my undercrackers on the clothes line (always wondered whether he was going to make comments on them) Although I can understand the fact he just wanted a friendly chat, it was literally every time I went outside, like he was waiting for me.
Unfortunately, becasue I knew it was never going to be a quick hello, or "how you doing?" I would be abrupt with him, never rude though, just didn't return with any open questions because a lot of the time I simply didn't have time to chat for 10 minutes.
At the end of the day it's nice to be nice isn't it. You never know when you might need your neighbour.
I keep myself to myself and would rather not get involved but if I see my neighbour I'll smile or say hello.
I suppose it's down to what area you live in I suppose.
If my Neighbour bids me good Morning I don't feel like they've forced me into a contract where I'm socially obligated to say hello good morning back thats how I imagine William Burroughs to be.
I keep myself to myself and would rather not get involved but if I see my neighbour I'll smile or say hello.
I suppose it's down to what area you live in I suppose.
If my Neighbour bids me good Morning I don't feel like they've forced me into a contract where I'm socially obligated to say hello good morning back thats how I imagine William Burroughs to be.
Soldato
Ignorant is a word that gets overused massively and tbh i blame micheal jackson
Soldato
I think it's a sad day when people cast such negative aspersions on others with little to no information about them, not everyone wants to or even understands how to socially interact with people, I've had a lot of negative experiences with people when I get to know them because they start expecting a form of social code of conduct from me which I don't know how to provide them so they get offended, it's very stressful not understanding these social rules sets.
Associate
Stop being so soft jesus...
They are obviously heavy tokers leave them the **** allone
your smelling it because they smoke all day.
A heavy Ganja toker would smoke like a normal smoker
"oh i need another cig now" ex: very frequently
Why they wont speak to you ?
- They smoke weed (most tokers can spot a busybody a mile off)
- Might have overheard you moaning
- you look like typical pole up the *** smarmy git?
CAUTION !!
They are really big Dons who have a freind they call the butcher who may chop you up
those nasty weed smokerssuggest you and any one else who thinks that to get a grip
Love this forum always get a giggle
Man of Honour
One of the Many presents my neighbours have bought me.
Soldato
Who cares, just walk passed those weed smoking, alcohol drinking low-lifes next time like they dont exist. Job done.