**I'm on my own at Christmas thread**

blueshift said:
Dads in hospital again, hes 86 now,and has taken to falling over a lot as a hobby?:(
Click to expand...
That's the bit that gets me.
Besides the company and all the squishy bits ladies have, it's more about emotional support.
It's all the nice things you want to do for family but at the same time it's really really heavy emotionally. Especially when a relative gets ill and sometimes you really do just need a second head + pair of hands to keep on top of everything that needs to be done...
From a purely functional point of view I hate being alone, but I don't mind my own company :)

On the other side of the coin, I can't stand overly needy people. The kind of person you've known for more than a decade, and despite having many relationships they've only ever been single for a few weeks at most.
I feel those kind of people could learn a lot by just being on their own for a while, getting to know themselves.

In the end, it doesn't matter. Whatever feels nice and fits is fine. Nobody really cares anyway :)

Edit: That video is cool. I still find it uncomfortable doing certain things alone (going out to 'proper' restaurants springs to mind).
 
Last edited:
Go for a wander about the local place, see if any charity shops/shelters/animal shelters need an extra pair of hands. :)
 
I think everyone should experience a christmas alone. It's a great time to reflect and work out how you can improve your chances of never being in this position again.

Try and use the experience, to reflect back over the year. Make some positive changes and stick to them.

I did this 15 years ago. Haven't spent a christmas alone since.
 
Mr.Pink said:
I think everyone should experience a christmas alone. It's a great time to reflect and work out how you can improve your chances of never being in this position again.

Try and use the experience, to reflect back over the year. Make some positive changes and stick to them.

I did this 15 years ago. Haven't spent a christmas alone since.
Click to expand...

Congratulations:) I will use this to my advantage. Thing is though, I've been on my own at Christmas for about 4 years now.
 
Yamahahahahaha said:
That's the bit that gets me.
Besides the company and all the squishy bits ladies have, it's more about emotional support.
It's all the nice things you want to do for family but at the same time it's really really heavy emotionally. Especially when a relative gets ill and sometimes you really do just need a second head + pair of hands to keep on top of everything that needs to be done...
From a purely functional point of view I hate being alone, but I don't mind my own company :)

On the other side of the coin, I can't stand overly needy people. The kind of person you've known for more than a decade, and despite having many relationships they've only ever been single for a few weeks at most.
I feel those kind of people could learn a lot by just being on their own for a while, getting to know themselves.

In the end, it doesn't matter. Whatever feels nice and fits is fine. Nobody really cares anyway :)

Edit: That video is cool. I still find it uncomfortable doing certain things alone (going out to 'proper' restaurants springs to mind).
Click to expand...

Yeah i think your right about the needy people etc.
I think it takes a certain amount of strength to be on your own for a long time.
Im sure some people only shack up etc, because they are frightend of being alone, me i embrace it, i find plenty to do.
 
hey young 'un, least you know how to cook a gammon properly, when you get that lovely new girl this year you can show off a little!
When I was single in Bristol days we would all get together chuck a fiver in pot, buy the dinner between us and share the cooking and clean up chores. The bodies changed over the years, but the basics remained the same for ages, even when people coupled off, they wern't normally invited to family do's in relationship year One.
Good luck next year
mrs herbs
 
BENJAMIN HERBLE said:
hey young 'un, least you know how to cook a gammon properly, when you get that lovely new girl this year you can show off a little!
When I was single in Bristol days we would all get together chuck a fiver in pot, buy the dinner between us and share the cooking and clean up chores. The bodies changed over the years, but the basics remained the same for ages, even when people coupled off, they wern't normally invited to family do's in relationship year One.
Good luck next year
mrs herbs
Click to expand...

Ahh thanks Mrs Herbs:)
 
Maybe it's just me then. I love being alone on Christmas. I don't like Christmas and my family don't celebrate it anyway. My Mum and Dad live in London (I live in Newcastle), my brother and his wife and baby girl also live in London but about 2hrs away from our parents. One of my sisters is currently abroad (think she's in Cuba right now), another sister spent Christmas with her boyfriend in Belfast, whilst the youngest (21yrs old) I believe came back from Portsmouth Uni to stay with our parents.

My housemate spent Christmas with her parents and they drove up to Scotland to see her brother and his family.

All in all, I spend Christmas watching a bucket load of DVDs, gaming and tweeting and Facebook and all sorts.

The only thing I wouldn't mind is having a friend with me who was also in the same situation as me, where they just wanted to spend the day alone but with like minded people. That way you can have a loads of fun.

I did make up for it though. I got drunk on Boxing day and the day after :D awesome stuff.

So yeah, for me Christmas on my own is never depressing. I've been with loved ones during Christmas and that can be depressing.
 
Last edited:
I spent xmas on my own, couldn't care less tbh (ok I did have a friend coming to my place twice). I did what I wanted and drank and eat what I wanted. If I didn't like spending time on my own I would have gone and spend xmas with my parents.
 
Being alone at Christmas is generally a depressing thing; However, you make of it what you will.

There were times when I was alone, with little to no contact to the outside world (so to speak - No contact with parents, GF, friends) but oddly enough I enjoyed it.

I'm lucky to have a good handful of people around me at all times and my GF lives with me, but there's been times when I've ben alone lots.

Try dating sites, try making new friends and so forth. At the end of the day, being with someone, even just a friend, isn't the be all and end all. Sometimes I even miss being on my lonesome.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom