In Times of Stress...

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... is it more important to follow logic, or instinct?

Imagine you had something, but it turns out you didn't, but then... you're still not sure if you have it, but you really really want it, despite the fact (and being totally honest with yourself) the chances of obtaining it and keeping it are very slim.

What do you do?

Also, what do you do to de-stress? I have a whole lot built up here and it's very unhealthy. :o :rolleyes:
 
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Zip said:
Give the small a beltin' :p


Im guessing its girl problems? Nothing and i mean nothing can relieve that kind of stress! :(

Not really a girl problem as such, more of a 'life' problem. Stressful at the moment and having a difficult time. My family are telling me to go home and relax after a year out here but, on the other hand, I feel like I'd be giving it up.

But I can see their point back home, and I am stressed right now, but that's due to a whole world of issues.
 
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Illusion said:
I thought he was in China or Thailand or something? Not sure whether to stay there or come home...?

That's right. In China, going to Thailand... but unfortunately, more issues have raised their ugly heads and the longer I wait, the worse it gets.

Summing up my experience here, and the total change of my life in the last year, I'd say I best go home to relax from it all as it has no doubt been a heck of a journey. For anyone, I imagine. Well, at least in my case...

I just can't stick to the decision of 'It's time to call it a day and relax for a few months...'. God knows I do deserve a nice big break. Maybe my family have a point. I don't want to push myself too far over the edge.
 
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Zip said:
What is the life problem? :)

Just missing people at home?

Well, it's a mix of a lot of stuff that happened at the beginning of the year here in China. I had a very rough patch in which I was going to give up, but I stuck it out and got back on my feet. I guess it was to prove a point to myself, as well as my family.

Although, my original reason for coming here had nothing to do with my family. It was more to do with the state of England, to be honest.

Maybe I'm homesick? I've never really missed home before so I dunno what it feels like... I think I just miss the comforts of not having to worry, which is why I feel like I would be giving up.
 
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Wardie said:
Most things worth having aren't easy Over, stick with it!

True, but the argument within my mind is:

Stay: It will be damn stressful, on top of a lot of stress that I already have, and I really can feel it. This is due to many many things, positive and negative, about China, Thailand and England. Each country has its pros and cons.

Go: I can relax, see friends, family etc for the first time in a year. I can also save a lot of money, think about the future and plan it out better. Maybe 3-6 months back in England before I head out somewhere, having given myself a chance to relax, think about all that's happened and generally feel stress free and a lot more confident. As well as knowing exactly what to expect, so I can prepare for it. Financially and mentally.

Also, it will give me a chance to actually SPEAK my native language again, and maybe lose the slight American accent I picked up from my friends here. haha. :p
 
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Wardie said:
Sounds like you've already made up your mind.

Go home and chill out then dude :)

If only it was that easy. I'm such an indecisive guy and it always causes problems. :p :o

... but yes, I think the wise decision here, is to go home. Strangely enough, my step-dad has been telling me to go home for 6 months. Odd guy, because we always argued about everything... seems he loves me, really. haha. :p
 
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OvertoneBliss said:
If only it was that easy. I'm such an indecisive guy and it always causes problems.
You're telling me - I remember the 'fun' we had over your girl issues. :eek::D

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... but yes, I think the wise decision here, is to go home. Strangely enough, my step-dad has been telling me to go home for 6 months. Odd guy, because we always argued about everything... seems he loves me, really. haha.
What does logic tell you to do, and what do your instinct tell you to do?
 
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basmic said:
You're telling me - I remember the 'fun' we had over your girl issues. :eek::D

What does logic tell you to do, and what do your instinct tell you to do?

Girl issues! Pfftttt, dunno what you're talking about. :p

Logic tells me to go home, de-stress, earn a load of cash and make better/solid plans.

Instinct tells me that I need to learn how to survive, BUT I know I can do that and I have been, which is where the logic comes back in and says 'See, told ya, so go home!'

... So yeh, homewards it seems. For 3-6 months or so. Relax, get cash, see everyone again. :)
 
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