Job offer of my dreams, or is it?

the job is in wiltshire.

Sorry if i sounded harsh about my girlfriend but she has a child so she cant move out of the area, also before xmas we were talking about moving in together so she doesnt have to keep living with her nan as she doesnt earn a lot.

If i go i wont earn enough to pay for a bedsit down south and also pay towards living with her, hence i dont think she will go for it and it will be a struggle.

If i see her at weekends its a £200 a month expense that i might not have avalaible to me, hence i dont even know if i could afford to come back to see her all the time.

Shes needs a lot of support i think and with me not being there i can see her letting me go down there to make me happy but in her heart i know she will end up feeling lonely and maybe breaking up, dont know if i can put her through that

Its only a small company and ill be joining as there appentice as such hence ill be paid low, realistically id love to be paid more but i dont think im gonna get an opportunity like this again.


I did also think that if i got 2yrs experience for example then i could move onto to bigger companies, i can already map rx7s with a laptop etc so i can expand on those skills myself during this time.

We have spoke about my car aswell as we had planned to build into a full racecar, hence me talking to him about it being 'our' demo car for Time Attack, the amount of savings ill be making by having access to all the equipment and also being sponsered to go racing etc there will help offset the low wages for the first year
 
i wouldnt be turning down my dream job for another mans child, if your GF isnt prepared to move then go alone imo.

plenty of people have a child and move across the country and plenty of people raise a child alone, you make it sound like she wouldnt be able to cope alone and most single mothers are very independant not living with there nans.

i bet she relies on you and her nan far more than she should
 
Its times like these when you've just got to go for it tbh!

If you and your GF are serious you'll deal with long distance for a while, not point not even trying it!

My only advice would be, imagine in 50 years, would you rather think "Ah man that COULD of been really good!" or, "I went for it and it didn't work out, but at least I went for it!"

If you dont have any other major ties apart from GF (Kids, mortgage etc) GO FOR IT!

On the note of GF, my GF is going to uni 150 miles away, you don't need to see each other every weekend tbh!
 
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I personally believe what you do on a daily basis should be something you're passionate about. I would never now be somewhere or be with someone who was holding me back from living my life.
Personally, if she truly understands your passion, you'll make it work.
 
I'd say you have to go for the job.

But I don't agree with people suggesting your gf should come with you if she loves you. She may have very genuine reasons for not being able to, or not wanting to move (job, uni, family, whatever). So sit down and talk with her. If the relationship is serious then you will both find a way to make it work.
 
Just weigh up the pros, cons and which instance is more important for your life.

I totally disagree with some people on this board, when you've been in a brilliant and solid relationship with the girl of your dreams for years, even built a life with them then the decision process changes dramatically and I must be honest.... I'd rather have an amazing love life and companion. You work to live not the other way around. Your 'soul mate' (if you like) is harder to come by than a job.

Saying that, I'd never settle for a run of the mill job if I wasn't happy but my relationship would in many instances, come first.
 
What has she got to lose in coming with you?
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id say giving up her job(shes a teacher) and not being able to see her 4yr old son(he lives with his dad) has gotta be pretty high up there to be honest, if she didnt have a child then id probably try and get her to come with me.

I think im gonna do it regardless, just seems a shame as shes a nice girl, says she loves me and only person who has ever really put up with my weirdness haha
 
Then why not try it for a year. Stay up there during the week and at hers at weekends. See how that works out. If after a while you realise you can't be away from her then leave the job... but having gained a years experience,
 
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Even the starting salary for a teacher is almost £10k a year MORE than you'd be getting in your new job on minimum wage. Perhaps she should be the one visiting YOU rather than the other way round..
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Was pondering that myself. Especially if the biological father has the kid on weekends or whatnot.
 
I would rather be with the person i loved then be in a "dream job" And can i ask what your idea of a bad job is if your dream job requires you to give up your whole life.
 
DO IT.

Do not throw this away for a women who has another mans child not your own. your not tied down yet so get out and do it. And shes a teacher so no way is she skint.
 
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ill only start out on low wages(min for 26yr old) but as i progress then ill get paid better.
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Put it into perspective, I dont think I would upsticks and potentialy lose a partner for a minimum wage job!

Assuming is an indie garrage, what if business slacks off? you would be royally screwed then...
 
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