Just want to let a few things off my chest. Please?

Priapus

Priapus

Priapus

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Howzit all,

Well it's been a while since I was last one this forums. Good to see things are still in order here. :)

Well, let's start with things I just need to let out. You see I can't really tell my family members this or how exactly I am feeling of late. Mainly because I don't want the whole house knowing and the people who it concerns to know. Telling my Dad, means he'll tell his girlfriend of five years. She will then tell her sister, who's the mother of the girl I've been seeing for the last 4 months. So you see, I can't really tell them how I feeling on that matter.

Thing is I've been with, Tammy for 4 months. (My longest relationship yet) I love her and can't bear to loose her. I know she feels the exact same way about me, as I do about her. All good right? Yes, however we live far apart. And I only normally see her once a week or every two weeks. This hasn't really been a problem for me. However it's now starting to bug me a little. You see here's where my first problem starts. The way I see it, is I love her. And she is my world. But being about 50 - 60 Km/s from her, is a big down fall. So what are my options now I think? Well at this present moment, nothing. I don't want us to break up. So I will just put up with it for now. Long term options? Well once my car is 100% I can just drive to her place and see her a lot more. Maybe 3 times a week, which I will be happy with.

I really don't know why I am telling you guys this. I know you have better things to do then read this. But oh well.

I guess in this relationship with me and her, I still feel a little insecure. I've had a bad past with woman just up and leaving me. Usually happen with in a couple of weeks. And I'm still wondering why, Tammy chose to be with me. And why she loves me. I'm worried she's going to just wake up and stop loving me and decide to end it between us. I don't know. I think she's deferent. However I just have to wait and see how it goes really.

Maybe I've just typed this all out because I've now realised how much she actually means to me. And starting to really see things in a different light. Who knows?

There's other smaller issue's that has caused all this. I guess I'm just feeling really down. And at the moment I'm not sure how to handle this all. Life for me at the moment is a drag. It's slow and very predictable. I mean I get up and do the same thing day in and out, like clock work.

And maybe for 17 years of age, I'm worrying too much and should relax and just take life as it comes?

Who knows?

Sorry about this folks, just I really needed to vent some where. And get things off my chest. Flame me, lock the thread. Or post some useful replies.

Hope everyone's day has been better then mine.

Take care.

Robert.
 
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Cheer up fella, it's understandable you might be feeling down at times, relationships aren't always easy at the best of times let alone when it's long distance and you can't see each other when you like. Just gotta keep communicating and make the most of when you see each other.

Also is understandable why you might be a bit wary of letting yourself go to this girl if you've been screwed over in the past. End of the day some girls are idiots, some aren't, but you gotta stay positive and optimistic and hope that the one you end up with isn't one of the idiots. May well be it'll all end in tears but at least if you give it your best shot there won't be any regrets. Just keep trying and always bear in mind that she isn't the same person as the ones before and treat her on her own merits.

Anyhow, just keep on trying to feel positive and hopefully it'll all work out, like I said earlier long-distance relationships are pretty hard work for both people so good luck with it and hope it all goes well. :)
 
You live 60Km/s away from your gf? That's pretty quick :p

On the other hand, you're seeing the daughter of your Dad's missus, that's a bit freaky :eek:

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This is true. However when I do see her. We don't have our own time together. And I usally only see her for about 4 hours. I want more time with her. :(
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Dude, if you're travelling at 60Km/s then I'm not surprised you don't have time to say much :D

I don't actually have anything helpful to say apart from chill the **** out, you're only 17?!

Edit: Oh, the niece of your Dad's missus, that's better I suppose :D Just relax and take things as they come dude, girls hate wet clingy guys

Edit 2: You live in Durban?! Step away from the computer and go to the beach FFS!
 
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Sending OCUK hugs all the way to Durban.

17 years: you're just becoming an adult soon... it's going to be interesting how this pans out. Take each day as it comes.

And whilst you take each day as it comes, you think 50 to 60 km is far. Work at it. You see her every week, that's a good thing isn't it?

And get that car working... you can get to see her more! However, fuel charges??? Who cares? It's Tammy after all! :D

EDIT: This thread makes me go "aaawww" and "aahahh". I just want to see you happy (from what you've written in your post, even if I don't know you personally).
 
hey mate, i can offer sympathy for you... i've been in the same situation for almost 3 years now.

my girlfriend lives a far distance away too, meaning i can only see her on weekends. she managed to get a job in my area, which means we can see each other much more and because she works weekends here she stays with me at weekends :)

the only thing i can suggest is to grin and bare it, if you really do love each other, then the time apart will do you good. i imagine if you were together 24/7 you'd grow tired of her... this way you cherish each and every moment you have with her. it sucks like that though, because it means when your not with her time moves so slowly... when your together, its over so quick :(

just keep your chin up, try and organise nights out together, go clubbing/pubbing etc... whatever your thing is... go to local places and have fun when your not in school/work (bowling or whatever?)... anything to use as an excuse to see each other more often.
 
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