Kissing girl mates

mauron · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:25

Go the French way, a kiss on 1 cheek for acquaintances & a kiss on both cheeks for friends. They do go up to 4, but 2s enough for this thread

PinkPig · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:30

Kell_ee001 said:
Why else would you treat male and female mates differently.

Because kissing other men isn't "acceptable in society" - that's not a homophobic comment, it's a true one. If I kissed a man on the cheek who wasn't a member of my family, people would assume I was gay. No doubt about it. Whereas I have a few fairly close female friends who I will tend to kiss from time to time.

And yes, they are entirely just friends, it tends never to happen with someone I fancy more than the tiniest bit, it's a friendly kiss. I'm surprised so many people seem horribly shocked by the idea!

But I give lots of friends hugs - male and female.

Absolutely, hugs are vital things!

Kell_ee001 · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:31

Raymond Lin said:
Because our society is not as equal as we would like

Doesn't matter if society is not equal - doesn't mean you can't treat mates equally

But I was only wondering tbh

I just think it's strange that when a guy gives a guy a kiss on the cheek as friends it implies he's gay (indicating that it's something sexual) but when a guy kisses a girl on the the cheek is people claim it's just friendly.

Raymond Lin · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:39

Kell_ee001 said:
Doesn't matter if society is not equal - doesn't mean you can't treat mates equally

But I was only wondering tbh I just think it's strange that when a guy gives a guy a kiss on the cheek as friends it implies he's gay (indicating that it's something sexual) but when a guy kisses a girl on the the cheek is people claim it's just friendly.

Narh, here's the truth, guys give girls kiss on the cheek are the girls they wouldn't mind to get a bit closer to.

Gilly · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:40

Kell_ee001 said:
Doesn't matter if society is not equal - doesn't mean you can't treat mates equally

But I was only wondering tbh I just think it's strange that when a guy gives a guy a kiss on the cheek as friends it implies he's gay (indicating that it's something sexual) but when a guy kisses a girl on the the cheek is people claim it's just friendly.

Well, its a bit obvious really. Girls get a kiss, maybe a hug. Lads get a handshake, maybe a slap on the back.

I'm lost as to how you take a guy kissing a guy as being something sexual because someone called it gay. Thats a whole leap there that you've created out of nothing :/

penski · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:40

My closest female friends get a huge hug and maybe a kiss on the top of the head (they're all short).

*n

theleg · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:42

95% of my friends are girls...and my closest friends are all girls, none of which i want to hump...I dont kiss any of them...It just seems weird...

I dont do anything except say hi when i meet my guy mates...I guess it might be different if i havent seen them in a while and a handshake might be in order...but if im seeing em every few days then I just say hi..

I definately think theres something more to it...that theyre a future prospect rather than a true mate...

If theres nothin dodgy about it, would you lot be ok if some bloke came up and kissed your girlfriend on the lips/cheek in front of you? Even if he were a friend of hers?

Gilly · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:43

Balddog said:
If theres nothin dodgy about it, would you lot be ok if some bloke came up and kissed your girlfriend on the lips/cheek in front of you? Even if he were a friend of hers?

On the cheek, fine.

I was out on saturday with quite a few people. There was a couple out that night who when we were together when we'd meet them I'd shake his hand and kiss his girlfriend on the cheek, he'd do the same the other way round.

Nothing in it, nothing to it.

theleg · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:46

Gilly said:
On the cheek, fine.

I was out on saturday with quite a few people. There was a couple out that night who when we were together when we'd meet them I'd shake his hand and kiss his girlfriend on the cheek, he'd do the same the other way round.

Nothing in it, nothing to it.

Are they posh? That sounds like dinner party kind of company

Formal stuff its fine...but just meeting your mates? maybe living in korea has affected me.

Gilly · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:47

Pseudo-posh, as I said above. They do have a fair bit of cash. These are people I get on with very well when I see them, but don't see them very often.

I don't think if I saw them every week it would be the same.

penski · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:47

Balddog said:
Are they posh? That sounds like dinner party kind of company Formal stuff its fine...but just meeting your mates? maybe living in korea has affected me.

It all depends on individual relationships: I have friends where I just say hi, friends that I hug and friends that I kiss on the cheek.

*n

penski · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:48

Gilly said:
I don't think if I saw them every week it would be the same.

Troo dat.

*n

ojo · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:49

Kiss and hug a lot of girl mates. I am sure it is no big deal...

Kell_ee001 · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:51

Gilly said:
I'm lost as to how you take a guy kissing a guy as being something sexual because someone called it gay.

Gay be definition means having a sexual orientation towards the same sex so to me that means the act between 2 men which is being called gay is likely to be considered sexual.

My view however is probably slightly warped as I know far to many lads who only kiss their "fit" female friends and not there not so fit ones, so for most guys I know there is more to it then simple friendship

But doesn't matter, people obviously view these things in different ways. I personally don't kiss male or female friends as I prefer to treat them all equally, regardless of their gender.

Otacon · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:53

Kell_ee001 said:
But doesn't matter, people obviously view these things in different ways. I personally don't kiss male or female friends as I prefer to treat them all equally, regardless of their gender.

I cant see either 'side' of my mates caring too much really, they get treated the same with the important stuff.

If I started kissing the men, and punching the girls in the arm, then they'd probably start caring

Gilly · 17 Apr 2006 at 14:54

You're still not getting it. It isn't divided by how I treat males and how I treat females. Its dependant on the individuals involved.

I don't treat a single one of my mates exactly the same way as I treat another. They're all different people, all work in different ways and all interact with me and each other differently.

Maybe you simply have a limited emotional capacity? So treat everyone the same :dunno:

Kell_ee001 · 17 Apr 2006 at 15:07

Gilly said:
I don't treat a single one of my mates exactly the same way as I treat another. They're all different people, all work in different ways and all interact with me and each other differently.

I'm not saying to treat all mates the same all the time, but just for the minor things I think I think I do. For example there are some people I tell my secrets to and others I don't, but that doesn't mean I would kiss any of them!

I understand that it's dependent on many many factors but as a general rule I don't treat them differently for things like hello and goodbye.

Cody · 17 Apr 2006 at 15:23

If you're uncomfortable with kissing on the cheek what about kissing your palm and high fiving her cheek.

Nexy · 17 Apr 2006 at 15:47

Balddog said:
Are these actual friends or are they just girls you havent been able to hump yet?

I wouldn't say the two are mutually exclusive. I'd love to get on most of my female friends, they're DAMN hot (most of them). I'd still treat them the same as my male mates, same loyalty and support.

But yeah, I kiss my female friends on the cheek, and if it was expected I'd kiss my male mates too. I'm just easy.

theleg · 17 Apr 2006 at 15:56

Nexy said:
I wouldn't say the two are mutually exclusive. .

I would...If you want to bang them, theres always that in the mix...You will always be trying to get them into bed...