Kissing girl mates

big_white_dog84 · 19 Apr 2006 at 09:41

Not at all. Most people use the term 'friend' to refer to anyone that they talk to more than once a day. There are several females that I talk to more than once a day, and none of them are friends. I would nail them all.
If I was a bufter then I would probably have real friends. In this case I would still nail them.

Luke · 19 Apr 2006 at 09:55

I'm a pretty non pysical person when it comes to friends. I'll never initiate contact, but I'll kiss if they start it and hug if they do.
I can't even stand handshaking amongst male friends, it just seems so pointless, especially when they play the "I've got an iron grip" game.

This lack of familiarity can have downsides as I found out about a couple of years back at a friends brothers funeral. As we were leaving, he did the manly hug/back pat gesture. Not being used to hugging blokes, my hand automatically wandered down to his buttock and I so nearly squeezed :eek:

I'm hoping that contact was not made, but although he's never said anything, there is still a bit of doubt in my mind

Davey_Pitch · 19 Apr 2006 at 10:59

I'll give my female mates a hug when I see them, and a kiss on the cheek if they do it first. My closest male mates just get a "hi" when I see them (which is pretty often), but male friends I don't see for a while (like a lot of friends I've made through the forum) will either get a handshake or a manly hug. Different strokes for different folks really, if someone felt uncomfortable being hugged then it wouldn't get done.

Otacon · 19 Apr 2006 at 11:05

Davey_Pitch said:
a manly hug.

Garp · 19 Apr 2006 at 11:14

I kiss virtually all my female friends on the cheek, every time we meet, the only ones I don't are ones who's body language suggests its not a good idea.
I can't see why people are finding this such a hard concept? Its a sign of affection, but not desire or lust or whatever else you wish to construe about it. None of my girlfriends have ever had an issue with it, and neither have I ever had an issue with any bloke kissing my gf in such a way on the cheek.

Guys I don't but then its never really felt appropriate to do so. Gruff masculine handshakes and back slapping for the win!

Mad old tory · 19 Apr 2006 at 11:40

Close lady friends get a kiss on the cheek, even when the missus is with me it's just friend etiquette i guess, always done it, haven't really thought much about it

Noticed at uni, most of my asian friends shake hands with me practically everytime i see them so i guess it's a cultural thing, most of my white mates i only shake hands with if i havnt seen em in a while...

Davey_Pitch · 19 Apr 2006 at 11:46

Mad old tory said:
Noticed at uni, most of my asian friends shake hands with me practically everytime i see them so i guess it's a cultural thing, most of my white mates i only shake hands with if i havnt seen em in a while...

I've noticed that as well (working at a Uni I get to see a lot of cultures interacting with each other), and it definitely does seem to be a cultural thing for Asians.

One More Solo · 19 Apr 2006 at 12:29

Haly said:
Got to agree with that.
Don't think I'd be able to stay with someone that was so distrusting of me no matter how much I cared about them :/

Personally I hug male friends and kiss some of them on the cheek, but it does entirely depend on the friend. I must be picky

I hope you're single YOU *****!!!1111

:rolleyes:

semi-pro waster · 19 Apr 2006 at 12:33

One More Solo said:
I hope you're single YOU *****!!!1111

Would you expect any less for F,PF?

Davey_Pitch said:
I've noticed that as well (working at a Uni I get to see a lot of cultures interacting with each other), and it definitely does seem to be a cultural thing for Asians.

Yeah it does seem to happen a fair bit, I also noticed it with a few of my french mates except it always ended up in some hugely involved 'gangsta' handshakes and shoulder touching.

Dave · 19 Apr 2006 at 13:19

French have got it sorted. Handshake for the men (none of that gangsta' rubbish) and kiss on both cheek for the girls. Repeat daily

Sputnik II · 19 Apr 2006 at 13:31

I always greet female friends with a kiss - Male friends with a handshake or a slap.

Treefrog · 19 Apr 2006 at 14:12

Sputnik II said:
I always greet female friends with a kiss - Male friends with a handshake or a slap.

A slap? Punch to the face or kick in the nads is the proper way to greet them. Sheesh!

Garp · 19 Apr 2006 at 15:36

big_white_dog84 said:
Any man that has female friends is probably homosexual anyway.

You need some serious help if you're so totally unable to relate to a female as anything other than as a lover. I can quite honestly state I am not homosexual, and yet 95% of my friends are female. Always have been, and probably always will be.
I'm never in a friendship with a girl because I want to get off with them, I'm only ever in a friendship because I find them nice people and get on with them, in exactly the same way as with male friends. You might have difficulty understanding this, so it seems, but I know for certain I am not alone in this.