Lads - this happened to you? Wife of 5yrs fallen out of love

I'm sorry to hear it! Time will heal the pain at the end of the day. This is your life, even if you shared it with somebody else for so long you have to remember that you are an individual. She has already come to this conclusion by the sounds of it.

Remember, you are a person, an individual. Fight for your own aspirations. I have never been married though. Although, what is marriage at the end of the day; a glorified love life?

Hope you feel better as time comes to pass
 
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Since you lot have been such a massive help to me by replying in your hundreds ( I can see some 2010 replies even!) to my thread the least I can do is tell you all how things are panning out.

Well its game over for me - she wants a divorce. She is still on holiday and will return in 5 weeks. After that she plans to move in with a mate and I guess soon after that the paperwork starts.

I hope I have the strength to get through it all. I read and re-read what you all have said and it helps me a lot.

Being told by someone that they dont love you anymore is I think one of lifes most severe tests. If you can get through this you can get through anything.

I can see that some of you on here can sense similar problems in your relationships. Hope you can nip em in the bud before they escalate to the level Im experiencing. Good luck.

Thanks again you guys, this forum rocks :)
 
I'm sorry but I think she's in the wrong here.

You've been together for five years and yet she can't bring herself to at least point out problems in the relationship until it's too late?

Sounds to me like she didn't want to save the marriage - and that screams "i've got my eye on someone else".

I've been with my partner for seven years - we're not married but if I do something she doesn't like, she's out with it and we get it sorted. And it works the same the other way around. We don't bottle stuff up and let it eat away at ourselves and the relationship.

She sounds like an extremely shallow woman.
 
Tute said:
... if I do something she doesn't like, she's out with it and we get it sorted. And it works the same the other way around. We don't bottle stuff up and let it eat away at ourselves and the relationship...
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I wish people were more like that, not just women and/or relationships.

Being told by someone that they dont love you anymore is I think one of lifes most severe tests. If you can get through this you can get through anything.
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Sounds right to me. Best of luck again OP.
 
Maybe she has committed adultery and is using this as a smokescreen to avoid detection eg the ramifications this could have on divorce settlements. Holiday for 5 weeks?
 
Having just split with my gf of 3.5years a few weeks ago and found out tonight she's now seeing the guy she cheated on me with a few months ago (it was nothing just a kiss...:rolleyes:) reading this thread again helps so much!

Just that piece of mind that you're not the only one going through the heartache, and that it WILL get better.

To the OP, I wish you all the best over what is going to be a difficult time. Keep posting here as you've seen there is lots of support.:)
 
Tute said:
Sounds to me like she didn't want to save the marriage - and that screams "i've got my eye on someone else".
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Yep reckon someone is paying her attention ,telling her what she wants to hear ,if so probably wont last ,when he gets her he will soon get bored and move onto the next victim .

Got the t-shirt me . She came crawling back when she realised the grass was not greener .
 
The same thing (Well almost) happened to me 7 months ago, with my GF of 2.5 years. I should've put in more effort tbh, but what can I do about it . If she'd of talked to me about it, I would have changed, I should have relised I was being a bit of a ****, but I didn't.

I'm still not over it to be truthful, I guess it be harder for you, as you've been together longer.

Nothing will get you over her except time, I still need more time but I'm getting there.

I haven't cut contact or anything like that, even though I was told on here thats the best thing, for me it was the right choice even if it meant it'll take longer to get over her.

Anyway I'm rambling.... the moral of the story is TIME is the only thing that will truely help you get over this.
 
Sorry to hear about this, it must be a terrible situation but like Tonyator said time is the key, just take one step at a time :)
 
Sorry to hear, it hurts but as the saying goes plenty more girls out there, but saying that you was married to her.

I know what it feels like myself, apart from the marriage part, I did ask her if there was anything she didn't like about me. that was about the only time we seen each other.
 
My mate got dumped for too much gaming ,he used to make his gf watch tv in the bedroom every evening as he was gaming on the main tv .He also use to talk to her like ~~~~in front of his mates .

He was living with her for about 5 years then she suddenly left him not for someone else but she just had enough ,he deserved it though .

He is going out with a right old bag now but she keeps him firmly in his place I guess thats what he needed .

I'm not saying that is similar to you ;)
 
Never happened to me, and i'm sorry it ended up like this. I'm too busy for a girlfriend, work 5 days per week, training in the evenings and i would only have time for her at the weekend, half terms and holidays.
 
Sorry to hear this bud,this is why i dont bother with relationships after breaking up with my ex 2 years ago (was together 3 and half years and lived together and everything) i simple cant handle the heart ache afterwards and prefer to pretty much stay single!

i obviously dont know your situation but times a healer dude, keep ya mind busy things will be come a lot easier before u even realise it!

Mark
 
Been through similar to this with ex last yr, heart wrenching breakup, yeh she's right to a point but in the other hand women are annoying in these situations, they mostly think that jus sleepin with there other half and being pleasent is there version of trying at a rel, they expect th guy do this also but also do extra things , why didn't she make more effort? Aside from lame hints?thing is blokes have hobbies etc a womans hobby is social interaction at it's v core, even happly married women would jump ship if a good looking and rich enough guy came along.....that's what women do unfort, they need constant attention and reminding, is abit random but that's evolution
 
With all these supportive messages such as "It is for the best", have any of you on here actually felt they were better off or met someone even better once your other half left/divorced you? By that, I mean when you were "dumped" and didn't want to. Not mutual breakup either. I'm genuinely curious.
 
DB_SamX said:
With all these supportive messages such as "It is for the best", have any of you on here actually felt they were better off or met someone even better once your other half left/divorced you? By that, I mean when you were "dumped" and didn't want to. Not mutual breakup either. I'm genuinely curious.
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I got dumped by my fiancée, and the next relationship I got in to has been unbelievably better than anything I have ever experienced.
 
krooton said:
I got dumped by my fiancée, and the next relationship I got in to has been unbelievably better than anything I have ever experienced.
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Lol. Yours has been vastly documented. But then, if I was happy the way you are, I would be making a big deal out of it also. :D :p
 
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