Life.

Neoni · 29 Dec 2006 at 03:43

Well lets get the blades sort myself out. no im not ******* emo.

and im not depressed.

right sorted!

Im currently at university (Creative Music Technology) really getting into the music at the moment, and im getting into my studies, being more creative than i have been in a while.. and life in general is going well, im going out clubbin and pubs and bars with friends, going out on night time with a few mates having generally a good time.

now then problem!

i have been single for a pretty long time, and to be honest its been middle of last year since ive been in a solid relationship, there is girls involved in my life but i dont know what i want from them, friendship, or more! i just think its probably not my time and i should keep plodding along... as im doing. but i feel like im goin' around and around and around. like im going nowhere, but i know im not.

Whats peoples opinions?

Raymond Lin · 29 Dec 2006 at 03:48

Go with the flow, whatever will be will be. Don't worry about it, enjoy it !

Al Vallario · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:00

Neon said:
Whats peoples opinions?

You should really stop rambling on Internet message boards at 3am...

*av

Neoni · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:08

Al Vallario said:
You should really stop rambling on Internet message boards at 3am...

*av

Quite Possibly.

ganesh · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:09

We're not you. Make some of your own decisions.

Zefan · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:13

Nale al t3h gurlz lol!

Errrm... I dunno. I seem to be pretty good at pulling and I pretty much always want more than just friends (When I've been single) so I've never had this problem!

I can't seem to grasp why a guy would want to have nothing more than a friendship, if there are no external reasons that make it impossible/awkward.

Dave85 · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:19

because sometimes you like a girl as friend so much that there like a sister and then it just gets wrong to think of it any other way

Neoni · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:22

DAvE18 said:
because sometimes you like a girl as friend so much that there like a sister and then it just gets wrong to think of it any other way

i dont want to get more than a friend, and then lose them? and have nothing to do with them at all.

Zefan · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:23

Neon said:
i dont want to get more than a friend, and then lose them? and have nothing to do with them at all.

You see this is where I don't get it. I'd prefer to have more than a friend and then not have them than just sitting wanting (even slightly) sexy time.

Locrian · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:29

When you say 'there is (sic) girls' do you mean 'there are girls that i sometimes hit up the back passage' or 'there are girls i sorta like but they dont even know my name'?

If your just playing the field I think thats ok, but if your not getting anywhere, maybe you should reassess.

Neoni · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:31

Locrian said:
When you say 'there are girls' do you mean 'there are girls that i sometimes hit up the back passage' or 'there are girls i sorta like but they dont even know my name'?

If your just playing the field I think thats ok, but if your not getting anywhere, maybe you should reassess.

there girls i hang around with, ones that im not sure if they want to go further, some i do.. theres a certain two i know and we are very friendly friendly. nothing sexual involved!

Zefan · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:40

Neon said:
nothing sexual involved!

Why not :\

I'm a firm believer that almost every single "Guy friend" a girl has is definitely after more and would certainly not say no to it, therefore I'm presuming that you want to hit it off with these girls. Just pick your favourite/mostlikeytoscorewith/a balance of both and concentrate on it.

Neoni · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:43

Zefan said:
Why not :\

I'm a firm believer that almost every single "Guy friend" a girl has is definitely after more and would certainly not say no to it, therefore I'm presuming that you want to hit it off with these girls. Just pick your favourite/mostlikeytoscorewith/a balance of both and concentrate on it.

i tryed it with one, it got some where to a certain point, then slipped away.

havent seen her in a while, me and her shared a few txts today and have decided to meet again, doubt it will be the same.

Zefan · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:49

Neon said:
doubt it will be the same.

Make it the same.

You can do anything if you try :cool:

I even succeeded in giving a girl one for the road when she knew what I was doing, that's when I realised I have extreme powers of seduction. Go for it!

I look forward to the "Nailed it!" thread

Neoni · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:52

Zefan said:
Make it the same.

You can do anything if you try

I even succeeded in giving a girl one for the road when she knew what I was doing, that's when I realised I have extreme powers of seduction. Go for it!

I look forward to the "Nailed it!" thread

that time hopefully will come until then! Bedtime. Oooooh right!

Night Ocuk, Its been fun!

Locrian · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:53

Zefan speaks the truth Neon!

At our age it isnt so much about relationships its about experiences. How many people do you know who are with the person they will probably marry? Exactly.

Zefan · 29 Dec 2006 at 04:56

Neon said:
Bedtime. Oooooh right!

Me three.

ironman · 29 Dec 2006 at 05:33

Locrian said:
Zefan speaks the truth Neon!

At our age it isnt so much about relationships its about experiences. How many people do you know who are with the person they will probably marry? Exactly.

I know of a couple, and a I know someone who has got married and engaged (20 and 21).

Experiences are fun, friends with benefits and all that but it gets really tiring/boring after a while because its all over in a flash and is kind of repetitive. I'm at the stage where I feel like i've had my fun and now seek more, in which case I sympathise with the OP, it's often difficult to know what exactly you want. My best advice is to talk to someone who knows you well, it helps....posting such a thread on the internet is not going to get you anywhere, no one knows who you are so you may not be given the best tactics as you need to play off your strengths.

Nix · 29 Dec 2006 at 05:46

Neon mate, don't wanna seem harsh -- but get it into perspective. A year or so since your last relationship? Oh no, the tragedy!

I know it's not a nice feeling but learn to enjoy your own company. She'll come along eventually.

Zefan, although you do raise a valid point, running from girl to girl every five seconds may be your idea of 'enjoying yourself', it's not necessarily everyone elses. I can see the draw to it, but I've never really been interested in doing it. I guess it's just against my character, as to me it seems like a pretty horrible thing to do to some people. You can get the experiences you talk of, but you don't have to use people.

Also, you don't have to want to sleep with someone to be their friends, although experience dictates that usually one of the two people do feel that way.

The best thing both of you can do, is just forget about the whole 'game' and just enjoy yourself. What happens, happens.

Saberu · 29 Dec 2006 at 07:14

Nix said:
The best thing both of you can do, is just forget about the whole 'game' and just enjoy yourself. What happens, happens.

Best advice in this thread. Last year I found myself really hung up on girls because I was seeing them/ sleeping with them for the first time. Then I felt like I needed a girl after that because having seen a couple of girls previously I felt incomplete without one. Then I realised I was just trying to fill a void in my life with girls which I should fulfill with something which doesn't make me needy for a girl.

I realised the things that matter in life- friends, health, having fun and ofcourse getting my work done to work towards a good career. The less you worry about girls the more you will not worry about rejection, fear and loss which means you won't be anxious about trying stuff with girls. The trick is to not care and enjoy yourself while at the same time not being afraid to meet lots of girls and take it a step further with them.