You can quite easily reach over 2GB in BF3 if you don't turn Windows Aero off. However, if you only have 2 GPU's the settings which you'd run out of VRAM with are unobtainable anyway due to low FPS.
That's why you'll hear people who use 2GB cards in surround saying to benefit from the extra 2GB you need 3 GPU's (so you have more GPU power).
Any questions let me know.
Skyrim can exceed 2GB at 1080p but the mods aren't optimised that well so it's down to each individual user really to weigh up how much they want to play modded Skyrim. A 7970 3GB is a better option if the answer is "a lot" because it matches a 680, is cheaper and has the extra VRAM.
Thanks for the reply. I remember reading that BF3 can use more than 2GB VRAM on 1080p and this was one of the reasons I mentioned the 4GB cards and also with mods on Skyrim but yes, for what it's worth it's not worth the extra on top of the 2GB cards so am just going to stick to the 2GB's. The extra 1GB you get with the 7970 was another thing that tempted me to go AMD but after reading that some games don't perform nearly as well and that there are lots of driver issues with the cards, I think I will stick with Nvidia. That and I like my PhysX.

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