Looks like divorce - can anyone offer advice or their experiences?

Thank you for all the replies, I have skimmed through them and will read them more throughly today, I have suggested to the family member already about contacting the bank.

I don't know how the money was moved, whether it was done in branch, done by transfer or cheque...is it possible for the other party to stop that money moving when it's in process (if it's not already gone)?

One quick point - this will be done through solicitors, no question, those in question have no time, energy or will to try and mediate and one of the parties has rather a strange way of thinking sometimes so it will need to be handled by professionals.

Please don't clutter the thread up with debate on the pros and cons of hiring solicitors - in this case that's the way it will be done.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to pick a good one?

Thanks again!
 
Undeterred said:
Lining the pockets of solicitors? That would be like saying "I want my car to be fixed properly, I could try to do it myself but may cause further damage to my car, but I dont want to line the pocket of the mechanic?". :confused:.
Click to expand...

Good analogy given the fly-by-night cowboy reputation that garages are tarred with!

Raymond Lin said:
You can do a lot things in law yourself too.

But do you know how? And do you know how deep and complicated the process can get? From conveyancing or divorce proceedings.
Click to expand...

I don't know what they are in the same why I doubt a solicitor would understand LUNS, QTrees and iSCSI like I do (it's part of my job) but unlike IT I think the legal world is full of jargon only to make it difficult for the layman to avoid the high fees.

You'll also note that I advocated (!) getting a solicitor involved because I understand how legally complicated and messy a normal divorce can get never mind the complicated one described by the OP.
 
TheBigCheese said:
Thank you for all the replies, I have skimmed through them and will read them more throughly today, I have suggested to the family member already about contacting the bank.

I don't know how the money was moved, whether it was done in branch, done by transfer or cheque...is it possible for the other party to stop that money moving when it's in process (if it's not already gone)?

One quick point - this will be done through solicitors, no question, those in question have no time, energy or will to try and mediate and one of the parties has rather a strange way of thinking sometimes so it will need to be handled by professionals.

Please don't clutter the thread up with debate on the pros and cons of hiring solicitors - in this case that's the way it will be done.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to pick a good one?

Thanks again!
Click to expand...

The legal 500 provides a kind of ranking system for lawyers.

http://www.legal500.com/c/east-midlands/private-client/family

This page has the top firms in the Midlands and leading individual family lawyers.

One thing you might want to do is contact a local family law barristers chambers and ask them if they can recommend a good family solicitor's firm, because they can give you a relatively objective assessment. There's still the possibility of bias (eg the barristers chambers recommending a firm that sends them a lot of work) but it can still give you an idea.

Personal recommendations can be difficult because people's opinions tend to err towards:

a) I "won" my divorce, so I had a great lawyer
b) I "lost", so my lawyer was dreadful

But if you talk to people who say their lawyer was very helpful, understanding and efficient, regardless of winning or losing, that can be useful.
 
Last edited:
Thanks for the information Skull that's brilliant, I've found a couple of interesting leads through the site you linked to.

Good point with a. and b., it is very subjective, I'll keep looking into it.

This does seem like a long hard road that's (probably) going to be travelled!
 
Cheers for the link Skully, it's not for me though, it's for a family member.

I know with all they have put up with and are currently dealing with the littlest possible work involved will be the only way to go, the reason I am currently researching this is because they are mentally exhausted and drained...it's not a happy situation. :(
 
Quick question...no-one may have an idea but I thought I'd ask anyway...

If divorce ends up being the path followed, what happens if the partner says they can't move out (leaving the mother with dependent child - in the house we assume) because they can't afford to?

And the reason they can't afford to is because they've done something ridiculous...such as buying a new car, with the aforementioned money that was moved from a joint account (though most of it was a loan which was to be used for family purposes that didn't come to pass).

I assume a Judge would take a dim view on that but I really have no idea.

And if they refuse to move out what happens then...can they be forced to go or is it stalemate?

Lots of things buzzing round my head at the moment as I find out more things.
 
TheBigCheese said:
Quick question...no-one may have an idea but I thought I'd ask anyway...

If divorce ends up being the path followed, what happens if the partner says they can't move out (leaving the mother with dependent child - in the house we assume) because they can't afford to?

And the reason they can't afford to is because they've done something ridiculous...such as buying a new car, with the aforementioned money that was moved from a joint account (though most of it was a loan which was to be used for family purposes that didn't come to pass).

I assume a Judge would take a dim view on that but I really have no idea.

And if they refuse to move out what happens then...can they be forced to go or is it stalemate?

Lots of things buzzing round my head at the moment as I find out more things.
Click to expand...

Occupation order such be applied for, as part of that the court will decide who should stay in the family home due to their vested interest. ie who the house belongs too.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom