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Lost my mum

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Merlin5, Apr 3, 2020.

  1. LoadsaMoney


    Joined: Jul 8, 2003

    Posts: 28,475

    Location: In a house

    so sorry for your loss :(
  2. iamdjdz


    Joined: Nov 24, 2006

    Posts: 4,364

    Sorry for you loss :(
  3. Dirk Diggler


    Joined: Jan 6, 2013

    Posts: 13,663

    Sorry for your loss, we live in sad times for now.
  4. .Lethal


    Joined: Jun 8, 2005

    Posts: 6,494

    Location: United Kingdom

    92 definitely a good run! Sorry for your loss.
  5. Sonea Fifer


    Joined: Dec 13, 2006

    Posts: 6,719

    Location: On the forest moon Endor

    There's not much I can say that other's haven't already dude - concentrate on getting yourself back to ship shape first, and then you can pay your respects, start to get things sorted and allow the grieving process to unfold.

    My condolences . . . . . .
  6. Andrew_McP


    Joined: Apr 21, 2003

    Posts: 2,726

    Location: South North West

    If there's any silver lining to this, it's that your mother didn't have a long, miserable decline, as so often happens to our old folk. And she was treated at a time when there's still spare capacity in the system, so you can be sure she was comfortable when she lost her battle. So sad not to be able to be with her, but my recent hospital experience with my own mother showed me that although staff can be very busy, there are always a few really wonderful folk on every shift who take their patients to their heart and treat everyone as if they were family members. So your Mum died among the extended family which is our NHS.

    92, as you say, is a very good innings; same cohort as the Queen. She lived through so many changes, so much world drama, so much evolution of society and life. But her watch over human history is over now. She's at peace, and everything she ever taught and shared with you lives on in you. She's safe from life's troubles, but you are not, and the very last thing she'd want is for you to waste one moment wondering if she caught it from you. Life is wonderful, random, and often rather cruel. So be kind to yourself, and try to remember the last time you heard her laugh.

    Oh, and firebomb that car, it clearly has it in for you!
  7. Hades


    Joined: Oct 19, 2002

    Posts: 23,950

    Location: Surrey and London

    Terrible. My genuine condolencies :(
  8. Merlin5


    Joined: Aug 17, 2009

    Posts: 15,055

    Location: Finchley Central, London

    Thank you so much everyone for your lovely well wishes and condolences. This community never ceases to impress me, particularly at times like now. Members here historically have always genuinely and warmly shown their care of other's loss, and now mine. I really appreciate you all.
  9. ezekial


    Joined: Jan 2, 2012

    Posts: 454

    Sorry for your loss. Please don't take any responsibility for it. Life is so unpredictable and we often can't control circumstances.
  10. Colonel_Klinck

    Wise Guy

    Joined: Oct 3, 2007

    Posts: 2,455

    Location: London, UK

    Sorry for your loss :(
  11. DB_SamX


    Joined: Feb 17, 2006

    Posts: 7,953

    Location: Winchester

    Sorry for your loss.
  12. Rotty


    Joined: Oct 18, 2002

    Posts: 40,286

    Location: Notts

    Sorry to hear the awful news, take care
  13. The_Abyss


    Joined: May 15, 2007

    Posts: 12,628

    Location: Ipswich / Bodham

    Sincere condolences. Do not let the blame rest on yourself.
  14. Combat squirrel


    Joined: Aug 7, 2004

    Posts: 10,176

    Sorry for your loss :(
  15. dirtybeatfreak


    Joined: Jun 25, 2006

    Posts: 4,051

    Location: Eastbourne

    Really sorry to hear this awful news, thoughts are with you and your family.
  16. silversurfer


    Joined: Jul 13, 2004

    Posts: 18,929

    Location: Stanley Hotel, Colorado

    I lost my dad just after fathers day, the only thing you can hope is they realised you will always miss them and I think your mom knew. You did your best, at 92 it really will be a throw of the dice who can survive this. Hope you get back to good health fully and are given a chance to remember your mom and process this all properly.
  17. b00merang69

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    Joined: Sep 27, 2019

    Posts: 2,578

    Sorry for your loss. :(

    I am in contact with my mum every day (same old and many issues), I need to give her meds etc and I also go out to local store but its a risk for her not me but nothing else I can do.

    I am O Neg so not sure if I had it would I give it to her or not as I probably will no know I have it.
    Last edited: Apr 3, 2020
  18. Lysander


    Joined: Aug 1, 2005

    Posts: 14,196

    Location: Flatland

    Sorry for your loss. All the best.
  19. Theophany


    Joined: Sep 1, 2010

    Posts: 10,274

    Location: Under the thumb.

    I don't think there is anything anybody can say to make you feel better right now but we all want you to be ok and hope you get through this ok. :(
  20. Yas786


    Joined: Oct 18, 2002

    Posts: 47,359

    Location: All over the world...

    So sorry for your loss OP :(.