My turn for a (pre?) Relationship thread

Morthoseth · 27 Apr 2006 at 10:55

Right, ive been working at this place for the last 6-7 months or so, and ive been down out of training for around 5 months, during which time ive obviously had contact with everyone else in the office.

There is this one girl, who i am actually quite fond of, and my problem right now is with myself wondering if she could possibly feel the same way.

Ok it all started with a chat at the photocopier (Romantic, eh?)

Since then, whenever i'd walk into the room she would turn and smile at me, and i would smile back - and vice versa for whenever she entered the room.

Time goes on to where we start emailing eachother quite a lot each day, just random chat even though we sit about 5 meters apart. (Telephony department, so we cant really get up and have a chat often), and i guess they could constitute as flirting, i mean - i'd ask her how her day was going, ask her if she had any plans tonight or at the weekend and so on.. and she is doing the same for me.

But hey, that could be classed as friendly conversation!

Now yesterday, she emailed me asking when i was going for lunch, i replied, and she asked me whether i would like to go to dinner with her and her friend, i of course said yes because i really like her, and am interested in her in general i guess it would be fair to say.

Did she ask me to go to lunch with them as a friend, or because she wanted to get to know me better but didnt want to ask me alone?

Am i reading too much into this?

Please advise relationship guru's, im 19 and havent had a girlfriend in a lot of years, i could say ive never had a 'propper' girlfriend, just from early on in secondary school.

Oli.

Stringy · 27 Apr 2006 at 10:58

I was gonna suggest 'suggest going for a drink', but it seems she beat me to it.
Perhaps she wants to set you up with her friend? Tread carefully young padawan, the runes have not been cast yet.

Rich_L · 27 Apr 2006 at 10:58

Did she ask me to go to lunch with them as a friend, or because she wanted to get to know me better but didnt want to ask me alone?

Probably the former but possibly the latter.

Don't build it up to much, it's just lunch with a work colleague

Take it easy and see how it goes, don't over-analyse and just enjoy it

playworker · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:00

Just relax dude, go out for dinner and enjoy yourself. If she's interested then she'll make it obvious, it's likely that she's feeling the same so has invited her friend along to avoid the possibility of rejection if she invited you for a romantic liason

If you're feeling flush then try and wangle it so you end up paying for dinner, that way when she protests you can suggest going out again sometime and letting her pay

Visage · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:00

MAybe she wants you to be the meat in her and her friends sandwich?

Stringy · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:01

TTIUWP

cleanbluesky · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:01

Dating works a bit like general friendship - there are no rules, but in general when a member of the opposite sex invites you to go somewhere you are leading down the Good Road towards a potentially Special Place with them...

uk_viper · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:03

go for the lunch see how that goes, and say in a couple of days ask her out for a drink like what stringy suggested, and chances are youll keep questioning till you find out

Morthoseth · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:03

Just to add, because it probably sounded that way.. it wasnt to the canteen or something like that, we took about an hour, hour and a halff off and went to wetherspoons for lunch

booyaka · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:05

sounds good so far - ask her out for a drink/cinema - all fairly low key options that don't scream out "i fancy u rotten!!"

Good luck

Stringy · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:05

Hang on, so it's already happened? Well how did it go? Were there any definite vibes given off?

MR_Punk · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:08

Morthoseth said:
Just to add, because it probably sounded that way.. it wasnt to the canteen or something like that, we took about an hour, hour and a halff off and went to wetherspoons for lunch

What did you have?

+44

phill · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:08

OCdt Stringy said:
TTIUWP

IDD : }

Morthoseth · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:08

Sorry, didnt make that clear either, she emaild me before lunch and asked if i wanted to go that day, i need to explain things better!

Well, it went ok, i mean - she is really chatty, and we got to know about eachothers interests a little better i suppose, it was nice, the food wasnt bad either

No definite vibes i'd say, although she acted more nervous than normal!

cleanbluesky · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:10

OCdt Stringy said:
Hang on, so it's already happened? Well how did it go? Were there any definite vibes given off?

It seems the OP has a problem with present and past tense. We may soon find out that he is recounting how he met his wife... :rolleyes:

Morthoseth · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:10

Plus-44 said:
What did you have?

+44

Bacon chicken and cheese melt! was delicious actually

Although i didnt offer to pay for all 3 of us

Morthoseth · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:13

cleanbluesky said:
It seems the OP has a problem with present and past tense. We may soon find out that he is recounting how he met his wife...

Apologies, i have never been very good at english

uk_viper · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:14

Morthoseth said:
Sorry, didnt make that clear either, she emaild me before lunch and asked if i wanted to go that day, i need to explain things better!

Well, it went ok, i mean - she is really chatty, and we got to know about eachothers interests a little better i suppose, it was nice, the food wasnt bad either

No definite vibes i'd say, although she acted more nervous than normal!

nervous than normal is usually a good sign, most likely she was trying not to say something unexpectantly or something

cleanbluesky · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:16

Morthoseth said:
No definite vibes i'd say, although she acted more nervous than normal!

A word of warning - dont expect clear signals, especially if she is nervous. But nervous is good.

Morthoseth · 27 Apr 2006 at 11:22

Well almost all replies have been pretty positive so far, which is a good sign

I'll hang around with her longer before asking her out or anything though of course, need to get to know her better, and we've had a good start.

I'll offer to buy her a drink this weekend and see how that goes