Well no, but at least one day when we're dead our kids will post on social media about how great we were. I went to soft play with my daughter, at which point wife declares she is ill and retires to the car. Rest of the day she's in bed asleep while I play with Riley. That's cool with me because it's a day to be with your kid anyway, but if she thinks she's getting out of sex she's mistaken.
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Well no, but at least one day when we're dead our kids will post on social media about how great we were. I went to soft play with my daughter, at which point wife declares she is ill and retires to the car. Rest of the day she's in bed asleep while I play with Riley. That's cool with me because it's a day to be with your kid anyway, but if she thinks she's getting out of sex she's mistaken.
No doubt it ends with a **** into her sick bucket
Went exactly as expected. Had a Tommy tank in the shower this morning purely because I already knew it'd go this way.
Can't comment on the bottle bit as we were never able to get Riley to breast feed, but wrt losing their **** and then getting nowhere, one thing that worked for me was essentially "resetting" by picking up and walking around (or even rotating slowly in a circle to keep the view changing). The key here being to distract by changing what they are looking at (distraction) then once chill trying again. May help, may not.
I don't think it really sunk in, properly I mean, until I saw my little girl for the first time and held her in my arms. Nothing prepares you for that. Amazing feeling. I'm excited for you! I just remember it getting progressively more real and then bam, very real.
Haha yeah I remember that really well; slowing down to a crawl to go over speedbumps lol.
Today I was eating lunch and I get a video call from my wife looking really panicked, saying "quick, get somewhere you can talk". I thought something serious had happened, like she was gonna show me a rash that didn't fade under pressure or something. My daughter was in hysterics, screaming at the top of her lungs because... She couldn't get her other arm in her sleeve and wouldn't let my wife help her. I had to spend 10 mins on the phone talking her down from not being able to get her arm in her sleeve. Surreal! She looked so sad by the end. Kids do the saddest frowny faces. She just didn't get enough sleep last night.
The good news is that even if she naps in the afternoon, the mother in law is over tonight and it'll be her problem
Sounds like you've dodged a bullet with the train thing. You'll have to be husband of the year when the missus arrives though as it will likely be the journey from hell.
Had my nervy suspicions confirmed yesterday... my son is a giantI wouldn't say he's any more developed mentally than other babies but it's like his physical development has become totally uncorrelated to his mental progress! At first I was secretly delighted we had a big strong baby, now I'm thinking that if he doesn't slow down soon he's going to really stand out when he's at school.
We met my wife's friends and their new baby for the first time yesterday. Both were big at birth - ours 9.1lbs and theirs 9.6 - and I'd thought they were both going to grow at a rate of knots.
Theirs is three weeks younger than ours, is a lovely kid, and whilst he seems to be growing at a normal rate, he's still in the 98th height percentile. By contrast, our son is like a gargantuan ogre when they were held next to each other - even thinking back to his size of 3 weeks ago he was vast. Ours looks like he's going to start eating villagers soon!
His last measurement had him miles past the requirement for 99th height percentile, and he's ******* solid too... his head is almost as wide as mine is already and his mouth is bigger than most adults. He's a strong baby also, got a hell of a set of lungs on him and rolls over on to his front with no problems at 12 weeks old.
I'm genuinely slightly concerned at the rate he's going as it's costing us a fortune to keep him clothed and comforted. He's too big for the Sleepyhead thing - which goes up to 8 months - and he's almost outgrown the pram bassinet... we've had to cut the feet off the 3-6 month sleep suits, and he's fitting into 9 month clothes now. It's not much of a surprise as I'm 6'4" and my wife is 6' - his uncle and my uncle are both 6'4" and quite large people - but we've had a few quite nasty and dispiriting comments from "professionals" out in public about how underdeveloped he is for his size, with them thinking he's much older than he is. It's started to affect my wife a bit but she's now taken to biting back a bit.
That said, I can imagine that he might be slow to get into his feet and may take a while to be able to support his weight...
Anyone got any recommendations for arm or wrist supports? My wife's wrist is causing loads of problems whilst my shoulder is a complete mess.
Firstly, sounds like you've got a badass lad growing strong. Provided all is well medically then you're doing grand, and the whole thing about not comparing your child's development to anyone else's applies here.
On the shoulder front, I had intense pain in my shoulder and neck that no amount of stretching fixed, until I did a bit of reading and discovered that it was my overworked chest muscles pulling my head forwards that was causing my shoulder pain. Did some of the recommended chest stretches and it soon went away. May not be the case for you of course, but it certainly saved my bacon
I have the mother in law over for a week so I've been enjoying a few breaks while nana gets all the attention. That said, it's a bloody nightmare trying to help because she wants nothing to do with us while she's here. I asked for a hug and a kiss goodnight, and she gave me the sassiest look, swished her hair at me and stomped up the stairs. I would've been upset if it hadn't been so bloody funny. Pretty sure she's 3 going on 13
Having a hell of a time with bathtimes lately. Screaming and full on meltdowns. I'm on the verge of just wrestling her into the bath and getting in there with her to get her clean. If I do that I think she'd never have a bath again though. She's big enough now that it is bloody difficult to get her in there if she doesn't want to, and it sounds like someone's murdering her.
Anyone figured out "one cool trick that sorts bathtimes out. Toddlers hate it!" that they can share? Feel like we've tried everything!
Anyone figured out "one cool trick that sorts bathtimes out. Toddlers hate it!" that they can share? Feel like we've tried everything!
Yeah well Riley used to be great with baths, then one day she asked to have a shower and that has been great (so much faster), and literally just the last 2 weeks she's been dead set against it. The last 2 days we haven't been able to get her in there, so I am literally considering getting in there, wrestling her in with me (mostly because she'll hurt herself trying to get out) and getting her clean one way or another.
We've tried toys, hugs, having talks about it, removing priveledges, straight to bed with no stories etc, to no avail. She just goes NUTS. tomorrow she's getting clean come hell or high water though.
We've tried toys, hugs, having talks about it, removing priveledges, straight to bed with no stories etc, to no avail. She just goes NUTS. tomorrow she's getting clean come hell or high water though.
Yep, I think this is just a continuation of that theme. It's just more noticeable now she is bigger, stronger and more able to articulate her rage
Sorry to hear about both you gents having a scary time. I can only imagine how awful it must feel. As the others have said though, you're doing everything right so just keep talking. It's important to be strong, but it's also important not to go nuts trying to pretend you're fine throughout the most vulnerable experience you can have.
In the end I had to wrestle her into the shower with me and get her clean like that while she screamed bloody murder. She's been fine since
I've had this plenty. Usually if I go away on work I'm persona non grata for a while. "daddy go AWAAAAY" and all that. It tends to pass when the wife goes out for a night and vi have her for the weekend
how are baths out of curiosity? We are lucky our lad is a proper water baby and if he could he would have a bath or a shower (or both) every single day.... but i believe some young kids really hate showers. i myself remember not likeing them and panicing somewhat that i could not breath properly in them at a very early age.
either way glad you seem to have cracked it
She used to be all about baths, but one time on holiday there was only a shower and she asked to go in it. Since then, she will only do showers (which is A-Okay with me because it's a lot faster).