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My three year old intentionally does things she knows she shouldn't. She'll run off and shut the door, and when I come in she is inevitably holding something she knows she's not allowed. Like NVP I focus on what she should be doing, but I do set a boundary "Riley if you do that one more time, I'm going to take that away" and then follow through. You just gotta be careful you don't threaten a consequence you don't want to enact. My wife is all "straight to bed with no stories" or "I'll call nana and she won't come over to see you" which I think is completely the wrong choice for a number of reasons, but any time I try to discuss it, she gets defensive and turns into a martyr. She does have to handle her all day during the week so I appreciate its easy to pick up bad habits to help you get by though. As a result, she never gets any peace though because if I say no, Riley runs off to her for the inevitable compromise.
Definitely discuss strategy with the other half to avoid that.
Everyone does their own thing. We tried the controlled crying thing, but frankly we couldn't handle it. Now she's good as gold, has her stories and goes to sleep every night. I'll admit it was a rough couple years until that though!
Riley has completely gone off me the last few days. I come home from work and get told to go away into the kitchen and I'm not allowed to hug her. My wife asked her why she was being mean and she says "I don't like daddy anymore. I don't love him". Brutal!
Not as brutal as my wife and I simultaneously getting her stomach bug on her day off from nursery. So now we are taking turns exploding our guts out while the other one does their best not to chunder on our daughter.
Riley has completely gone off me the last few days. I come home from work and get told to go away into the kitchen and I'm not allowed to hug her. My wife asked her why she was being mean and she says "I don't like daddy anymore. I don't love him". Brutal!
Not as brutal as my wife and I simultaneously getting her stomach bug on her day off from nursery. So now we are taking turns exploding our guts out while the other one does their best not to chunder on our daughter.
My girl loves to climb stuff and has for ages. Just be prepared for them to apply those skills at home! I reckon as long as you are there ready to catch them (trust me they will fall/get stuck) then what's the problem. Generally a playground is a good place to start though.
@robgmun it didn't feel really real for me until I heard her cry as she came out. It got progressively more real up until that point, but it was still this abstract concept until then for me. Pretty amazing feeling though!
You can get those tiny laptop/travel mice. Maybe that would suit?
Sounds like you've got it in hand my man. Get the old bag out so you can get freaky with your missus without the old "we can't, my mum is nextdoor" excuse
That was me the other week. Wife and I got it at the same time. Diabolical! Mercifully my mum was able to come take our then recovered daughter off for a night which was enough of a reprieve for us to chunder our way to a state where we were able to handle taking care of her again. Nothing more awful than taking care of a toddler while desperately ill (other than multiple toddlers).
On the subject of what his peers will do, they may well make comments, but that's when you tell him he can like what the hell he wants and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
Some girl told my daughter that she was a boy, which confused and upset her, and so I had a chat with her (Riley, not her friend) and sorted her out and she's gotten over that.
Some girl told my daughter that she was a boy, which confused and upset her, and so I had a chat with her (Riley, not her friend) and sorted her out and she's gotten over that.
I quite liked the baby owners manual because it was pretty practical. Eg how to swaddle, etc.
Good luck mate! It's a hell of a ride, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. You'll have the whole thing figured out in a week or two, guaranteed. It's pretty straightforward at the beginning (hungry/dirty nappy/tired/hugs to stop crying) and you'll suss the rest out. Just stock up on loads of wipes, nappies, muslin squares and grow suits and you can't go far wrong. Have a bit of formula on hand BTW, breast feeding can be tricky so it's good to have it. Felt like a pillock at the hospital when we didn't have any and couldn't get ours to breast feed.Haven't posted in this thread or really looked in it before, probably should have before now. But my wife is approaching 39 weeks with our first. So the countdown is truly on now! Wish us luck aghhhhh. I don't know much about raising a baby but if my younger brother has managed it so far for the last few months with his newborn I figure I have a good chance
Do you know what you're having?
I thought I wanted a boy, but now I have a girl I wouldn't change it for anything, so I can say with confidence that you'll be happy either way!Will do thanks! The wife is all up for trying breast feeding at the start but happy to bottle feed it if doesn't work out. We have plenty of bottles/bottle making equipment on standby. And no we don't know what we are having, she keeps calling it a girl so I keep saying boy to try and balance it out haha.
Also the cat has started trying to sleep in the next to me crib so we need to keep chasing it away. Arrrg. (house cat that until very soon has been treated like our baby and had run of the house).
Glad to hear you're getting the support you need for George!
Me, the support I'm getting is even better. Mother in law is taking Riley up north to stay with brother in law for a WEEK! I am off work for the week, so my wife and I have a whole week off being responsible adults. I am so excited to just go for a coffee, watch a film in bed, and finally get our bondage kit back out.
Haha... No. One is plenty for us. I'm gaining an inch of forehead for every year I've had my daughter and I don't need to accelerate that.Child # 2 coming in roughly 9months then?
Oh man, wife as well. Bliss.Wife goes back home to see family for a week at end of the month and son going with her, really helps with the sleep/mental reset.
Might have accidentally booked a week off work at the same time
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I'll admit that having the wife here has provided some opportunities though. Grownup hugs!
Yeah I feel you there mate, the stress of raising a kid, project managing a household, trying to get beach body ready, it's not conducive to getting jiggy. Then if you raise it as an issue they feel pressured and it's even worse.I've had more grownup hugs in the last three months than the last three years.
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Being quite patient, she's struggling with her own body issues post pregnancy
I'm in the same boat to an extent, but I sold my rift to pay for some fitness course and now she feels guilty enough that she has to get up and do the workout every morning. That means she's getting results and feeling better about herself, which is all good news for me.
I don't know if the whole "happy wife, happy life" adage is true, but I know the reverse is so generally things like taking her out to dinner and getting her ****** are worth the expenditure