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Diagro said:
So, my son is now approaching 4 months old.

He has changed so much, I miss the newborn he once was.

I've been back at work since September, and I feel like I have missed so much.

He's such a happy boy, and always awakes with a massive smile.

Fatherhood... Is wonderful
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Don't worry man, every time something changes and you lose one of the little things (like then being small enough to fall asleep on your chest), you get something new (crawling, walking, talking etc). I feel you though. I get home at 6, and I do bath and bedtime, and really weekends are where I get to interact.

I do get to hear her tell me about her day now though, which is really cool. I get to hear her opinions on things (often hilarious) now she's pretty chatty.

Basically, it stays awesome
 
Yeah I had a similar experience recently. Temp over 40C, call 111, they send out an ambulance, who recommend bringing her in to hospital. Worried faces all round as we carry our limp roasting daughter out. Get to the hospital and she's all jokes and smiles and temp has dropped to a high 37. Now any time she has a cough she says "Not very well, need a ambulance".
 
Yeah mine was the same. They're like plague houses those play groups, but they do get over it eventually and then it's just the usual sniffles and coughs.
 
Droolinggimp said:
We got worried about our lads nappy training. He started Nursery in September and when we initially enrolled him and chatted to the teachers etc he was still in nappies, he was 3y4m. They didn't mind kids in nappies but prefered them not to be. This was around May time. We tried potty training but he wouldn't have any of it the last year. Then one day in May my wifes friend popped round with her daughter, 8yo I think and she and our lad got on and played together. It was really good to see. At one point she needed the toilet and she went upstairs and our lad followed her. We could hear them upstairs, no idea if they were both in the bathroom but the next day our lad shouted, Wee Wee and ran to the toilet, sat down and had a wee. The rest is history..

Amazing how they learn.
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Yeah, the weird trick for us was when I told her she could flush the toilet if she used it. Suddenly she was all up for giving it a go. Now she does a pee, stands up and says "daddy I so proouuud of youooo!"
 
subbytna said:
Average UK salary is about £27k. Wouldn't say equates to 27k.
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I know what the intent was, I was just being an insufferable pedant for some reason.

I also agree it should be on household earnings though. Seems crazy that you can be scraping by on one good wage between you and get bugger all.
 
My daughter has started really testing boundaries the last few months. "don't kick mummy, it hurts her" *takes three steps back and gives mummy a running kick* "right, that's it! No toys tonight!".
 
I've been away on work for a week, which is the longest I've ever been away from my daughter, and I can't wait to see her. I've had lots of videos of her helping to decorate the Christmas tree and this is the first year she seems to actually get that Christmas is a thing. Quite cool to see her getting excited about it all. Have a feeling I'm going to get sick of hearing the first two lines of jingle bells sung over and over, but at this point I can't wait.

Don't know how other dads who travel a lot manage, although it has been amazing to have unbroken sleep (barring jet lag) for a week.
 
grumpybeard said:
@subbytna tagged mate, after reading back a few pages. It’s been a rough ride for us this year. Found out wife pregnant earlier this year, first check indicated twins and possible co-joined (Siamese). More in-depth check revealed mono mono twins (same sac), so big risk of cord entanglement etc. For months several visits a week to hospital for ultrasound scans and ctg (heart rate). DurIng one of those checks a heart deceleration with one twin meant hospital transfer by helicopter at midnight, further checks and twins delivered by c section 5 days later, delivered at 31 weeks. Several weeks in hospital, lots of checks, but now I happy to say my beautiful, healthy, twin girl little heroes have been home 6 weeks. I adore them to bits.

Twins though!! My goodness, adorable as they are it’s hard work. Wife and I exhausted, if it’s not twin that needs a nappy change or soothing it’s the other, there is no respite. The wife and I are having moments were we can’t stand each other, purely due to tiredness, and we’re hanging on for milestones where they start sleeping better/through the night.

Never known anything as tiring but rewarding! Support from dads of twins welcome!
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Congrats dude. Once they are older they'll take care of eachother and it'll be easy Street (so I'm told, I have one and she has no energy limits). It gets easier and you have no idea how much amazing stuff you have coming (first time they tell you they love you will kill you). Hang in there and try to give eachother nap breaks
 
subbytna said:
@grumpybeard My boys are 3 on Saturday. It's all been a bit of a blur tbh. Can't believe I've made it through 3 years lol. I'm going to see if I can start a dads of multiples thread as this thread doesn't really do justice to how different multiples are over a new baby. It's like saying ah you can game on a console and game on a PC so it's the same thing....it isn't! You now know it with you two girls.
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I have mad respect for anyone with multiples, I find it hard enough with one and literally cannot comprehend how two at the same time, especially as your first, would be.
 
Abraxaz1 said:
I'm guilty of liking my days /nights away for work. I get to choose my hotel and location.

It's like going back 2 years and I get to be just an adult not a dad, no need to worry about if she's sleeping, if she's eating enough, got enough dummies or is too cold or too hot.

Bit naff for the missus but can be helped and I do think of her as I have my meal and pint.
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Ah now it's a guilty pleasure of mine have a night or two away, but I found a week was enough to make me really want to come home. I'd find a month+ unbearable. That said, it was really great to come home to my girls after the week away :)
 
I thought I had it easy. My girl slept through until 9 months. Haven't had a night of unbroken sleep since. Now she can just hop out of bed and come into us, she takes full advantage
 
Hope everyone had a good Xmas with their small ones and are not yet sick of playing that one game they've latched onto.

Got my daughter a balance bike, and it's crazy how fast they learn. Day 1 she's just walking along and holding the bike up between her legs. Day 2 we go to the park and she's free wheeling down grass hills like a little speed demon.
 
Our daughter didn't bother crawling and we thought she'd be slow walking. She crawled for like two weeks before she started walking. Seems like she wanted to get carried everywhere until she felt happy to walk.
 
skaif said:
How you guys dealing with the terrible 2's?

My girl turned 2 in November and she started nursery at the same time (1 hour twice a week which has now turned into 2 hours a day)

She was an absolute saint before - learned all her ABC's, counting to 15, pooping and peeping independently (tells us so we can take her) and listening to us - we rarely had to pull out the 321 countdown, plus loads of other stuff.

Recently though she just cries! You know the open mouth one where they just moan - not really cry. Its usually about nothing (not getting her way or being told off or sharing a toy) Its infuriating as you ask her if she wants a lollipop and shes right as rain.
I am concerned its something she picked up at nursery but I don't want to point the finger and its all part of her experiencing different things. But when at home I have a certain expectation. This isnt it.

We have tried a star chart with rewards and seeing how that goes but I am not sure its making a difference.

Any ideas?
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Mine is the same (worse by the sound of it). Getting her socks and shoes on to leave for work/nursery in the morning when she's tired can be extremely stressful. Screaming, tantrums, the lot. Generally, I just allow a bit more time, as rushing her makes her freeze up. Like me, she likes to ease into the day
 
Liquid_Entity said:
We didn't have terrible 2s with our boy. We now have troublesome 3s. Much more vocal much more refusals. Getting him in bath is a chore and then getting him out is even worst. Brushing teeth also a nightmare. Tried all the tricks like pretending he does mine etc. 'don't want to' is all I hear back.
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I found a good trick for getting out of the bath. I ask her if she wants me to splash her with cold water. I did it once (not loads, just a wee spray from the tap), and now I just have to reach for the tap and she springs up and is ready to go. Getting in, on the other hand, is still hit and miss. Generally positive reinforcement (a game or something) works best for me. She just hates washing her hair because she won't look up and close her eyes to wash the shampoo out.
 
robj20 said:
If anyone is interested there was a program on the BBC called Hospital series 4 episode 4, a lot about my son's cardiac surgeon Ramana and specifically one of the operations he had ECMO. Some really good bits about his dedication to his job and how his family understand him being away from them for so long.

Hope some of you watch it.


Episode one covered his neuro surgeon Conor Mallucci.
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That's pretty rad that they're giving some recognition to these people who do frankly ridiculously complex operations. Especially when they make such an incredible difference to people's lives
 
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