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Yeah it goes quickly alright. I still remember my daughter falling asleep on my chest like a little pillow. Now she falls asleep on me like a bag of cement.Everyone always says it, but it never ceases to amaze me how quickly they grow! Nearly 6 months and loving life.
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Still, I love that now I can have little conversations, and listen to her thoughts on things (often hilarious or sweet). Essentially they continue to get more awesome is what I'm saying.
I look forward to it. As dad, I find breast fed baby to be more pain than joy. I'm quite useless much of the time, so it will be great as he becomes more interactive. On the contrary, mum dreads him growing up
If it's anything like us, you get to be fun dad while anything requiring serious emotional support (like stubbing a toe, or feeling a bit tired) will require mummy. So she's probably right to.
It flip-flops though. Today Riley found out what a stinging nettle is the hard way and I was tasked with telling off all the nettles for stinging her and periodically kissing her knuckle better.
Also, these lighter evenings are playing merry hell with the bedtime routine. My sweet girl turns into the devil at bedtime now. "it's not dark daddy!" is the harbinger of tantrums, screaming, escape attempts and all the rest.
Anyone else having this? Blackout curtains the only option?
Anyone else having this? Blackout curtains the only option?
On the paying for fuel thing, I wouldn't leave my daughter in the car. She can now get out of her car seat and open doors (3), and I'm paranoid anyway. I just bring her in with me. If you're in a rush, it's obviously stressful, so I try to make sure I don't have to rush!
Almost certainly fine to leave them, but I just get this thought of "what if" and figure I'd rather be safe than get back out and she's not there or something. My dad had his Harley nicked while we were in a glass fronted shop for 5 mins, so I don't trust the idea that I have line of sight.
Almost certainly fine to leave them, but I just get this thought of "what if" and figure I'd rather be safe than get back out and she's not there or something. My dad had his Harley nicked while we were in a glass fronted shop for 5 mins, so I don't trust the idea that I have line of sight.
I gotta know: the last four?Regarding the Ocuks list of stuff we need and stuff that's not needed, I think it's a great idea..
We have two kids now, 4 and 1. Many times when their mum is wanting to get the next size up for them I always say just get a pack of 7 vext and 7 grows. All the same colour. The older lad. I just say 3 pairs of jeans, 1 tracky bottoms and 7 tshirts all black (hides spag bol stains better). 7 pairs of socks all same colour and same with briefs. I am a man of simple means. outfits do my head in, PJs I get our oldest to put on any combination but mum has to have him in sets.
So for the list:
cot
travel system, get the cheapest you can then once 6 months old get a stroller. Lighter, smaller, more convenient.
sleeping bag
wipes (lots)
nappies
Vests
grows
muslin cloths
no need for monitor unless you live in a mansion or out in the garden a lot
cheap £1 bottles from superdrug unless baby has issues drinking for them.
A plastic ball
quality street tin or plastic tupperware thing
usb cable
hotwheel cars
pretty much what our latest needed.
Also, I'm gonna add
-car seat: don't worry about whether it expands up to fit them until they are 18. It'll be gross AF after a year or two. Priority ought to be how easily you can fit it into any car, and how easily you can get the lining off and back on.
Don't worry mate, I feel your pain. Having had the last 12 days off with my wonderful wife and daughter, I'm quite looking forwards to going back to work! So far the best strategy for us has been just let her have her little strop (time out) and then she eventually comes in all smiles. Not cracked the dinner thing yet, as she always hops off her chair and gets distracted, and occasionally bathtime can be a bit trying. Out in public I just try to remove her from the situation so I can get her to run out of steam in a less embarrassing setting. That has often involved me wrestling a writhing 3yr old out while she screams "DON'T TAKE MEEEEE! STOP TAKING MEEEE!" in front of onlookers who don't know whether to smile knowingly or report an abduction.
I regularly get told that I'm not her friend anymore/she doesn't love me/etc any time I don't let her have what she wants, but she gets over it quickly and then I get to be her friend again.
Tldr; we just let her run out of steam with a bit of time out, or if she's just overtired, hang on until bedtime because you're just buggered.
I regularly get told that I'm not her friend anymore/she doesn't love me/etc any time I don't let her have what she wants, but she gets over it quickly and then I get to be her friend again.
Tldr; we just let her run out of steam with a bit of time out, or if she's just overtired, hang on until bedtime because you're just buggered.
That feeling of vulnerability is there to stay I'm afraid. Wait until they start walking!Not posted for a while but I though I'd give a quick 13 week update. It's been a up and down past month or so. The week after our Reassurance scan and telling our families the good news my girlfriend called me when I was in bed to say she was bleeding quite badly, she called 101 and they were asking questions, how dark is the blood, how much, any clots or pain and to wait for an ambulance to arrive. Bearing in mind she's in Nottingham and I live in Sheffield, I drove down at silly speeds to get there. The ambulance arrived at around 11:30pm and they did a few tests on her before taking her to Hospital and I followed in the car.
Once there she had her bloods taken, blood pressure and then was take up to the Early Pregnancy Unit, by around 2:30am two nurses started to physically examine her and then they said the last thing to do was a scan to finally make sure baby was ok. But this could only be done the next morning, they were not concerned by the tests, examination or bleeding so were happy for us to go home and come back that morning.
By this point I had been up nearly 22 hours but given the shock and worry I wouldn't really sleep. We went back at 10am for the scan and thankfully our little baby was there happy as Larry as if nothing had happened. The person who did the scan had a look to see if she could see any reason for bleeding but with no luck. I must admit I was expecting the worst though I was trying my hardest not to show this and was keeping positive for myself but mainly for my girlfriend, I did nearly choke-up when I saw the screen.
Every nurse we spoke to were brilliant and told us the same thing, they can't explain why some women bleed throughout pregnancy, they've seen women bleed lots and the baby is fine and some women have just spotting and have unfortunately lost their baby, it's just one of those things. We were advised by the nurses and midwife that if she bleeds again to call the midwife or go direct to the EPU if we're really concerned and they'll do a scan for us.
Fast forward, we've just been for our "12 week" scan yesterday but yesterday morning I had an email off my girlfriend while I was at work saying that she was spotting so she called the midwife who again, asked how much, colour, any pain etc... she wasn't worried and advised us to go to our scan as normal that afternoon. We went to the scan worried but not half as much as when she went via the ambulance, the baby is fine, 13 weeks and 1 day old and we're due on 6th November. Baby was awkward during the scan not in the right position but they eventually got what they needed. We're going back for our 20 week scan on 21st June.
So all in all a quite stressful past month but I'm just happy both mum and baby are fine. I just hope the bleeding/spotting stops but have a feeling it'll be on and off throughout, if it happens again we'll just go for another scan to reassure us both. The baby is only 13 weeks old and is already a handful
Glad to hear all is well, despite the panic stations moments. We had a few of those, the worst being when Riley's heart rate started plummeting during labour. You just hope like hell the staff know what they're doing and rely on them with every finger and toe crossed!
Yeah you'll get there before you know it. I remember looking forwards to being able to talk to my daughter and have her understand, or even talk back. Now she talks back alright. Yesterday I was winding her up by being silly and she said "don't start with me, daddy". She's only 3 and she's already getting sassy
Haha, yeah lots of that happened in our house: "Riley, go ask mummy if she can change your nappy"
"no daddy I want you to do it"
Last weekend when it was raining she looked out the window and said
"daddy it's really raining, jesus christ"
and I had to tell her off and explain why she can't say that without laughing. She just said "mummy says it" and when I told her we should tell mummy off too she whispers "okay daddy, not say jesus christ or ******* sake". Just wanted to get that last one in there on a technicality. Bloody sponges they are
Yep, it's hilarious, but at the same time it does really make you realise how much they listen. Everything you say to or around them gets absorbed by those little brains. Tells you a lot about yourself watching them play with their friends doesn't it! I've managed to curb my language around her pretty easily, but my wife is a... Passionate... Woman who struggles to reign it in when she's fired up. The one I'll cut her slack on is driving. I had a car cut me up the other day with Riley in the back and caught myself shouting "******* hell!" so I can't take the high road there. God help me if she spouts that out at nursery and teaches all her little buddies.
Congrats dude! Clearly a glutton for punishmentJust had our twenty week scan and found out that im gonna be having a little son in september.
My daughter is a little sad that she wont be getting a little sister that she can dress up but she got over it very quickly and i think she will just be happy to have a sibling to play with.
Will be a big change for us as my daughter will be 6 in december and weve been living a very comfortable life, new house new car and obviously a routine etc etc so turning it all upside down again is a little daunting but exciting at the same time.
Anyway thought id sorta announce it here to a load of strangers and get a little off my chest at the same time
I can't offer much help on this one. Ours didn't even crawl for ages, so when she started standing up it was just a case of sitting just out of reach so she'd take a step. If she does a bit of walking while assisted I'd have just continued with that until she decides she wants to go a different direction to you and walks off on her own
I get why people like the surprise, and we didn't do that so I can't compare the feeling of finding out early or not. I just know that finding out early was exciting and fun and I don't regret it one bit. We got fairly gender neutral clothes anyway because we didn't want our daughter to feel too pressured to be a girly girl unless that's what she wants to be. As it turns out, she hates dresses and we wish she'd wear them because she looks so bloody cute in them.
New topic: what's the most awkward moment you've had with your kid/s?
Mine was 2 days ago. My daughter was lying on her front on the sofa watching telly and sorta squirming about a bit in a way that looked pretty familiar. So I asked "watcha doin Riley?"
"touchin my peepee" *giggles* "it tickles"
*tries not to scar child for life*
"okay darling"
*leaves room awkwardly*
Tried explaining yesterday when she did it again that it's okay to do, but people usually do it in private. She was like "but I like it" so that didn't fly
New topic: what's the most awkward moment you've had with your kid/s?
Mine was 2 days ago. My daughter was lying on her front on the sofa watching telly and sorta squirming about a bit in a way that looked pretty familiar. So I asked "watcha doin Riley?"
"touchin my peepee" *giggles* "it tickles"
*tries not to scar child for life*
"okay darling"
*leaves room awkwardly*
Tried explaining yesterday when she did it again that it's okay to do, but people usually do it in private. She was like "but I like it" so that didn't fly
Haha, classic! I think the worst I've heard was from a colleague who was towelling her daughter off between her legs and when she stopped her daughter said "don't stop mummy that feels good" 
It's funny how you realise how much of your core beliefs around sexuality are learnt rather than innate by watching your kids just be like "yeah it feels good so I'm just gonna do it.
It's funny how you realise how much of your core beliefs around sexuality are learnt rather than innate by watching your kids just be like "yeah it feels good so I'm just gonna do it.
I take my 3yr old into the gents. I think at 6 I'd let her go into the ladies by herself and wait outside the door, but I'm not there yet so can't comment really.
Got a genuine lol from me.Reminds me of my two.
At Nursery one morning...
Also,
- Daughter: "My Mummy Hurts Me"
- Me: Err...
- Nursery (eventually): "How does Mummy hurt you?"
- Daughter: "Sometimes she pulls my hair when she brushes it
"
On both occasions, I was expecting to get a knock on the door (if not just bundled in a police van!)
- Daughter: "I played hide the sausage with daddy"
- Me: ...
- Nursery: ...
- Daughter: "I hide the sausage under the pasta and then eat the pasta first"