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Right, just looking for some advice, basically.

Got a lovely new girlfriend, we've been together for around 2 weeks now. just one problem, she lives in oxford, and I in london. and come october, I will be in bristol, while she should be in durham.

We both want it to work out, so basically, I'm looking for some advice on how best to make a long distance relationship work. I know it can be done, Ijust want to better my chances.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.
 
Just go along with it.. be happy and it'll work out. As soon as you start doubting then long distance relationships tend to go a bit sour.

I Live 240 miles from my lady, but i've been with her for a year now. I drive up to Liverpool from Portsmouth once a month, she comes down once a month. We both spend a few days together n get on with it.

All i have to say really.
 
See each other as much as possible:confused:. Wont be easy, i should know my gf lives in NYC but been with her for over a yr and yeh its hard. But i try to get there as much as possible...plus it takes a lot of trust as my gf tends to get a lot of attention from other guys but i have enough trust in her for not to do anything.

Hmmm other than that i cant think of anything else you can do to make it easier, there is no surefire way of making it work..all i can say is good luck and dont take her for granted. But dont be surprised if it doesnt work out as she will make new friends where she is and you will too.
 
1) Get used to spending a lot of money on train tickets or petrol
2) Get phone contracts that give you a boatload of free minutes
3) Get ready for the flak you get from mates for abandoning them for whole weekends to see your lady

</3 years long distance while at uni>
 
Sorry but that's nowhere near long enough for a relationship thread ;) , so it's obviously not thaaaaaaaaat important. Will read later and advise.

:Edit: WHoops it's actually Zefan here on m.v's account.... whoops :o :o
 
meggy-vengeance said:
Sorry but that's nowhere near long enough for a relationship thread ;) , so it's obviously not thaaaaaaaaat important. Will read later and advise.
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yeah, just looking for general advice on making a long distance one work, rather tahn *** typical "oh noes, im reading far too much into it/i cheated/she cheated/ect etc" stuff.

advice, not a problem ;)
 
I live and go to uni in Edinburgh, DRZ lives in Wirral goes to uni in Manchester. We try to see each other as much as possible, talk online and on the phone. It's expencive but worth it. If you like her enough it will work.
 
I'm sorry to say that I really don't think this will be a lasting relationship! You have been together two weeks and seem to think that is enough basis to pretty much cut physical contact completely and for things to work out? Its possibly, very unlikely though.

I've now had two Uni relationships fail, I don't see the problem being the distance, I see it being uni-lifestyle itself, which is a damn shame as I have been seeing a girl over the summer who is going back to uni come september :(
 
vonhelmet said:
1) Get used to spending a lot of money on train tickets or petrol
2) Get phone contracts that give you a boatload of free minutes
3) Get ready for the flak you get from mates for abandoning them for whole weekends to see your lady
</3 years long distance while at uni>
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4) When it breaks up, think what a bloody waste of time it was and how much fun you missed out on.

Cynic, moi :p

(And yes, I know that the occasional long-distance relationship does work out :p )
 
Try very hard not to get too paranoid about things, however much you may think things are going badly they probably aren't.
 
nelsby said:
Communicate!
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Yeah baby!

Been with my amazing man for a year and a half now. I'm in Swansea he's in Leeds. We both cope fine as we're constantly in touch sending silly txts and mails and talking on the phone almost every night.
 
Me and the misses have been going out going on three years, one of which ive been at uni. We take it in turns doing the two hour train journey every other weekend to see eachother. It can be hard, but holidays are made all the more amazing :D
 
vonhelmet said:
1) Get used to spending a lot of money on train tickets or petrol
2) Get phone contracts that give you a boatload of free minutes
3) Get ready for the flak you get from mates for abandoning them for whole weekends to see your lady

</3 years long distance while at uni>
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BINGO!!! - exactly the same here!!!
 
Rich_L said:
4) When it breaks up, think what a bloody waste of time it was and how much fun you missed out on.

Cynic, moi :p

(And yes, I know that the occasional long-distance relationship does work out :p )
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Aye, a lot of the time they don't work, but sometimes they do.

*eyes wedding ring on finger*
 
Roberta said:
Ooh. Details please!
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Not much to say that I haven't posted before... Got together in the first term at uni (I hooked up with my friends sister who was visiting) and then we were together for three years while I was at uni. I was in Durham and she was in Nottingham for a year, then in Leicester for two. We were a bit closer during holidays, as I lived on the Wirral and she lived in Leyland in Lancashire. We got married a few months after I graduated. Been married nearly two years now, and just had our first baby.

So, long distance relationships can wind up pretty serious!
 
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