On a break...

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Well, never thought i'd be writing one of these threads.

Without going into too much detail, my girlfriend of almost five years has decided she thinks we should take a break for a bit.

I've reluctantly gone along with it, as of last night.


Do these every actually work, has anyone ever gone 'on a break' and successfully come out together as a couple? Excluding Ross and Rachel obviously :p

Just feeling a bit lost right now... It's kinda like being in limbo, kinda single, but not really :/
 
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Go out, have lots of fun, and show her what shes missing.
Dont sit at home moping and get your mates to drag you away from jumping anyones bones at least for a bit, if she does decide to take you back she wont be too pleased if you hopped on someone else so quick. :p
 
DailyGeek said:
Do these every actually work, has anyone ever gone 'on a break' and successfully come out together as a couple? Excluding Ross and Rachel obviously :p
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Not likely and certainly wouldn't waste my time waiting to find out. Go on a bender with your mates and forget about her. :)
 
Its a test!

You need to show her that your capable of having fun on your own but not too much fun so that she still feels needed. You definitely dont want to jump into anyone elses pants but rather shrug the ladies off that you will undoubtedly attract with your temporary singular status.

Or.. just be who you are, do what you do.. if it works out then great.. if not then it wasnt meant to be.
 
I made the same mistake as Ross, and there wasn't an episode where we got back together again.
 
SaBBz said:
I made the same mistake as Ross, and there wasn't an episode where we got back together again.
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lol - xerox girl? :D

I have a bit of a problem that I don't have a lot of friends nearby, so going out is a misson during the week.

I want things to work, and I do have hope - its just a real bad sign that this has happened :(
 
Hmm nearly, she decided we needed to go on a break then we ended up just seeing eadch other everyday anyway :\ Am not with her now though mind.

Hope it turns out like that (as in there not really being a break, not splitting up)! :)
 
The break things bs. She found someone else she's interested in. If it doesn't work out she will come back. If not the break will be permanent.

Yet if you nail something else you have broken some sort of unspoken rule.

Chances are its over. Get in there first nail something else and just shrug your shoulders when she comes running back.
 
"my girlfriend of almost five years has decided she thinks we should take a break for a bit."

I put this into babelfish and it came up with...

"my girlfriend doesn't fancy me anymore and is trying to split up with me in the nicest way possible. She has known me 5 years and so doesn't want to hurt my feelings. The next thing she is going to say is we should be great friends"

Why are we men so blind? :(
 
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It means she wants to sleep with someone else but doesn't want to 'cheat' on you.
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Exactly.

My ex GF wanted a break, she chose to tell me in a club. She had found someone else she was into. I was half cut and annoyed. Walked to the other end of the club and met another girl. That was in 93. Been with that same girl now wife ever since.

14 years later and it still bugs the crap out of my ex.
 
I've never understood these "break" things. For me it's pretty clear cut. Either you love someone and want to be together... or you don't. If you don't, you end it.

Why the need for a "break"? To see if that lad/girl you fancy is any better in bed than your current gf/bf, but still have the option open to come back if they're not? If you're thinking about things like that, surely you shouldn't be with your current partner anyway. :confused:

DailyGeek has she actually given you a reason at all??
 
Lostkat said:
To see if that lad/girl you fancy is any better in bed than your current gf/bf, but still have the option open to come back if they're not? If you're thinking about things like that, surely you shouldn't be with your current partner anyway. :confused:
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It's always good to have a foolback plan.

Check if the grass is greener while keeping your terriotory marked.
 
I see breaks as a "The relationship is going downhill because we're simply seeing too much of each other/it's too much at this point in time, hopefully this will make things better when we try again in a week or two".

Breaks are not times to go off with someone else. A break has to be mutual, otherwise it's splitting up and the dumped party has every right to do whatever they like.
 
Lostkat said:
I've never understood these "break" things. For me it's pretty clear cut. Either you love someone and want to be together... or you don't. If you don't, you end it.

Why the need for a "break"? To see if that lad/girl you fancy is any better in bed than your current gf/bf, but still have the option open to come back if they're not? If you're thinking about things like that, surely you shouldn't be with your current partner anyway. :confused:

DailyGeek has she actually given you a reason at all??
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Bits and bobs- she says she thinks I'm not into her any more and is trying to say we should use this time to see how we really feel. Seems a bit forced. I'm close enough to her to know when she's lying (don't feel she is)

If I'm honest, I think she might want to see what else is around :( I don't know what to do. It's only now I'm starting to hurt tbh, most of today i've let it lie in the background, but now I'm home alone it's a lot harder, no texts etc :(

But there is always the possibility that in couple of days/weeks she'll be back to normal :/ ffs it's so confusing...
 
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Bits and bobs- she says she thinks I'm not into her any more and is trying to say we should use this time to see how we really feel. Seems a bit forced. I'm close enough to her to know when she's lying (don't feel she is)

If I'm honest, I think she might want to see what else is around :( I don't know what to do. It's only now I'm starting to hurt tbh, most of today i've let it lie in the background, but now I'm home alone it's a lot harder, no texts etc :(

But there is always the possibility that in couple of days/weeks she'll be back to normal :/ ffs it's so confusing...
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Ok we are all crap at this when it involves us directly.

Try to imagine your best mate saying the exact same thing to you and asking for advice. What you would you say to him, what would you honestly think about what's happening? Your answer lies right there.
 
DailyGeek said:
Bits and bobs- she says she thinks I'm not into her any more and is trying to say we should use this time to see how we really feel. Seems a bit forced. I'm close enough to her to know when she's lying (don't feel she is)

If I'm honest, I think she might want to see what else is around :( I don't know what to do. It's only now I'm starting to hurt tbh, most of today i've let it lie in the background, but now I'm home alone it's a lot harder, no texts etc :(

But there is always the possibility that in couple of days/weeks she'll be back to normal :/ ffs it's so confusing...
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Just ask her if there's someone else...or if "on a break" means you can sleep with other people. Your answer will lie right there, especially as you say that you can tell when she's lying.

Hope it all turns out OK.
 
Lostkat said:
or if "on a break" means you can sleep with other people. Your answer will lie right there, especially as you say that you can tell when she's lying.

Hope it all turns out OK.
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if he asks that she'll jump to the wrong conclusion.
 
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