Overclock Your Missus

Devrij said:
This is how it goes with me most of the time (unless she's particularly skint and resents me having money)

Despite earning £400/m less than her, I seem to have more money to spend than my missus so I make sure it gets gone before she starts asking for things.

When she says "but we could go on holiday with that money" I say "When you have some money saved up I'll start saving mine and we can split it". Job done.
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Just to be clear, my wife gives me a "Really? You're going to buy another computer thing you already own?" look rather than giving me a hard time; why would she? Our finances are shared so we don't make things up to each other, we just accept that we want to buy different things and that's what we do.

I'd never dream of hiding it or pretending it was a lower amount than it actually was. Neither would she regarding her purchases.
 
I cant ever imagine being in the position of "its not your money its our money".
I work my **** off and if my gf ever had a problem with me spending my hard earned money then she would be out of the door. Luckily I cant see that happening.

However I have a friend who works with me and he is in this position. His wife will not allow him to spend a penny. I ordered some mtb bike stuff for him and I had to keep hold of it until he could pick it up without her finding out......£70 worth! His xmas present from her was him being allowed to spend some money on a new bike. What a joke.
 
panthro said:
I cant ever imagine being in the position of "its not your money its our money".
I work my **** off and if my gf ever had a problem with me spending my hard earned money then she would be out of the door. Luckily I cant see that happening.
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Some couples choose to share everything including their financial incomings and outgoings. You don't. Not seeing a big issue here (except for your GF having a great big bloody sword hanging over her).
 
I often tell her what i've bought and how much it's cost.

Oh wait, no, that's what i always do. If you need to hide the cost from your other half in order to avoid an argument, surely you shouldn't be buying it?
 
I have been working on my wife for a good few months. She knows my monitor is on the way out so it was just a case of slowly dropping the bomb shell it might cost a bit ;)

Once she knew this everyone is happy.

She rarely gives me any trouble when I buy stuff
 
I was a little embarrassed to admit I'd spent over £60 on a new mouse (Kone+), but she was so impressed with little flashing LEDs - that seemed to win her over tbh.
 
Come off it Love I'm a Man of Honour there's nowhere else I'll get this kind of Discount & the deals a Week only deal. :D

They are only doing this Special deal for Men of Honour. :D

I pay less Interest if I use Your credit card. :D

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The Young'uns I play against are Damn quick I need the best gear to keep up. :D

(I live alone so do as I please with my Mahoney) :p
 
[FnG]magnolia;18528756 said:
Just to be clear, my wife gives me a "Really? You're going to buy another computer thing you already own?" look rather than giving me a hard time; why would she? Our finances are shared so we don't make things up to each other, we just accept that we want to buy different things and that's what we do.

I'd never dream of hiding it or pretending it was a lower amount than it actually was. Neither would she regarding her purchases.
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Ah shared finances. My other half is pushing for that, but I'm not willing to accept that just yet! It's fair enough if she's a femme au foyer, but if she's working too I think there can still be boundaries with regards to how you save/spend your money.

I set those boundaries up early on, but understandably if you're skint and your other half is gleefully spending hundreds of pounds on parts for a perfectly working computer, it could be frustrating. :p

Seriously though, she knows it's my hobby and if I come into a bit of money she doesn't have a problem (and sometimes suggests) if I buy something for my PC. As long as I'm not stupid about it it's fine, and I've never lied about it. That's a slippery slope!
 
Not in a relationship at the moment although when I was in my teens I decided to buy an LCD shortly after they came out. When my GF at the time found out I'd blown £600 on it she exlaimed 'Where did you get £600 from?!' with a look on her face that suggested perhaps some of it should have been spent on her. The same lass who kicked up a fuss and later brought the incident up in an argument where I asked her to cover half the bill in a restaurant because I hadn't been paid.

Haven't got a problem spending money on someone you care about if a particular object will bring them happiness or joy. But when they expect you to pay for things because they feel you should or because you might have previously. Just because your a man doesn't mean you HAVE to spend money on your other half, buy her this and that over what is required for the relationship (weekend breaks, nights out etc). I don't see why your GF/wife/partner can't treat you as a man to something you might like, providing she has an income and can afford to. In otherwords I wish some women would get off their pedestal.
 
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I don't need to explain to the Mrs why I've bought something. Generally she knows everything that goes on in terms of purchasing but if we want or need something expensive we discuss it and will go ahead with it. If the discussion comes out in her favour and an override needs to be made, I put the foot down. She respects the foot.

I look after the finances and she generally tends to spend the money as I am the more froogle out of the two of us. We have quite a good system of being able to afford things and live within our means.
 
Unless you are spending money that is *needed* for something essential or is money saved for a joint project such as a holiday, or puts you in debt I don't see a problem.

If you're that under the thumb I don't think it is a healthy relationship.

Me? I buy stuff want that I can afford. I also buy the wife stuff as I earn more than her.

Sometimes I do wonder why people seem Togo out of their way to make relate ships harder work than they need to be..
 
I don't think I could ever completely share "all our money". Me and my gf still live with our respective parents (just finished uni, further education bla bla bla) but if we ever moved in together once we both have jobs i'd suggest a shared bank account for all the bills etc with an added suggestion we put a fraction more in each each month to pay for anything we want in the long run (holidays etc) but then anything extra I earn will be mine to use as I want, anything extra she earns will be hers. And that's regardless of who earns more.

And as suggested by someone above, both people in the relationship are always entitled to spend some of their own personal money on their other half (how would we pay for Valentines day?) but it should never be expected all the time.
 
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