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Parents - How old were you when your first child was born?

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by RastaManBob, 13 Apr 2015.

  1. Goodie


    Joined: 5 Dec 2003

    Posts: 3,911

    Me and the finacee will both be 30 when our little one is born imminently :cool::D
  2. PlacidCasual


    Joined: 13 May 2003

    Posts: 7,361

    The other half was 39 I was 37 our eldest is 2 the youngest 10 months. Both born when we lived in Kent. A little older than we would both have chosen but we are financially better off as a consequence I suppose.
  3. mushtafa

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 17 May 2013

    Posts: 2,461

    Location: West Sussex, UK

    I was 23, missus was 19.
  4. EndlessSky


    Joined: 19 Dec 2010

    Posts: 511

    Location: Staffordshire

    We were both 38 when we had our twin boys, just over a year ago. Really could do with a sleep!

    In hindsight We probably waited too long, but there were mitigating circumstances. I do sometimes wish I was ten years younger physically, but the added experience and financial stability helps.

    Anyway, let's all be honest here it never ever feels like the right time, and your never ready when it happens!
  5. cm1179


    Joined: 30 Sep 2009

    Posts: 3,626

    this is another thing that probably boils down to the individual but i'm fitter and stronger than i was at 25 and i've been active in sport or keeping fit for aslong as i can remember

    that will probably tail off in terms of energy i had at 25 but there's no reason one can't be as fit in their late 30's early 40's as their 20's if a good lifestyle is maintained.
  6. shatpank81

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 25 Oct 2013

    Posts: 1,404

    Location: Tipton

    i was 31 and wife was 27
    got married on 11-11-11, wife was knocked up in a couple of weeks, we didnt mess about :D
    had a little girl in Sept 2012..
    love her to bits and cannot imagine life without her now... it can be hard at times, if you have had a bad day at work and she wants to do stuff.

    we would like another but our house is far too small and trying to pay some debts of which we had before we had the little'un, but its harder now because of wife only working 2 days a week.
    once they are taken care of, we shall look at moving.
    but was genuinely surprised how quick wife got pregnant because at 23 i was told, i could only be working at 50% capacity because of an op when i found a lump at 22...
    and i refused to have any test to verify that, but because of not knowing there was no pressure
  7. Jonnycoupe


    Joined: 19 Oct 2002

    Posts: 13,840

    Location: N.Warks

    I was 24 and missus 21..... Jeez that feels weird typing that now. Oldest lad is 9 tomorrow, we then had a girl 2 years later... and their little bro is 2 in a few weeks. Big gap has proved to be hard work as we see alot of our friends from the kids school all getting pretty normal lifes back with their pairs and we have our 3rd where is feels alot more work! Glad we had them young! Looking around at friends from school etc where very few have had kids Im not really sure what I'm supposed to have missed out on.
  8. TBirdUK


    Joined: 9 Jul 2005

    Posts: 2,543

    Location: High Wycombe

    41, wife 24.
    Feel 65 after 10 months of the boy running the world!
  9. mattyg


    Joined: 17 Jun 2007

    Posts: 8,359

    20 and he's 21 in Oct. I'm NOT ready to be a grandfather yet
  10. jimmyjimmyo


    Joined: 1 Aug 2006

    Posts: 461

    29, Married to my wife who was 34 at the time, we live in London and it was a planned decision.

    10 years have flown by and my Daughter is my pride and makes me smile everyday, no matter how hard things have gotten she has always kept me focused on being a better person
  11. Sandycheeks

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 30 Oct 2013

    Posts: 1,750

    :eek: About time you went for the bricks or are you planning on more ?
    I love my kids but can't imagine having four of them.
    I suppose I am a bit selfish really, wanting at least a moment for myself.
  12. mysticsniper


    Joined: 1 May 2003

    Posts: 10,204

    I was 40 and the wife was 35. It wasn't planned, especially after the doctors told us we would never have kids. But thanks to our Lord we have been blessed with a little monster (at times) :D

    But my little fella is 3 in a few of months. I do worry that I will be over 60 and my sons life is just starting. I guess that is the reason why I am getting in shape as best I can as I want to be around for many years to come.
  13. LordSplodge


    Joined: 28 Nov 2004

    Posts: 16,024

    Location: 9th Inner Circle

    I wonder if the loss of family members being relatively close (on the same street in the 'olden days') has a negative impact. Certainly does on childcare costs.

    Indeed, whilst my grandparents are all long dead, my parents are 14 miles down the road, and my son & grandson are 11 miles away. This means I see them all weekly (or even more often)

    I'd hate not to be able to do so as already I am forming an important part of the little one's life.

    Ding dong. Playa!
  14. tribz


    Joined: 4 Mar 2008

    Posts: 2,525

    Me 43, wife 40, married 21 years when daughter was born in 2013. Don’t regret not having her earlier, if we did then we wouldn’t have had this particular bundle of joy!

    I'm constantly amazed by the randomness of conception and being here. If we'd had sex a different night or if one of my other 100 million swimmers had made it there first, it would have been a totally different person.
  15. Andy__C


    Joined: 24 Mar 2011

    Posts: 935

    Location: Cardiff

    33, wife was 34, living in South Wales.

    It was planned and absolutely felt the right time. With hindsight, neither of us felt ready before that point, both of us were perusing busy careers and had active hobbies/social lives. We hit a time though where for both of us our wants changed.

    Being a parent is fantastic, more fulfilling than I ever imagined. It is a lot of commitment and work though, so be absolutely sure you are ready!
  16. Syla5


    Joined: 13 Feb 2012

    Posts: 5,203

    I was 24 and the wife was 22, daughter is now 7, and all still a happy family :)
  17. alx


    Joined: 10 Aug 2003

    Posts: 6,037

    Location: Dubai, UAE

    I wouldn't worry too much, my Dad was 47 when he had me and I don't really think it mattered much (we still played football/cricket in the garden when I was younger!) - I'm 28 now for reference.

    If anything I think it made him more youthful as he had to play with a younger kid at an older age :).

    These days life expectancy is higher and people are active for longer so shouldn't be such an issue.
  18. Scania


    Joined: 25 Nov 2004

    Posts: 24,897

    Location: On the road....

    I was 26, my (then) wife 24, Newcastle under Lyme, Staffordshire (OCUK land!)
  19. LordSplodge


    Joined: 28 Nov 2004

    Posts: 16,024

    Location: 9th Inner Circle

    I'd say nurture is more important than nature* when it comes to what the person will be.

    * Obviously genetics has a big influence on a person though, predisposition to diseases, eye colour, height and such.
  20. [FnG]magnolia


    Joined: 29 Aug 2007

    Posts: 27,280

    Location: Auckland

    Our eldest, now 6, was born in 2009 in Glasgow when I was 37 and the newest when I was 41 - she's 18 months old and born here in Auckland. My wife is 4 years younger than me.