This isn’t another relationship advice thread, but Friday evening a day before my birthday the gf said we should maybe be friends, and I need to be strong enough to understand that whilst she feels this way I need to just treat her as I would any other friend. Explained to me that she doesn’t know what she’ll feel like in the future but for now friends is all it is.
Nah.. After thinking on it for a few hours, I went to sleep on the sofa woke up and on my Birthday of all days I told her that if all she wants is friendship, then I’m walking out the door and I’m going to move on with my life. To be honest, I used this as a perfectly good excuse to just up and leave. It was the kick I finally needed.
She looked very angry, and you know what… I really don’t care. The whole relationship was trouble from the very beginning. My mum and quite a few around me didn’t like her, or didn’t understand why we were together. She was at one time obese, fair enough she did shed some of the excess weight, but she sure made me feel guilty about the whole situation etc etc… That’s another story.
I simply grabbed all my stuff, I’d already got my house keys from her (we did in fact have two houses – thankfully) filled my car up with my gear etc, and pretty much walked away and felt so much better for it…
This should have been done months ago, talk about un-healthy relationship. Didn’t stop her from sending me a fairly poisonous and abusive email a day later, but just goes to show how messed up she really was. I always thought it was me that had the issues, but you know, it wasn’t. She was so unhinged, number of times I had to post on here as something had gone wrong, thinking it was me…. Granted, I’d maybe behaved inappropriately at times, but I think I understand why now. We were never meant to be.
I don’t know why she said lets be friends and then be angry for my decision to cut all contact, what did she expect? I’d rather cut all ties then remain friends with a girl who wants me to hang around as a buddy who I’d shared intimacy with. Regardless of feelings, I ditched all her numbers and deleted every single message and if she’s around how can I move on properly? What she wanted to take a timeout and hope feelings returned later? I don’t know, guess I’ll never know but I’m glad its happened.
They say funny how they want to be friends the moment they rip your heart out. Sadly, my heart wasn’t ripped out I was in fact relived she provided me the kick I need to ditch the *****.
I honestly don’t know what I ever saw in that girl. As a person, she was ok, but as a partner to me, truth told it was hell, a hell of our own making. Thankfully its over, but I hope she finds herself a guy who’ll be more suitable and more supportive to her, as in a way, I can’t begrudge her that.
Nah.. After thinking on it for a few hours, I went to sleep on the sofa woke up and on my Birthday of all days I told her that if all she wants is friendship, then I’m walking out the door and I’m going to move on with my life. To be honest, I used this as a perfectly good excuse to just up and leave. It was the kick I finally needed.
She looked very angry, and you know what… I really don’t care. The whole relationship was trouble from the very beginning. My mum and quite a few around me didn’t like her, or didn’t understand why we were together. She was at one time obese, fair enough she did shed some of the excess weight, but she sure made me feel guilty about the whole situation etc etc… That’s another story.
I simply grabbed all my stuff, I’d already got my house keys from her (we did in fact have two houses – thankfully) filled my car up with my gear etc, and pretty much walked away and felt so much better for it…
This should have been done months ago, talk about un-healthy relationship. Didn’t stop her from sending me a fairly poisonous and abusive email a day later, but just goes to show how messed up she really was. I always thought it was me that had the issues, but you know, it wasn’t. She was so unhinged, number of times I had to post on here as something had gone wrong, thinking it was me…. Granted, I’d maybe behaved inappropriately at times, but I think I understand why now. We were never meant to be.
I don’t know why she said lets be friends and then be angry for my decision to cut all contact, what did she expect? I’d rather cut all ties then remain friends with a girl who wants me to hang around as a buddy who I’d shared intimacy with. Regardless of feelings, I ditched all her numbers and deleted every single message and if she’s around how can I move on properly? What she wanted to take a timeout and hope feelings returned later? I don’t know, guess I’ll never know but I’m glad its happened.
They say funny how they want to be friends the moment they rip your heart out. Sadly, my heart wasn’t ripped out I was in fact relived she provided me the kick I need to ditch the *****.
I honestly don’t know what I ever saw in that girl. As a person, she was ok, but as a partner to me, truth told it was hell, a hell of our own making. Thankfully its over, but I hope she finds herself a guy who’ll be more suitable and more supportive to her, as in a way, I can’t begrudge her that.
