possible new job - should be over the moon but i'm not

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Before I start, I'm not sure what i'm exactly asking and the final line is only i can make this decision but i need to get it off my chest.

Today I went for an interview with a large international engineering company here in Prague, it consisted in a number of interviews ranging from casual chats to being asked to point out certain things on technical drawings and the most nerve wracking was one in front of a panel of three senior engineers in the company.
By the end I was basically asked a number of questions and given some serious hints that I'd be offered the job of a designer in the turbine housing design team, I'd be involved in using FEA to analyse new designs of turbine housings for turbos (the hot side if you weren't sure ;)).
To be honest it's an ideal job for me as a graduate to get on the first rung of the ladder.

The problem is that it's in another city about 2.5 hours away by train, I've become quite settled in Prague living with my girlfriend who is at university here so can't move, we've got a flat together and everything is fine. The train fares if i bought them on a day to day basis would work out at about half of my wages, the other half taken up by rent, I'd only be left with the equivalent of about £20 - £50 per month after that. A big sacrifice and a challenging state of affairs in anyone's book and 5 hours commuting per day doesn't exactly fill me with glee.
The only other option that i can think of is to move out of our current flat into a smaller one in Prague which could roughly half our rent and then rent a bedsit or flat share in the other city, spend monday-friday living in the other city then come back at weekends. It's certainly the mosy pocket friendly option but would involve spending time away from my g/f and all the hassles of finding 2 new flats, moving all our stuff and possibly losing our deposit on the flat we're in now as we haven't been here longer than the minimum period stated in the tennancy agreement. My g/f has also said that she doesn't like the idea of me being away during the week and wouldn't want me to move away because she'll miss me, but has said she understands that the job is something I really want to do to get my career started.

Money wise i'd be on the same wage as i am now but i'd also get a relocation package consisting of two month wages up front. I'd get 5 weeks holiday a year instead of the 4 have now and I'll get the company pension and health insurance package too, neither of which i have now. The prospects to climb the ladder are also virtually unlimited being a multinational where as my current job is quite limited in that respect being quite a small company. So there's no doubt it'd be a better job in the long run.

Like I said I haven't even been offered the job but they'll contact me next week and i'll have to decide almost immediately as the senior engineer said that i may be required to start as little as 10 days after being offered the job, which also makes me wonder about my current job as i'm covering for a couple of people who are on holiday, if I leave with almost no notice i'll be leaving them up **** creek as there is nobody who could immediately take over my job.

All of which is playing on my mind and I only have a week to deciede :eek: I may be crazy given all the benefits but the negatives are really laying heavilly on my mind :(

So there we have it, thanks for sticking with me this far as i'm sure there's loads of grammatical mistakes in there and things are in a bit of a random order but i just wrote it down as it leaked out of my head.
 
A real crossroad there, but from an objective point of view.

The question is

Is your gf holding you back on a perfect job or a job holding back your perfect someone?

A few things needs to be considered. Firstly personally, commuting 5 hours is a day on the train is a no no, that is just un-doable. You'll spent the weekend sleeping since you'll be so tired from it all. Secondly, how long does she have in uni? Why not you move out there and start the job and she can move with you after she graduate?
 
Raymond Lin said:
how long does she have in uni? Why not you move out there and start the job and she can move with you after she graduate?
That sounds like some sound advice there, could you both afford to live in separate flats for a year before moving back in together?
 
i know it is hard but separate the issues - the girlfriend and the job. if the job does sound right for you then you can work at making the best with the mrs. it will not be permanent and will resolve itself as you either make more money or she graduates

also, with her being the student it might be more feasible for her to go and visit you rather than you going to her.

at the end of the day you are doing it for both your and your future and this opportunity will lead to more possibilities.

if they are a big firm like you suggest they may have some living arrangements - subsidised housing or big house shares or something - maybe something to find out.
 
Raymond Lin said:
Is your gf holding you back on a perfect job or a job holding back your perfect someone?
Thanks for replying Raymond, good question! a little from column A and a little from column B, something i'll need to have a good think about over the next week or so.

Raymond Lin said:
A few things needs to be considered. Firstly personally, commuting 5 hours is a day on the train is a no no, that is just un-doable. You'll spent the weekend sleeping since you'll be so tired from it all. Secondly, how long does she have in uni? Why not you move out there and start the job and she can move with you after she graduate?
I feel the same about the commuting, there's nothing good about that which pretty will much leave me with taking the relocating option.
She currently has 2 years left (graduating in 2009), funilly enough the senior guy actually said that they could even get her a job there as they are expending the Czech centre to be the largest of it's kind in the world, so that's a plus :)

It's late now so i'll sleep on it and see how i feel tomorrow.
 
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I gave up an Alevel Pilots scholarship in the RAF when i was 17/18 because of a girl i had been with for a year or two.

Im still with her now with a house and a wedding planned.

Not one day goes by when i kick myself for giving that scholarship up, very hard when you see the planes go over while im stuck at work, in a job im not really keen on thinking "that could've been me!! :(

If your relationship is meant to be then it will last you moving, if you turn down this first time opportunity you will be kicking yourself for years and you may NEVER get a decent opportunity again.
 
Welshy said:
That sounds like some sound advice there, could you both afford to live in separate flats for a year before moving back in together?
That's something that i'll have to look at, 2 small flats will be a little more expensive than what we have now but it should be a lot cheaper than keeping this flat and paying for the train.
At the moment we have a good sized flat in an affluent area of town and to afford another flat in the other city we'd have to get a smaller one in a cheaper area of Prague. I'm not opposed to that but moving is a pain.

MNuTz, I completely understand you, it's not like good jobs grow on trees and like you said you rarely get second chances.

Psymonkee, changing uni may be a bit tricky and i'm not sure there are any unis that teach in English outside Prague that also teach the same course.
 
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