Privacy at home

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Steming from a previous thread I thought it would make an interesting discussion. How far does privacy go in your home? Do you lock your rooms, dislike it when parents open mail etc?

My view is that I don't have anything to hide so I don't mind that parents opening letters and certainly wouldn't be looking at moving out permanently as a result.
 
In the context of a child living at their parents' home, surely privacy is a right that needs to be earned, and should not be expected by default.
 
I don't lock my room, and don't mind if my Mum reads my mail, doesn't bother me in the slightest. If it were Emails, then I wouldn't like anyone reading them, mainly because on occassions they might be slightly more personal. I don't have anything to hide though :)
 
I think when you've turned 18, parents should refrain from opening your mail unless they have serious cause for concern.

I don't mind my parents asking me about my financial situation, but I would be annoyed if I'd found my bank statements opened without my consent.
 
i don't mind parents opening mail etc, if i am going away i normally ask the to incase anything important comes. Mum regually opens my mail by accident as i get 3 letters a week max and she must get 50.

Never lock room, don't normally let people on my pc but its more because i ahve built everyone there own machine so why should the need mine? but if thers is broke its no problem.
 
My mum only opens my mail when i'm not going to be able to pick it up for a while. Why on earth would your parents open your mail if you're at home?!?
 
iCraig said:
I think when you've turned 18, parents should refrain from opening your mail unless they have serious cause for concern.

I don't mind my parents asking me about my financial situation, but I would be annoyed if I'd found my bank statements opened without my consent.
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Agreed, my parents have never opened my mail and I'd be very annoyed if they did. Accidents can and have happened when thy are just addressed "Mr Surname" but I can count them on one hand.

I don't lock my room, infact we don't have locks on any of the internal door, it's never really bothered me :).
 
My letters, phone calls, text messages, emails etc are all private. I value my privacy. At the moment, I enjoy that privacy as a given when I am at home. My parents respect my desire for privacy and in fact I never had to ask for it as it was granted from the outset.

I dont feel I have anything to hide at all, but if my privacy started to be invaded while I was at home I would certainly take offence at that lack of respect. I am an adult, how I conduct my affairs is nobodies business but mine. If that started to become an issue, I would resolve it by simply staying away for more of the year than I currently do.

I cant imagine a situation arising where I was questioned as to my whereabouts due to entries on a bank statement of mine - totally unthinkable!
 
I would say that you have the right to not have your mail opened but I think it would be worng to expect to be able to lock a room in your parent's house
 
But if you have nothing to hide, why does it matter if they open mail? Bank statements aren't exactly interesting so I don't understand why someone would get annoyed.....
 
Yeah the difference is the unconsented invasion of privacy.

If my Dad asked to see my bank statements, I would show him with no problem. But if I found them opened and shoved back in the envelope I would be annoyed, because it doesn't show any respect for my privacy.
 
DRZ said:
My letters, phone calls, text messages, emails etc are all private. I value my privacy. At the moment, I enjoy that privacy as a given when I am at home. My parents respect my desire for privacy and in fact I never had to ask for it as it was granted from the outset.

I dont feel I have anything to hide at all, but if my privacy started to be invaded while I was at home I would certainly take offence at that lack of respect. I am an adult, how I conduct my affairs is nobodies business but mine. If that started to become an issue, I would resolve it by simply staying away for more of the year than I currently do.

I cant imagine a situation arising where I was questioned as to my whereabouts due to entries on a bank statement of mine - totally unthinkable!
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But would your parents question you if they thought you were lying?
 
Parents don't open my mail, but I wouldn't be too bothered if they did.

Don't have a lock on my room, again got nothing to hide in there. I don't generally let people use my pc or laptops unless i've setup guest accounts, more because i don't like people changing things on my pcs.
 
gurdas said:
But would your parents question you if they thought you were lying?
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Yes they would, but they wouldnt go through my mail to check up on me in the first place. They trust me enough not to have to do that.

(I dont have a lock on my door btw.)
 
gurdas said:
Steming from a previous thread I thought it would make an interesting discussion. How far does privacy go in your home? Do you lock your rooms, dislike it when parents open mail etc?

My view is that I don't have anything to hide so I don't mind that parents opening letters and certainly wouldn't be looking at moving out permanently as a result.
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If my parents opened my mail i'd be well shocked.

Mainly because they live several hundred miles away, and one of them's dead......
 
gurdas said:
But if you have nothing to hide, why does it matter if they open mail? Bank statements aren't exactly interesting so I don't understand why someone would get annoyed.....
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Having a private life does not mean you've got something to hide, some of you are 20ish yet think its acceptable for others to open your mail. I find that weird.
 
I wouldn't like people to go snooping round my computer, but apart from that I'm not concerned. Parents never open my mail without my consent, but I wouldn't really care if they did. Usually when a letter comes for me while I'm at uni my mum calls me and asks if I want her to open it.
 
My dad used to open my mail accidentaly but only because we have the same initial, if I ever thought he did it on purpose I'd have gone off the nut.
 
Tru said:
My dad used to open my mail accidentaly but only because we have the same initial, if I ever thought he did it on purpose I'd have gone off the nut.
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heh, my mum does that to my brother... Mr S Crouch vs. Mrs Crouch
 
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