But wasnt this a thread debating whether they should be allowed to have them at all, regardless of benefits, ala what china does restricting people to 1 child ?
No, not at all. My OP was debating the disparity in between being a hard working responsible parent and being a sponging irresponsible parent.
Person A) A responsible parent who wants a child but knows that their situation needs to be ideal. They will take time to create a good home, a good relationship and an income that can support a family of 3. The time frame in which they can have kids, and the volume of kids that they will have is greatly reduced.
Person B) An irresponsible parent who wants a child and has one, regardless of the state of their relationship, and lets the government sort out all the money and housing requirements. They have no time frame, nor a concept of volume.
My problem is that our country is being populated by Person B, because Person A is worried about the implications, and Person A has no way near the support Person B has, regardless of how beneficial Person A is to our society. Furthermore, you could argue that Person A's offspring are far more likely to be beneficial to our society due to the stability they can provide vs Person B.
So you have 50 careless Person B's having a kid for every Person A having 1. To further escalate this, we now have more individual debt than ever before. Which discourages Person A, but obviously not person B.
So we are evolving into a society that has a future full of ******* children raised by irresponsible parents, primarily because those parents are almost
encouraged to have kids, because the government will support them no matter what. There is no air of personal accountability or justification. There's a safety net full of millions of people, a safety net which will soon break due to the sheer weight it holds.
It's wrong to judge the children, sure. You can't assume every one of them will grow up to be like their parents. But you also can't deny that your family influences probably shape your existence more than any other external factor in life, on average. There will always be apples that fall very far from the tree, but we're talking society-wide here.
Halting Person B from having kids is never the answer, but there needs to be some balance in rewarding. Person B needs less rewarding (for effectively doing nothing) and Person A needs more rewarding. We need balance. There's no straight forward or simple solution, otherwise it would be in place, but it's an exellent idea to discuss the matter. Especially if others have noticed the same problems, which by the look of this thread they have.
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