Seems to be the month for it: Girl Thread inc

twist3d0n3 · 25 Jan 2011 at 10:39

Mercutio said:
Does it change any answers if she is absolutely the most innocent thing ever and is dribblingly, mindlessly smoking hot?

TTIUWP

also, give me her number

spoogle · 25 Jan 2011 at 10:40

Mercutio said:
Does it change any answers if she is absolutely the most innocent thing ever and is dribblingly, mindlessly smoking hot?

Depends...if you post up pictures, we'll be able to give you a more precise answer

Burnsy2023 · 25 Jan 2011 at 10:57

shifty_uk said:
Jeezuzz.... Do people not talk anymore? Is verbal communication obsolete?

Everyone of these threads would be solved pure and simple by a 'I know you're heartbroken, I like you, wanna have a go IF NOT I think our friendship is great and would like it to continue'.....Or words to that effect.

Come on man.

Whilst I agree that communication is the key, it's isn't as simple as that. She may find the interest an unwanted confusion that ruins the relationship.

The Dread Pirate · 25 Jan 2011 at 10:57

"If love be rough with you, be rough with love. ***** love for pricking and you beat love down."

/hides

pcoltrane · 25 Jan 2011 at 10:58

Question to ask yourself - how would you feel if someone else gets in there first?

Mercutio · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:01

shifty_uk said:
Jeezuzz.... Do people not talk anymore? Is verbal communication obsolete?

Everyone of these threads would be solved pure and simple by a 'I know you're heartbroken, I like you, wanna have a go IF NOT I think our friendship is great and would like it to continue'.....Or words to that effect.

Come on man.

In my defence, yeah, we/I talk a lot. The exact words along with a few dozen variations have been considered but the big looming "what if it screws the friendship" is ever there. Would find life a LOT less interesting/enjoyable if things became awkward due to one-sided interest being thrust into the cold light of day. I think she'd PROBABLY be ok with it backed with a huge "friendsisokfriendsisokfriendsisok" "speech"

p) but hmmm, can't be sure.

pcoltrane said:
Question to ask yourself - how would you feel if someone else gets in there first?

The game plan goes: should that look to be on the cards I spill my guts and see what occurs

(a

to Capn' $qu!ff at this point)

Mercutio · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:03

Sp00n · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:09

I wouldn't spill your guts entirely, it'll make the situation super awkward, I reckon just mention it, chuck in some hypothetical situations, check her reaction.

nicks3607 · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:11

Next time you're having one of those head-on-pillow moments, just say "would it be bad for me to say I think I might be falling for you?"

In five minutes you'll know, either way....

Freelanc3r · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:12

neil3k said:
you're in the friend zone

sorry

this

Mercutio · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:14

Sp00n said:
I wouldn't spill your guts entirely, it'll make the situation super awkward, I reckon just mention it, chuck in some hypothetical situations, check her reaction.

Well, ignore phrasing. There's a whole, balanced, "beautiful", "admission" dialogue "scripted" and ready to roll as needed. Covers the bases, leaves ways out.

Cosimo · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:15

Capn' $qu!ff said:
"If love be rough with you, be rough with love. ***** love for pricking and you beat love down."

/hides

Are you suggesting pricking?

Gaijin · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:51

I'm sorry but this has got emotional tampon written all over it.

You're the pseudo-boyfriend without the commitment, intimacy or any of the pluses.

Of course I hope that isn't the case, but tread carefully.

Burnsy2023 · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:52

Mercutio said:
Well, ignore phrasing. There's a whole, balanced, "beautiful", "admission" dialogue "scripted" and ready to roll as needed. Covers the bases, leaves ways out.

Sounds like a plan.

shifty_uk · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:52

Burnsy2023 said:
Whilst I agree that communication is the key, it's isn't as simple as that. She may find the interest an unwanted confusion that ruins the relationship.

That was just an example, dropping subtle hints, 'let me take you out, cheer you up' and so forth could work aswell.

Just make a move, verbally.

BunnyKillBot · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:55

Messed up from a previous long term relationship? Rebound. She will latch on to anything that batters an eye lid at her, drain him dry then realise she is confused and doesn't know what she wants.

LordSplodge · 25 Jan 2011 at 11:59

Capn' $qu!ff said:
Go for it mercutio If things go badly you could always bring "a plague on both their houses!"

Indeed.

Ay, ay, a scratch, a scratch; marry, 'tis enough.
Where is my page? Go, villain, fetch a surgeon.

No, 'tis not so deep as a well, nor so wide as a
church-door; but 'tis enough,'twill serve: ask for...

Help me into some house, Benvolio,
Or I shall faint. A plague o' both your houses!

Oh and OP. Life is full of risk but risk is better than regret. She may be the one but without taking a risk you will never know...

SMASH IT.

theNude · 25 Jan 2011 at 12:27

I thought i was in the friend zone with my best girl friend, been friends for a number of years and hung out, cuddled whilst watching movies and that was fine for me. We shared a kiss once and it changed things as i was then interested in more as was she. I went away for a year, came back and bish bash bosh hows your father!

You run the risk of rocking the boat but do you want a life of regret?

Gimpymoo · 25 Jan 2011 at 12:29

I thought the "Inc" meant "Includes pictures"

Be a mate and help "fix" her, surely that would be more rewarding and forge an even better friendship.