Hi all I would appreciate someone in the know sharing any relevant knowledge they may have. This is the tip of an ice berg. I have a grandson, the father of which is my son. The mother has a step father in a very screwed up complex family. Anyhow up until now the mother of the mother has in a thinly veiled manner try to get money out of me. Because the mother is spending all her benefits on drink an drugs (not a large amount). Anyway, add that we have no access to the child and they are dragging my son through the courts to stop him having access, all of their claims have been proven false. Finally I have received this from step father (his sole contribution) 'Hi ***** this is **'***s husband. I don't agree with the snide comments you are making about ****. But let me say i also have a comfortable life and and a very well paid job. I believe the mother is in the best place for her and (my son) to sort things out if i bring mother back in to the family home like you keep going on about (my son) will not see the child for a very long time as i will fight it all the way and i dont think anybody wants that. If you or your family can not support this then i will get involved.' He has two of his own kids in his house and has no room, the mother has been in social housing but has got in arrears on the rent the council are moving her into other social housing. The mother's family have thrown her out on several occasions and at times she has been sofa surfing. My son pays child support and has bought clothes and shoes for his son on the rare occasion that he has been allowed contact. What do you think? I have considered letter box, gucci belt and boxing stance.