Serious family legal issue

BowdonUK · 23 Jun 2019 at 12:29

How come you're in communication with that side of the family if they are in legal court battles with your son?

chaparral · 23 Jun 2019 at 12:32

String said:
It's there any chance of you hitting the mother, like, in a sexy way?

rebel rebel · 23 Jun 2019 at 12:48

Why is the mother's mother trying to get money from you if her husband is a top revenue earner?

Terminal_Boy · 23 Jun 2019 at 12:51

rebel rebel said:
Why is the mother's mother trying to get money from you if her husband is a top revenue earner?

Running low on Gucci belts?

rebel rebel · 23 Jun 2019 at 12:56

Belts? That's CEO territory! It only takes one Gucci belt to establish ones self as top banana.

singularity · 23 Jun 2019 at 13:00

BowdonUK said:
How come you're in communication with that side of the family if they are in legal court battles with your son?

Exactly, I just sent a text asking how my grand son was and I get all this hassle back

singularity · 23 Jun 2019 at 13:01

Terminal_Boy said:
Running low on Gucci belts?

Very good question, maybe it's a temporary liquidity problem.
Spent too much on Gucci belts this year

Dis86 · 23 Jun 2019 at 13:03

I'd quite frankly tell the bloke where to go. If he's got such a well paid job then why can't he provide the support required?

Also this is yet another lesson why you don't stick your wick in skanky ho's.

rebel rebel · 23 Jun 2019 at 13:07

Dis86 said:
Also this is yet another lesson why you don't stick your wick in skanky ho's.

This.. Wrongun mothers are for life.

OP, your son has rights and should be able to see his son. If he is denied access then family courts will have to decide.

randomshenans · 25 Jun 2019 at 16:38

TheOracle said:
My brain died halfway up that family tree

yep

dirtychinchilla · 25 Jun 2019 at 17:19

rebel rebel said:
Why is the mother's mother trying to get money from you if her husband is a top revenue earner?

He can barely string a sentence together.

Roar87 · 25 Jun 2019 at 17:33

If she's sofa surfing and taking drugs then it seems like your son should be able to get custody, no?

LOAM · 25 Jun 2019 at 19:41

NoobCannon said:
Not sure if its just too early in the morning but ops post made no sense what so ever.

Compounded by the (i assume copy and pasted) drivel from someone speaking to the op. Is there a hungover Sunday morning tldr version?

This, some formatting and perhaps the use of quotes etc might help it be understandable, I can't make any sense of it at all.

dowie · 25 Jun 2019 at 19:50

Roar87 said:
If she's sofa surfing and taking drugs then it seems like your son should be able to get custody, no?

^^^ this tbh...

I guess perhaps that is what part of the message is about, they're threatening to take her back into the family home (presumably they don't really want to if they've kicked her out before and she's a chaotic individual) and that might strengthen her case.

Either way perhaps the son should be fighting for full custody.

Lord-Jaffa · 25 Jun 2019 at 20:48

Roar87 said:
If she's sofa surfing and taking drugs then it seems like your son should be able to get custody, no?

You would think so, wouldn't you. However I doubt it.

AhhBisto · 25 Jun 2019 at 21:12

Roar87 said:
If she's sofa surfing and taking drugs then it seems like your son should be able to get custody, no?

Yeah our system not so sure.

She'll probably just say she's getting help to quit, and stop for a while. Then she will get good comments from social services for showing "remorse" and "taking steps to improve".

Whilst the father who may be a perfectly good parent, who's done nothing wrong and can provide a safe home isn't even allowed to be involved with the child's care until the case has been resolved.

As everyone said, get real legal advice believe me this system it just takes one bad comment to ruin the whole situation.

Beren · 25 Jun 2019 at 21:49

Another vote for proper legal advice. Your OP kind of suggests you are not fully supportive of your son, if I am wrong I would recommend you do everything possible to ensure he has a stable safe environment to live in so there is no good reason for a court to deny access.

There is a clear process to go through to get access to his son. As long as he is the legally acknowledged dad.

Don't get despondent, keep strong as a familly, support each other. Don't accept a no to access or take any nonsense from the mother or her familly. The child is 11 months so it doesnt need breast feeding any more, so there shouldn't be any reason to deny proper access. Insist on proper unsupervised access.

Good Luck.

Geodude97AD · 25 Jun 2019 at 23:47

singularity said:
/snip.

Don't pay a penny, don't communicate with them, tell your son to pay his child support through the CSA. You and your son/family remain calm and don't feed into any confrontations and get legal help first thing in the morning and write everything down.

jimjamuk · 26 Jun 2019 at 10:15

Help your son with his legal stuff, produce the note at the next court hearing to support why its a bad idea they have full access to the lad

mmj_uk · 26 Jun 2019 at 10:57

I'm going to predict that the email is a bluff but even so if they aren't allowing you access then what do you have to lose if he does what he says and doesn't let you have access?

Why are they trying to stop your son from having access based on lies? why isn't your son pushing for custody if she's as bad as you say? are they trying to make your son look bad to the courts fearing that he will push for custody?