Ok to start with just a warning, this is another relationship thread... 
This one is about my best friend, she is not just my best friend, we have known each other our entire lives and were a couple about 2 years ago for 6 months on and off (due to her being out of the country for a few months at a time). I'm 21 and she is 20.
She has just been on a third date with a guy she met over the net and went home about 3 hours ago (and I haven't been able to think about anything else since, hence this post). Now the problem is I would prefer her to be dating me. She came down and stayed with me at uni for a few days last week and we ended up doing pretty much our usual, spending 3-4 days pretty much acting like a couple, holding hands, flirting, snuggling, pretty much everything a couple do except actually kissing and going further. On the second day she said she had met this guy and she quite liked him, but we still carried on (her being the one to instigate snuggles etc.).
As I said our usual, we act like this a lot of the time, then go back to acting like friends every so often. The problem is every time we do act like this the feelings I have for her come a lot closer to the surface than they usually are and at the moment they are right beneath the surface. We have both had relationships since we broke up the first time, when she had one I would feel really jealous about it but would try and carry on as usual, and when I had one I would still occasionally think of her or compare my gf to her (I know that makes me a bad person 
), Although I don't think about her all the time, just every so often.
I know this is a little to do with jealousy but I do think there is a little bit more to it. I am half inclined to just ring her up tommorrow, meet up and tell her, the problem is that could spoil what we have now and also put a lot of pressure on her as it wouldn't exactly be the best time, just as she met someone she says she likes (not meaning she will have to choose but fear hurting me if she were to carry on dating this man).
Usually I would talk to a friend but as it involves her I can't talk to my best friend, and all my other close friends are dotted round the country at the moment so I can't talk to them.
So OcUK, your suggestions?
This one is about my best friend, she is not just my best friend, we have known each other our entire lives and were a couple about 2 years ago for 6 months on and off (due to her being out of the country for a few months at a time). I'm 21 and she is 20.
She has just been on a third date with a guy she met over the net and went home about 3 hours ago (and I haven't been able to think about anything else since, hence this post). Now the problem is I would prefer her to be dating me. She came down and stayed with me at uni for a few days last week and we ended up doing pretty much our usual, spending 3-4 days pretty much acting like a couple, holding hands, flirting, snuggling, pretty much everything a couple do except actually kissing and going further. On the second day she said she had met this guy and she quite liked him, but we still carried on (her being the one to instigate snuggles etc.).
As I said our usual, we act like this a lot of the time, then go back to acting like friends every so often. The problem is every time we do act like this the feelings I have for her come a lot closer to the surface than they usually are and at the moment they are right beneath the surface. We have both had relationships since we broke up the first time, when she had one I would feel really jealous about it but would try and carry on as usual, and when I had one I would still occasionally think of her or compare my gf to her (I know that makes me a bad person
), Although I don't think about her all the time, just every so often.I know this is a little to do with jealousy but I do think there is a little bit more to it. I am half inclined to just ring her up tommorrow, meet up and tell her, the problem is that could spoil what we have now and also put a lot of pressure on her as it wouldn't exactly be the best time, just as she met someone she says she likes (not meaning she will have to choose but fear hurting me if she were to carry on dating this man).
Usually I would talk to a friend but as it involves her I can't talk to my best friend, and all my other close friends are dotted round the country at the moment so I can't talk to them.
So OcUK, your suggestions?
). We got together after he told me how he felt, and it lasted for 3 years.
