The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

ChrisD. · 20 Feb 2017 at 09:43

Tefal do you type with your elbows?

Haly · 20 Feb 2017 at 10:48

There's a lot of overthinking about intentions.
If you really like the look of her - give her the benefit of the doubt.
If you weren't that fussed but thought it was worth a shot/had nothing better to do - don't bother.

[FnG]magnolia · 20 Feb 2017 at 11:01

ChrisD. said:
Tefal do you type with your elbows?

Not exactly :eek:

Blackvault · 20 Feb 2017 at 11:02

Haly said:
There's a lot of overthinking about intentions.
If you really like the look of her - give her the benefit of the doubt.
If you weren't that fussed but thought it was worth a shot/had nothing better to do - don't bother.

I'd be more into the first category. She seems pleasant and genuine when we are texting so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

PermaChanged · 20 Feb 2017 at 13:32

I agree with Tefal here, but at the same time I would be the one asking to reschedule the second I found out she had a party the night before. I don't like being in a "maybe" situation so would have arranged something else for myself to do until I could get a definite yes out of her, at least she had the decency to pre-warn you it was a possibility which is more than can be said for some.

ChrisD. · 20 Feb 2017 at 13:41

Just read back through and I'm with Tefal on this. It's meeting someone off the internet, I don't see what the fuss is about?

malachi · 20 Feb 2017 at 14:26

ChrisD. said:
Just read back through and I'm with Tefal on this. It's meeting someone off the internet, I don't see what the fuss is about?

Its more about respect and consideration for other people. Doesn't matter if they off the internet or from the local pub.

Reading through this thread, I am glad I have never tried internet dating and I only meet people the old fashioned way. So many time wasters who like to boost their ergo.

Roar87 · 20 Feb 2017 at 14:27

ChrisD. said:
Just read back through and I'm with Tefal on this. It's meeting someone off the internet, I don't see what the fuss is about?

Just because you spoke to them on the internet doesn't make it ok to be rude and dismissive of their time, they're still real life people

ChrisD. · 20 Feb 2017 at 14:34

But she gave forward warning?

S0fa_K1NG · 20 Feb 2017 at 15:18

What a drama over nothing. Typical beta becoming un-hinged and not even had a 1st date yet.

All that should have happened is you said "Ok hotstuff, you have a nice party, and hit me up when you are free and we go and have a great time"

TheMeekon · 20 Feb 2017 at 15:21

S0fa_K1NG said:
What a drama over nothing. Typical beta becoming un-hinged and not even had a 1st date yet.

All that should have happened is you said "Ok hotstuff, you have a nice party, and hit me up when you are free and we go and have a great time"

Okay Swiss Toni.

tom_e · 20 Feb 2017 at 15:25

Tonso made a new account!?

PermaChanged · 20 Feb 2017 at 15:51

S0fa_K1NG said:
All that should have happened is you said "Ok hotstuff, you have a nice party, and hit me up when you are free and we go and have a great time"

So beta, you've put her on a pedestal already.

nightwish · 20 Feb 2017 at 16:17

S0fa_K1NG said:
What a drama over nothing. Typical beta becoming un-hinged and not even had a 1st date yet.
All that should have happened is you said "Ok hotstuff, you have a nice party, and hit me up when you are free and we go and have a great time"

You sound 12, and 'beta' frankly. Whenever she's free you'll come to heel, no questions asked? Sod that. I'd give her another chance (everyone deserves a second chance) but can't be bothered with anyone who wastes my time. Life's way too short for that.

malachi said:
Its more about respect and consideration for other people. Doesn't matter if they off the internet or from the local pub.

This.

S0fa_K1NG · 20 Feb 2017 at 16:39

Wow so many people with no idea...

The point is.... u aint bothered, your busy, you have other stuff going on..so you say... "ok, when you are ready to make a plan let me know" and just get on with your life.

its called being alpha, and being cool, not going "OMG OMG, this girl hasnt responded the way I want, OMG, panic, helpz helpz"

Blackvault · 20 Feb 2017 at 16:43

Sofa King you are making me laugh... not...

A2Z · 20 Feb 2017 at 18:13

Blackvault said:
Sofa King you are making me laugh... not...

He speaks the truth though!

You haven't even met the girl yet. She gave you advanced warning she might not make it. Apologised. Rescheduled. What else is she supposed to do?

You make it sound like she is the only girl in your life. Big deal over nothing.

R.O.S.S.I · 20 Feb 2017 at 20:30

Well you never think it's going to happen to you and wallop. Bombshell dropped this evening. Due to be married abroad this Summer, 7 years down the pan. Caught me completely off guard.

Vidar · 20 Feb 2017 at 21:27

R.O.S.S.I said:
Well you never think it's going to happen to you and wallop. Bombshell dropped this evening. Due to be married abroad this Summer, 7 years down the pan. Caught me completely off guard.

Dude am sorry, that's rough!

Steampunk · 20 Feb 2017 at 21:39

R.O.S.S.I said:
Well you never think it's going to happen to you and wallop. Bombshell dropped this evening. Due to be married abroad this Summer, 7 years down the pan. Caught me completely off guard.

No chance to work things out? If this is the first you're hearing about it, then you haven't tried to sort it out as a couple.

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