Update. Around 15 dates later (12 different women) and I was asked yesterday by one for it to be exclusive
I'm over the moon as she is really easy to talk to, has similar interests (even knows bits about my field of work) and very pretty - I thought it was a fake profile and was shocked when I got a reply.
I think the key thing is go on more dates, talk to more women and
learn from mistakes as someone on here advised. This in turn has highly improved my confidence both dating and at work around women, so a big win. The apps I have been using are Tinger, POF, Bumble, Happn, OkCupid. The main one has been POF and had one or 2 off the others. I paid for a 3 month membership 'Zoost' after seeing it recommended online. Biggest pile of **** ever. Luckily I got a full refund through Apple and Zost support as it lacked basic filters which POF has for free.
What got me a lot more messages in return was an update to my profile where I pointed out my weaknesses and countered with something that made me sound good e.g. Being too honest, eating lots but countering with exercise. Also list more interests and have pictures of yourself (not selfies) showing you doing a variey of things - a standard one, a night out, sporty/action, on holiday. On the way I did get 'burned' as someone mentioned but did expected it at some point. I also did my fair share of letting some of them down - it was around 50/50 to be honest but most failed we mutually agreed there was nothing between us.
Anyway, crack on updating profiles all then sending though messages out. The world of online dating is fun