Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by mattyprice4004, Apr 23, 2012.
Good luck anyway. Hope it sorts itself out mate.
Thanks all, ocuk is a great community.
Yeah you can't change who you are but you can make changes. For example me and my gf recently had chat where if I do x and she does y it makes z better. Because this was really the only little issue for us we are able to make it work.
Those are the sort of changes I mean. Not changing your personality
It's not personality changes really, sorry didn't explain anything. Just other issues that needs to be sorted or halfway to make things work. Which although hard got to happen.
We're singing from the same hymn sheet there, I'd reckon.
sorry made no sense, deleted.
Yeah, just some semantics I think.
Has to be said though. Don't compromise too much, keep it feisty or it runs the risk of losing respect for each other.
Man relationships are mental when you start over thinking them.
I hope things have settled down and been sorted out. Though eventual marriage is not a thing to be gone into unless you are absolutely sure; you could still end up being wrong but if you go into it with 'major' issues then they often tend to worsen as time goes on.
So I've been kind of seeing someone for a few weeks, been on a few dates etc. Do I get her a small Christmas present or is that too early?? I've had some say get something and others say don't! Can't decide...
I don't think it would hurt
something small and thoughtful. Don't spend lots of cash.
Absolutely get her a present, just make sure it's funny or a sex toy, or a funny sex toy
A handful of dates? Not a proper one IMO. Maybe something extremely small like a nice chocolate bar/box or something equally as trivial. Anything more and you start to look like a "chaser" and a little desperate too soon.
Easy enough to test the water with humour anyway...
"So listen wee hen, I've got some fishnets and Rhubarb lined up for your Christmas, what you getting me?" or some other silly tester.
Presents are a little irrelevant anyway, they mean more to women in terms of giving to others, than they do to any of us guys.
I'd rather not get anything at all at Christmas, the company of your other half is enough, and this should be a more popular sentiment that it currently is.
Has anyone ever been in this situation?
been seeing a girl for over a year now..been going out a lot together places and got really close,she has feelings for me and so do i for her we have talked about this and she also says she loves me and the same back,BUT even though we aint "Officially" a couple because she wanted to see how it "works out" when people associate us together as a couple shes messaging me saying people assume were a couple,And then im thinking does she not want people to assume that then?
I've asked her that,Do you not want people to assume were together then,And she skipped answering the question which was really annoying..should i just not bother pursuing anymore?
A year together and you aren't 'officially' a couple or she does not acknowledge you are together to other people? Sounds like you are a side chick or you are the safe bet until someone better comes along - ie keeping her options open.
Sounds like she waiting for someone better or has someone else in mind.
Either way, she's wasting your time.
She's monkey branching.
It sounds like she's mentioning it to remind you that you aren't a couple. As above it feels like she's keeping you as a safe bet until she finds someone she's more interested in. If it were me I'd sit down and talk to her about it. There is no point treading too delicately. You have to be clear in what you want in a relationship. That applies to both parties. Otherwise she's just wasting your time.
Devils advocate. If you aren’t a couple I would take that as you are not exclusive, if you are not so bothered about this girl continue to smash while looking elsewhere. If you have feelings for her then best confront as sounds like you are a backup but probably won’t get the answer you are after.
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