Caporegime
She’s playing you like young lads usually play girls about, stop contact and you’ll soon find out if she’s really that bothered.
Why are women sooooo confusing i dont get it,Soooo quiet today via message just the whole (one or two word responses) again,
I sent her a good morning message this morning,shed seen it..never replied.
She went out for a meal with her family today (i know this as she told me yesterday she was (in person) when we went out all afternoon doing stuff, i then messaged her after dinner asking how her meal was,just got a "was okay" nothing more,then i messaged again about an hour later seen as she obviously wasn't going to reply anything further i asked what shed had,i got a simple (same as before) and again nothing...
You guys are probably thinking she dont like you/friend zone etc ,We have known each other for over 3 years now,2 closely been out a lot and she does like me (so she says) and like anyone we have had ups and downs but thats mainly because of me asking where the bloody hell i stand with her because she will not commit (she dont want to put labels on things) so she says,i have asked her to be my GF,obviously in my head i know what shes doing,keeping me on a back burner maybe ? who knows
lol,But i am growing very tired of her unusual behaviour and just not been able to commit to anything.
She's not interested, time to take your business elsewhere.
Why are women sooooo confusing i dont get it,Soooo quiet today via message just the whole (one or two word responses) again,
I sent her a good morning message this morning,shed seen it..never replied.
She went out for a meal with her family today (i know this as she told me yesterday she was (in person) when we went out all afternoon doing stuff, i then messaged her after dinner asking how her meal was,just got a "was okay" nothing more,then i messaged again about an hour later seen as she obviously wasn't going to reply anything further i asked what shed had,i got a simple (same as before) and again nothing...
You guys are probably thinking she dont like you/friend zone etc ,We have known each other for over 3 years now,2 closely been out a lot and she does like me (so she says) and like anyone we have had ups and downs but thats mainly because of me asking where the bloody hell i stand with her because she will not commit (she dont want to put labels on things) so she says,i have asked her to be my GF,obviously in my head i know what shes doing,keeping me on a back burner maybe ? who knows
lol,But i am growing very tired of her unusual behaviour and just not been able to commit to anything.
Why are women sooooo confusing i dont get it,Soooo quiet today via message just the whole (one or two word responses) again,
I sent her a good morning message this morning,shed seen it..never replied.
She went out for a meal with her family today (i know this as she told me yesterday she was (in person) when we went out all afternoon doing stuff, i then messaged her after dinner asking how her meal was,just got a "was okay" nothing more,then i messaged again about an hour later seen as she obviously wasn't going to reply anything further i asked what shed had,i got a simple (same as before) and again nothing...
You guys are probably thinking she dont like you/friend zone etc ,We have known each other for over 3 years now,2 closely been out a lot and she does like me (so she says) and like anyone we have had ups and downs but thats mainly because of me asking where the bloody hell i stand with her because she will not commit (she dont want to put labels on things) so she says,i have asked her to be my GF,obviously in my head i know what shes doing,keeping me on a back burner maybe ? who knows
lol,But i am growing very tired of her unusual behaviour and just not been able to commit to anything.
Did she really go out with her family?
Why are you, the man, trying to get a girl to commit to you?
Why are you sending mundane "good morning" text messages?
Why are you ******* bothering with a girl who won't be your girlfriend after several years, do you value yourself that poorly?
Go out, hit the gym, get in good shape, get yourself nice clothes, improve yourself in every possible way and find someone who values you as much as you value them. Just grind every day to be better. Stop chasing some trash girl who doesn't give a **** about you. Honestly I despair.
Yeah..... Can't really argue with that.
Focus on yourself and the females who value you will come. I learnt that lesson years ago.
Bah. I'm only 23 so its not the end of the world, plenty of time! But I am moving out soon and I struggle with living on my own, I like having company, and its depressing seeing so many friends the same age as me in committed relationships, buying houses with their partners etc.
Anyone way a hug?
23 years old and your friends are all settled down and buying houses? Are you Amish?
Simply put you've just got to put the effort in. You can try the old fashioned way of asking your friends if they've got friends who they think you'd suit. Or just go on dating websites.Hahaha, not all of them, but loads of them! Several of my good friends are married and paying mortgages or married and renting with their girlfriend/boyfriend/partner. I'm not saying thats what I want! It just exacerbates how I feel lol.
I'll have my own place and a mortgage in a few months, but I hate living on my own. I get bored/lonely/depressed, and generally go a bit stir crazy.
Simply put you've just got to put the effort in. You can try the old fashioned way of asking your friends if they've got friends who they think you'd suit. Or just go on dating websites.
It's a bit of a rule of thumb and not strictly true but, free dating websites are full of people wanting 'fun'. And paid websites usually have people looking for something serious. My advice would be to try the free ones for a while and then maybe try the paid ones if you want.
I met my gf of 9 months now on eHarmony and we're very happy, and both agreed that there were loads of time wasters on pof/match etc.
Also as for you saying 'how depressed your life is'. I was single for a long time, and you get used to it. I don't regret being single for that long because it's astonishing how much time women take up. I'm sure you know this if you had a previous relationship. Sometimes I yearn for that freedom but then I weigh up the pros and cons of both and remember it's better this way.
Good luck.
Cheers. The way I feel when on my own isn't just because of my relationship status, depression and its related feelings are things I struggle with day to day anyway and have done for as long as I can remember.
I suppose I could try dating sites and so on, but I don't really agree with them and I have always said I will never use them.
To be honest the people I hang around with and friends of friends aren't really my "type" anyway, which is probably part of the issue!
Anyone I have "met" and become friendly with and/or become interested in are people I have met via a mutual interest in cars and so on. Girl #1 I mentioned has an old BMW like mine and we used to help each other fix various issues with them, girl #2 is the step-daughter of the guy who founded the car club.
Yeah I know the feeling about friends of friends not being my type and also the apprehension with dating websites. I think we all like the idea of meeting someone like in a movie or show but it rarely happens. I just thought why not give it a go, and it took a while but the reward has been fantastic.
I suppose you could keep trying to find someone through cars, but as I'm sure you know it's a bit of a male dominated field.
Bah. I'm only 23 so its not the end of the world, plenty of time! But I am moving out soon and I struggle with living on my own, I like having company, and its depressing seeing so many friends the same age as me in committed relationships, buying houses with their partners etc.
Anyone want a hug?
23... You still haven't hit your prime!! As long as you look after yourself now, physically and mentally while you are young then I wouldn't worry about it. It will change for the better when you get older.
As for your friends settling down, im 35, my friends who had kids, mortgages, etc when we were 23. Apart from two of them, none are still together. Many didn't make to 30 before their relationship broke down. Back living with their parents because they don't know how to live on their own, only with parents or partners.
You are moving out on your own at 23, you already have the upper hand.
Yeah I should work on the looking after myself thing. I don't exercise, I don't eat well, I drink, I smoke, I suffer from mental health issues, and I am overweight.
Well you have time to fix those bad habits.
Everyone wants a decent quality partner but you won’t attract them with poor lifestyle choices.
I love females who are slim, nice size 8 to 10, that’s one reason why I go to the gym everyday to attract them whenever I’m out and about......it works!
Don't do the gym / lifestyle thing to attract women, do it if it makes you feel better about yourself, and then the women will come!