Dude I've just read your posts.
My friends wife, or ex now went to magaluf and came back with a text buddy. My then GF at the time also went on holiday and told me about her talking to a boy and going missing one night, only to be crying the next morning to her and telling her she made a mistake, yet didn't divulge into what it was. I was asked not to repeat this information to my friend as apparently nothing had happened. It killed me not to tell my friend and actually kept my promise to my GF.
Fast forward 2 months my friend caught his wife messaging someone, after being suspicious for well over a month that something was happening. The way he caught her? Ebay history she had been buying a bag to use to go visit him half way across the country. How gutted I felt for not telling my friend earlier....
Even after all of that, she denied anything had gone on on the holiday, and he still believed her. I could never bring myself to tell him I knew more about the holiday than I let on, and that she actually went missing one night and told my GF she had made a mistake the following morning.
Long story short, he gave her chance after chance but her head was in the clouds. They also had 2 kids and it was only when he kicked her out and asked for a divorce did her world come crashing down and she was back begging him for another chance.
Moral of the story - you are worthless in the eyes of your wife and she does not respect you and never will why you keep giving her chance after chance. People want what they cannot get and your wife has you on her plate - the fact she is rubbing your nose in it and you are allowing her gives her a great sense of power and satisfaction.
Ask yourself this though - Do you trust her? Will you trust her? Can you trust her?
If my partner told me those things then all trust would be out of the door and I could never forgive. You can maybe forgive but you will never forget.
My friend married his partner who cheated on him with his best mate. Whenever they are not together he is constantly wondering if shes cheating and so forth; it is not good or healthy for the brain.
I do trust her. She told me that she was upset that her head was turned as she's never felt like that before.
"They also had 2 kids and it was only when he kicked her out and asked for a divorce did her world come crashing down and she was back begging him for another chance."
This might be when im going tbh, im bored of it now. Ill give her a chance with zero reprocussions (there would be but money wise) and see what happens.