The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

Don't sweat it - I've been called emotionally autistic by a couple of exes - didn't stop me pulling incredibly hot women with just personality (I don't have good looks on my side). :p

Sometimes you're just not someone's cup of tea.
 
Hades said:
I'll be honest, no offence intended. I'm not reading a lot into that that shouts to me you really want to be with her. I asked for the positives and you gave me more things that you don't like about the relationship. It seems you do like her, but you just don't want to be alone and she's a bit of a habit?

Is that what you want for the rest of your life, especially in your peak, most useful and most enjoyable years? Or would you prefer to build an awesome life with someone who wants what you want and you really want to be with?
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I appreciate your honesty - no offence will be taken to any input. :)
I guess that's all true, cheers. It's just difficult to cut the cord with someone I've been so close with for such a long time.
 
colzboppo said:
Got an interesting weekend coming up, 2nd date tonight with a new girl I met online, she seems quite keen so far, and I quite fancy her too, but also meeting the ex tomorrow night for a "drink". It's been tough getting over the breakup, it felt really unlucky and the split was unexpected as we were quite happy together beforehand, but now that I've finally made some progress and feeling like my own man again she wants to remake plans we had made when we were together, and has asked to meet. She's been in contact occasionally for usually innocuous reasons but this time her tone is more serious, I don't really know her motivation currently but somethings up and she wants to talk. Now that I have options I feel less at the mercy of my emotions at least, I swear women are like buses.
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Oh yay, time for me to give something back after the useful advice I got last light :)

RUN THE **** AWAY

You are welcome. Nothing good will come of it, you might stir up some old feelings and start pining after her all over again and she's just angling for a smash.
I did this years ago, dated for another 9 months and it was hell. ABORT MISSION
 
valve90210 said:
Well, to day has been an odd day. Having taken the first of my antidepressants last night before I went to sleep, today I have felt very little. I've not felt any sadness or anything really. I've decided I'm going to not take anymore and hold off for a few days because actually the break up is really sad and I think it's more healthy and ultimately better for me in the long run if I sit with the difficult emotion and get through it. I don't want to be talking to my counsellor tomorrow and not feeling any of the emotion.
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My wife started antidepressants a couple of weeks ago.
The first few weeks are really tough, with a dip in mood often following the start of medication - but it does tend to improve from there.

I’ve been there, I’ve done it - if you’re feeling low, please stick out 4-6 weeks of meds to see if it helps. :)
 
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