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The Online Dating Journey

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by airrunner, 2 Dec 2020.

  1. azazl187

    Mobster

    Joined: 19 Jan 2010

    Posts: 3,167

    How shallow :D. Let's hope you don't give off that vibe too much when you talk to a girl when you are next in a pub or club hey ;)
     
  2. malachi

    Capodecina

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    Worked for the last 15+ years in pub or clubs :) but I have been with my current girlfriend for over a year so none of that......for now:D
     
  3. azazl187

    Mobster

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    Begs the question why we are both here then ;)
     
  4. malachi

    Capodecina

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    :D
     
  5. Junglist

    Sgarrista

    Joined: 11 Jun 2015

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    Location: Bristol


    Much like you two I had decent success on Tinder/Bumble and I never put my wage/job on their I did list my height at 5'11 but that was more of a joke to say I didn't meet the desired '6ft club'. I am devastatingly average in the looks department 7/10 would be generous but I like to think my personality is what gets the job done.

    I think people fail to grasp just quite how much attention even the most plain Jane looking girl gets on dating sites. If you're not making yourself stand out with your personality and quirks - you can't really then blame women for not taking an interest in yourself.

    I had flings, a few short term things and ultimately met my partner on Tinder 3 years ago and we've since bought a house together and now own a cat and a dog.

    Anyone who suggests you need to be some millionaire Adonis of a man to get anywhere through online dating is lying through their teeth.
     
  6. malachi

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    Just dont be fat.

    Women can get away with it on the dating market, men cant!
     
  7. MCFC_ANDY

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 9 Aug 2013

    Posts: 1,153

    Some women have oh so many issues and lost count number of times I've been asked for a quickie:cry: Maybe 20yrs ago:cry:
     
  8. potatolord

    Wise Guy

    Joined: 21 Jan 2010

    Posts: 1,275

    Jeez, I'm glad I'm not online dating. I'd pass the height bar with flying colours, but am poor as a church mouse.

    I met all my girlfs in the real world. I can tell you that women are just as judgemental there!
     
  9. nitram100

    Mobster

    Joined: 7 Aug 2009

    Posts: 4,732

    Location: London

    Amazing buddy, another happy tinder story :)

    With my Tinder Mrs over 5 years now! Emigrating to OZ, that'll be a challenge as the only thing we bicker about is Air Con (she doesn't like it) lol
     
  10. FishFluff

    Soldato

    Joined: 7 Nov 2003

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    Location: Scotland

    So what do you judge women on?
     
  11. Dave

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    Location: Sacramento, CA, USA

    Physical stats and ability to sling together a sentence.
     
  12. BowdonUK

    Soldato

    Joined: 17 Jan 2016

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    I don't think it works on direct online dating. But offline it works as we see overweight broke guys with girlfriends.
     
  13. BallistixOnZ490

    Wise Guy

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    Begs the question, if the kids already have a place at Cambridge, why do they need the scholarship?

    Most people make it through uni with their student loan and a part time job, I did just that.
     
  14. theone8181

    Soldato

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    But the women also tend to be overweight and broke:cry:.
     
  15. malachi

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    Yeah, I was going to say this too! It applies to both off and online.
     
  16. Tefal

    Capo Crimine

    Joined: 30 Jun 2007

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    Did you not even read the article posted earlier.

    It's the exact opposite, women tend to give little to no ****s what you look like
     
  17. BallistixOnZ490

    Wise Guy

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    What women say based on their fantasy la la brain, and what they actually do are two entirely different things.

    An opinion article doesn't magically over ride the past decade and more of figures from dating sites.

    Western society is dominated by hypergamy, people will simply believe anything that women claim, regardless of whether what they do is the the complete antithesis.

    Generally, if women don't care what a man looks like, that's because that man is rich.
     
  18. Tefal

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    By your own logic that 80% of women chase 20% of men then nearly all women are single and available.


    And the article wasn't really opinion it was about the psychology of the app makers not thw women.

    The apps are designed to make you the man a little bit crazy to pay money.


    I will say though 100% the most unattractive trait in any man is "woe is me" confidence and dynamic attitude is sexy in a man.

    The pity **** is something that doesn't exist.
     
  19. BallistixOnZ490

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    This isn't by my own logic, its based on metrics that were released by multiple dating sites on the criterias that both men and women set.

    Heres a link to such research, the twitter post provides a summary that is not apparent from directly linking the article:

    https://twitter.com/Quillette/status/1105679979256389634

    This is a well known fact when it comes to 'online dating', and has been as such since its advent.

    Women simply have it a lot easier with finding matches that they get to 'date up', not that those men will be interested in any kind of relationship with them, just 'pump and dump'.

    This then leads to the usual 'WHERE ARE ALL THE GOOD MEN?' ... oh wait, you mean the men you keep rejecting for not looking like Brad Pitt, not having a 6 figure income, and being under 6' tall?
     
  20. malachi

    Capodecina

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    Well you either accept and play the game or sit on the sidelines, grow old and die alone.

    Either way, NO BODY CARES!

    That's why I choose to play :)