Trouble fitting in at school

mrbios said:
Find someone with a common interest, sport, computers, general geekery, speak to them about it, get a proper conversation going over it then build on that (on a daily or weekly basis if need be) to the point that person calls you their friend and introduces you to his/her friends, then hang out with them regularly.
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Done this, thought I was getting somewhere, they still haven't asked me to any party or anything, (been hanging around the same few guys for several months.)

I am considered "special" by some people which does annoy me, just because I'm not the brightest bulb in the box doesn't mean you can call me special, ****wits

I think I'm just going to go back to school and tell them the truth, at least I will be honest and let it out.

Thank you all for your advice.

It has helped and maybe its one of those things that I have to accept and move on, after all I am young so a lot of life's lessons are still to be learnt.
 
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Meh, I never really fitted in with anyone at school. Sucked at the time, but now couldn't care less. Made much better mates at college, and I've now got some fantastic mates in the Army.

When I go home on leave, it's funny seeing all the guys who used to give me grief suck in dead end jobs in the same town. No hope of leaving, but no apparent desire either. Glad I didn't fit in now lol.
 
Stop trying to fit in, when you were made to stand out.
You're nearly done, and you'll move on.

I moved primary school twice and secondary school 3 times when I was younger, due to huge family problems... I'm now at university and steaming with all my buddy's!
 
Emphacy said:
Stop trying to fit in, when you were made to stand out.
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don't worry about it. get your head down and get the grades, you're primariliy there to learn and it's not that long til the summer.
 
Have you tried just asking them flat out if you can go to the next party or gathering with them?
When you get a bit older you'll realise doing this isn't actually a big deal, just find the right time and play it off lightly. If it gets you into a party who minds a bit of embarrassment? :)
I've got into several parties I've just passed down some road in Brighton by just asking and having a joke at the door.
 
Challenge the prettiest but most unpleasant cheerleader to a dance off; your team versus hers. Along the way, have some kind of on/off relationship with the cute misunderstood guy before thinking you've lost him and the competition but ... wait ... what's this?

Everything goes into slow motion as the judges prepare to give their marks ... and it looks like ... YES! ... you've done it! You're the best cheerleaders in the state! The cute guy runs to you from off stage and gives you a big hug; the defeated cheerleading team congratulate you, grudgingly at first, before realising that they have more in common with you than they first thought. Everyone is now friends, yay! BRING IT ON!

Roll credits + annoying pop song.
 
Sounds like you could try a bit harder? Or push the conversation towards their plans for the weekend and see if you can tag along etc. Or if you fancy going somewhere, like in to town, ask if they fancy coming along.

It could have course just be that you don't happen to have anything in common with them or that their social circles are quite closed. In which case I wouldn't worry you'll be out of there soon. You make so many friends at Uni it's ridiculous.
 
Brian8bit said:
Welcome to life. Where your existence is marred by periods of being around people you hate.
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This.

OP you should have gone straight to college after gcses. I hated the school environment but when I went to college it was an awesome and totally different experience.

Basically in my experience if the environment contains diversity then it is much easier to make friends from different backgrounds than it is in a mono culture environment.

I am asian and my school was predominantly asian yet I was different as I came from south asia and started straight in year8. I couldn't speak english and they wouldn't talk to me plus they already had friends from year 7. I hated it and those 4 years were the most miserable years of my teenage life :mad:.

When I went to college it was a more mature environment and had students from different cultures. It was a brilliant learning experience and made some of the best friends in college :).
 
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