Very stressed with work

It's times like these that I try to pretend that I wasn't that student who moaned about his lot, about his perceived hardship, about how 'difficult' things were or about how 'no one else gets it'.

We all get it.
 
OpenToSuggestions said:
No they don't. Plus they hav nothing to do over exam periods. Painting a pretty picture is relaxing, doing finite element analysis on a beam is not.
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When I say arts subjects, I do not mean art - I'm referring to classics, modern languages etc. and trust me they have plenty to do over exam periods. I'm not studying an art - I'm doing maths, so I'm not sticking up for my subject classification. At my University the arts based subjects' timetables are a lot more busy than mine. Besides, I'm infinitely better at PDEs and numerical approximations than I am at painting.
 
What are you going to be doing at Uni and what line of work are you aiming of going in to?

If it is a high pressure career then perhaps you should reconsider if you are struggling this much at the moment. School / College is a doddle to be honest compared with a high pressure full time job.
 
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Monkeynut said:
Bit of a spilling of the guts thread, perhaps, but here goes:

Basically I have been under a lot of stress recently, this is my second try at my exams (resat AS year) but I got a job in January, now I think this job has affected my studies, but I don't think I will fail. But even though I have repeatedly said i cannot work more than 14 hours per week, they bumped me up to 22 hours this week with no explanation and 20 hours next week. I've only just finished my exams and was looking forward to this 2 weeks off, but now I won't get that because I'm in work. I have not been out in months because every moment not in work I have been studying to try and get ok grades to get into a uni. As you can see by the post time it is about 5am, I haven't gone to sleep yet because I'm too anxious about all of this to sleep.

Parents offer no helpful advice other than "that's life" or "you can use the money to go out with your friends" but I CAN'T, because I'm in work all of the time!

I think I have some sort of social anxiety as well because I cannot switch off after work, I put on a fascade on the till to try and cover up my anxiety but am constantly worrying about my next shift and the constant "people contant" as it were.

I have a pension (left by one of my parents - when i say "parents" above i mean stepmum and my dad) which gives me easily enough money to use for occasional goings out and saving up for the future.

I feel like I am breaking down at the moment and none of my friends are in this situation so they don't know what to suggest. So I turn to the strangers at OcUK for advice.

I really want to quit work but am under so much pressure from my parents not to.

Thanks chaps for anything that might help! Sorry for the rant.
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I have highlighted some key words that might help. Only you can decide the outcome and choose what you would like as an outcome.
 
Man up and do both A levels and the job. This probably involves learning to waste less time than you do at the moment, which is bloody difficult to do.

Or quit the job. This is the attractive, easy option- but at some point you'll need to know how to work efficiently.

I took the easy option & quit the job, then got screwed pretty badly at uni because I wasted too much time and hadn't learned how to work efficiently. Doesn't seem such a good plan in hindsight.
 
I don't see the problem here - if you had to work to make ends meet then it would be another case - but just tell them you can't work more than 14 hours due to studies (not sure what contract you are on) worst they can do is let you go which might not be ideal but your parents would have to understand and you can look for somewhere else to work.

Most likely they will grumble a bit and cut your hours down - I would be suprised if its that big an issue tho as most places these days they are people begging for every hour they can get.
 
Thanks everyone. Left things a few days on this forum and spoke to my manager - she said "oh its not possible im going to find it really hard to get you this" as usual... she saw I didn't look well and later on I heard other staff saying "That B**** has increased my hours next week!" ;).

Some have said I need to "man up" and all of this, but I DO feel much better after others have had input even if it is that. :D

Im not going to reply to individual posts specifically now, or we will be doing an OcUK of going round in circles but all have been read, thought about and understood. ;)
 
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