wedding venue has cancelled our wedding.

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We've just had an email from our wedding venue saying that they will not be hosting our wedding in December as the owner is selling up. We've already planned everything and sent invites out etc, some people are coming from Thailand.

Now we have to plan the whole thing again with 5 months till our chosen date. Chances are most venues will be taken now as it's a Saturday in the middle of summer in NZ. I have not replied to the venue yet, not that there's much that will happen, Though i do intend on a strong worded letter.

/rant.
 
I'd say you should be grateful for small mercies....... at least they have contacted you, some firms might NOT have bothered. I do feel sorry for you.

If I were to get married again I'd do it in an all inclusive hotel somewhere nice and warm (out of the country) Barbados for example. Invite everyone you know with the proviso that they pay for their own flights and accommodation.

Just think of the advantages? Those people who don't like you very much won't attend, no blue rinsed aged aunts you haven't seen for years knocking down gin and tonics and falling over on the dance floor showing their knickers at your expense.

I remember that when I got married three (uninvited) members of the in-laws family turned up at the mother-in-law's place dressed to the nines, just for a chat, only to discover that there was a wedding and reception. I've never seen them since and to make it worse one of them barracked me when I tried to make my speech! Yes Barbados would have been much better.

I've seen scores of Brits getting married in Kenya (in all inclusive hotels) and if I had my way again, that's where I would have held it.
 
If I were to get married again I'd do it in an all inclusive hotel somewhere nice and warm (out of the country) Barbados for example. Invite everyone you know with the proviso that they pay for their own flights and accommodation.

I wouldn't do this. A very good and close childhood friend did this and invited me. We'd known each other for 30 years. But I'd just had children and bought a new house and money was very tight. I couldn't afford it and it caused quite a bit of friction between the two of us as he felt I should make every effort to attend while I felt that he should appreciate my position and pay part of the cost if he really wanted me there when I was broke.
 
My partner and I are just going to pop down the registry office one weekend, and not tell our families till after.
Sure fire way to avoid all the political issues, cost issues and hassle!!

Bad luck OP. Get on the phone to other venues asap, and as said above, check if the incoming owners might want to keep your business.

Did you pay for it (the venue) yet?
 
I wouldn't do this. A very good and close childhood friend did this and invited me. We'd known each other for 30 years. But I'd just had children and bought a new house and money was very tight. I couldn't afford it and it caused quite a bit of friction between the two of us as he felt I should make every effort to attend while I felt that he should appreciate my position and pay part of the cost if he really wanted me there when I was broke.

Same here, two times I had to turn down being best man to two different people because I couldn't afford to go. No bad blood after though.
One in Antigua and one in Vegas. The one in Antigua got divorced after 3 months :p and his next wedding was in Sheffield so I didn't get away with that one lol
 
I remember that when I got married three (uninvited) members of the in-laws family turned up at the mother-in-law's place dressed to the nines, just for a chat, only to discover that there was a wedding and reception. I've never seen them since and to make it worse one of them barracked me when I tried to make my speech! Yes Barbados would have been much better.

They still wouldn't have been invited if it was my wedding :D
 
don't waste your time with a strongly worded letter, find out if the new owners will be using the venue for weddings and/or speak to a NZ based solicitor
 
My partner and I are just going to pop down the registry office one weekend, and not tell our families till after.
Sure fire way to avoid all the political issues

Uh, yeah, until they discover that they weren't invited to your wedding and then you'll never hear the end of it. My mother would quite possibly murder me if I did that!

@OP: Have you paid a deposit or anything for the place?
 
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Uh, yeah, until they discover that they weren't invited to your wedding and then you'll neve hear the end of it. My mother would quite possibly murder me if I did that!

@OP: Have you paid a deposit or anything for the place?

I told my dad by postcard while I was on honeymoon. He wasn't best pleased.
 
My partner and I are just going to pop down the registry office one weekend, and not tell our families till after.
Sure fire way to avoid all the political issues, cost issues and hassle!!

In the extremely unlikely event that I decide I want to get married, this is what I'd do.

When I see what people spend on weddings it blows my mind!
 
This happened to a friend of mine last year for exactly the same reason (and also in December!). The new owners wanted to completely renovate the venue so there was no chance of making a deal with them. In the end, the bite the bullet and find a new venue.

Thankfully they found somewhere for a couple of months later and it was a great wedding.

As someone else says, do you have wedding insurance? That's the only way you're likely to get your money back for invites, etc.
 
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